Anyone else live with a parent smoker? =/

[laurapple]

So, it's finally gotten to me.

I honestly think my mom is pretty selfish because of this. She smokes incessantly and doesn't even have the decency(never has) to do it outside where it won't linger -_-. You would think if she knew about second hand smoking effects she wouldn't right? But nah she knows, and she does anyway. The smell is just disgusting to breathe everyday and for it to linger on clothes and hair is even more putrid to deal with. I don't know how I've managed to deal with it before but it's getting to me again because it's becoming of the colder seasons where we don't have the AC on to purify the air in our house anymore. So far I haven't reaped of the supposed health detriments of secondhand smoke but it's just disgusting to be around it all the time.

Anyway. Enough rambling, it was good to get that out though lol. Anyone else live with a parent smoker here? I'd like to hear your situation. Do they do it elsewhere so you won't have to smell it? Or whatever is relevant to your situation you can respond with. I wish I could be asking for advice to get her to quit smoking but yeah, not likely it would work. :mad::mad:

[MhWrestler152]

Both my parents smoke. My mom and dad smoked before I was born and that is what caused me to have asthma. I still do have it. It is just disgusting how people can just kill themselves and others. My dad smokes in the car and in the house so it really bothers me. My dad has just gotten to the point where he doesn't know that hes smoking. He even wakes up a few times in the night just to smoke and he wont remember the next day. At least my mom has the decency to go outside and smoke and not smoke in the car. Yeah I know how you feel. You're not the only one.

[Syvelocin]

My mum's been a smoker for almost two decades now, but she isn't like that actually. She always makes sure to smoke outside, and before she showers, so she usually doesn't smell of it. She's extra careful since she has a seven year-old and a three year-old running around.

I started smoking, not because of peer pressure, but I got it from her. Five years. Though I know very well not to smoke inside or around people who don't tolerate it.

[counterpoint]

My mother's smoked since before I was born; she's been a regular smoker since I was about two. I've grown indifferent to it all, since I'm so used to seeing her with a pack of Marlboro Lights. I've asked her countless times to stop, but she claims it's her right to smoke and she'll do what she wants. She says she understands the risks and that one day it would kill her. Apparently her three children aren't nearly as important to her as her pack of cigarettes. She's right, it's entirely her choice, and I've given up trying to stop her.

[UnknownError]

My parents dont smoke, but I was at one of my old friends houses alot during Summer, and his mum and her boyfriend just smoked non-stop. I would hold my breath if I had to go through the
living room. Smoking is really disgusting I think.

Edit: 300th post. :)

[The Joker]

My moms boyfriend is a total assfuck about smoking. I'd rather not have him smoke in the car, where I can inhale it, but does he give a fuck? Nope. He just tells me to "Stop bitching".

[Rutherford The Brave]

Yeah, it doesn't really bother me. (Not just because I'm a smoker myself) But I understand that life is stressful and sometimes you need a break. Do I agree that its the best thing? No. However, I do understand that it is my father's house. He works hard to keep it. I shouldn't be able to tell him where to smoke, if he wants to kick a few butts in the living room then so be it. My step sister tells him to go outside and he does, so it doesn't effect me. I also smoke pot in my house so it's not a huge issue.

[laurapple]

Thank you for all your replies so far. I'm sorry to hear that some of you are in the same situation as me. I understand that it is beyond our control to a certain point because it's their choice to do what they want. But the fact that it is doing nothing beneficial for them is beyond my understanding for them to want to continue the habit.

I just wish in my case, that my mom would be able to take it elsewhere where we all wouldn't have to suffer. I can only imagine what it's like to have 2 parents with a smoking habit. =/

Yeah, it doesn't really bother me. (Not just because I'm a smoker myself) But I understand that life is stressful and sometimes you need a break. Do I agree that its the best thing? No. However, I do understand that it is my father's house. He works hard to keep it. I shouldn't be able to tell him where to smoke, if he wants to kick a few butts in the living room then so be it. My step sister tells him to go outside and he does, so it doesn't effect me. I also smoke pot in my house so it's not a huge issue.

Meh. I do notice my mom turning to cigarettes when she is stressed. But, that is just a placebo effect in their mind sort of. I have read on numerous occasions cigarettes don't relieve stress or anxiety, rather they are known for increasing them both. So that's where the placebo comes in where they think it's benefiting them in that sense when it isn't. I guess it's better than other outlets they could turn to though. I'm glad in your case it doesn't bother you though. Usually I'm fine with it because she is my mother and I have to give her a deal of understanding but sometimes the air is just unbearable, there are other people trying to live here too, lol. Ah well..

[Rutherford The Brave]

Thank you for all your replies so far. I'm sorry to hear that some of you are in the same situation as me. I understand that it is beyond our control to a certain point because it's their choice to do what they want. But the fact that it is doing nothing beneficial for them is beyond my understanding for them to want to continue the habit.

