Please Help

[Jgalt]

I'm getting ready to get into a relationship with a girl who was molested by her stepfather for 4 years, and then finally raped. Not only that, but she was physically abused by her mother. I want to know what I should expect. I'm not going to avoid going out with her because of this, but I want to know how I should deal with this

[myskias]

well try to treat her like shes a normal person. if she has issues with it, ask her to confront them to you about them. do not pressure her in any way shape or form whatsoever. let her make the decisions about how far you guys want to go in the relationship. and just be supportive and loving to her! she definitely needs that after what she has been through. your relationship will be great if you just be a good person in general and care for her like a loving caring boyfriend should be!

[nick]

Take things really slow and maybe wait for her to make the moves if and when she is ready. She may be quite frightened of sexual contact.

[laurita_21]

Just treat her like any other person. If she was raped by her stepfather don't try to do anything sexual or anything, you have to be patient with her. Also make sure she can trust you and that she knows you won't hurt her in any way!

[jovien]

expect alot of crying (and if she doesnt make her cry becuase build up is never gud and she needs to let it alll out) expect alot of friction becuase she will probably have to get through somethings within herself, and expect alot of anger in the family(not a lot but if their are some serius issues with her parents then them meeting a good guy will not make them happy becuases they somewhat want to live their lives through children sometimes not all cases though) overall she needs u to be solid u cannot be semi on it u need to be their full and completely or else either u will not like her anymore or it will engulf u and ur feelings for eerything else turning things upside down not reconizing it (ps i have experienced both of these and dealt with it accordingly)

[Love.Hate]

Just be there for her, she has had a hard enough time already so be extra nice,
and give her lots of love and attention. x