I just wish in my case, that my mom would be able to take it elsewhere where we all wouldn't have to suffer. I can only imagine what it's like to have 2 parents with a smoking habit. =/



Meh. I do notice my mom turning to cigarettes when she is stressed. But, that is just a placebo effect in their mind sort of. I have read on numerous occasions cigarettes don't relieve stress or anxiety, rather they are known for increasing them both. So that's where the placebo comes in where they think it's benefiting them in that sense when it isn't. I guess it's better than other outlets they could turn to though. I'm glad in your case it doesn't bother you though. Usually I'm fine with it because she is my mother and I have to give her a deal of understanding but sometimes the air is just unbearable, there are other people trying to live here too, lol. Ah well..

It sucks because I quit not too long ago and I dont like being around it anymore

[Clawhammer]

Neither of my parents smoke, but I just wanted to say I don't think secondhand smoke is harmful in any way, if my health teacher was correct, which she probably was.

[skinny_white_boy]

My mom and dad smoke as well as my step mom.
My mom will only smoke when she drinks and she makes sure to do it outside and she never smokes in the car or let's anyone smoke in our house/ car.
My dad and stepmom though smoke non stop. They smoke in the car and wherever.I have asthma so it literally chokes me to inhale it. It got soo bad that my mom complained to my dad and now they will smoke in their room or outside if my brother and I are with them. But they will still smoke in the car which is just horrible.

[laurapple]

Neither of my parents smoke, but I just wanted to say I don't think secondhand smoke is harmful in any way, if my health teacher was correct, which she probably was.

Interesting. I've had the same hypothesis, but it's limited to the fact that I haven't been a victim to any of the supposed serious health detriments. Can't really say if I will in the future though. Care to expand upon what your health teacher said?

[josh93]

No my parents dont smoke but my grandmouther on my dads side did and she died of lunge cancer.

[Syvelocin]

Neither of my parents smoke, but I just wanted to say I don't think secondhand smoke is harmful in any way, if my health teacher was correct, which she probably was.

It most certainly is harmful. We've already covered that in studies. Now, we study how MUCH it's actually harmful, but secondhand smoke is, in fact, harmful.

http://www.davehitt.com/facts/index.html
Browse this site a bit. It has some good sources and results of different studies.

[Quick_Sylver]

Neither of my parents smoke, but I just wanted to say I don't think secondhand smoke is harmful in any way, if my health teacher was correct, which she probably was.

Erm.. Second hand smoke is similar to smoke inhalation, which usually kills you before the fire does.

The sperm donor is a chain smoker and usually does it inside.
The womb owner smokes once in a blue moon.

[laurapple]

I see. I guess I'll be screwed for the future then, lol.

[closed]

My dad, but with time i started to recognizw the smoke as the smell of "home"

[Azunite]

Well ; before I was born my parents use to smoke.
When I was born, my dad immideatly quit smoking and my mum still smokes. She smokes in the living room, no problem, I don't get out of my room anyway, but when she comes in, the room smells like dead !

[Fact]

First of all, I'm almost positive second hand smoke damages your health, as TootsiePop said, it's similar to smoke inhalation.

Secondly, Laurapple, if you just keep asking your mother to stop, or do it elsewhere, if she has any sense then she will.

My mother had smoked from 13 - 40 and I used to tell her how disgusting she was for it. She never did it in the living room, but she did in her bedroom and in the car. I'd never smoke now because I saw how horrible it was from her doing it. Plus both her parents died from smoking related cancer (you'd think she'd stop after that, but no).

Anyway. Hopefully, if you keep asking, she will see sense and stop doing it near you or maybe even stop altogether. It can't hurt to keep asking if it's affecting you, which it clearly is.

Good luck on getting clean air! (:

[Fiction]

My dad smokes. I used to worry alot about it when i was younger but i don't really bother anymore. I don't notice the smell at all really. I suppose it's cause i lived with it all my life.

[Trevoooor]

My dad smokes alot. But, we've talked to him about it, and he goes outside to do it now. It was a pretty good idea that payed off - everyone's breathing cleaner in the house!

I'd say anyone who's having a similar problem should ask their parents to do it outside. :)

[ShatteredWings]

Neither of my parents smoke, but I just wanted to say I don't think secondhand smoke is harmful in any way, if my health teacher was correct, which she probably was.

Interesting. I've had the same hypothesis, but it's limited to the fact that I haven't been a victim to any of the supposed serious health detriments. Can't really say if I will in the future though. Care to expand upon what your health teacher said?

Secondhand smoke is no different than first hand regarding carcinogens (cancer causing).
Actually, it might be worse. First hand it's going through a filter, second hand it's not.

Also, smoke inhalation in general is bad.
Blocking airways and lungs with particulate doesn't work out too well

link1 (http://www.cancer.org/Cancer/CancerCauses/TobaccoCancer/secondhand-smoke)
Logic

[Theatheist of doom]

Lol i think you should have like a mini intervention it'd be fun and at the end you'd prolly have alot of self confidence if she reformed her habits altogether

[jovien]

my dads a pastor and doesnt smoke my mom is a smoker and i have like amazing senses (besides me seeing) and i can smell it when i try to go to be and it gets annoying

[Donkey]

Please don't bump old threads. :locked: