"Gay" friend

[geniusrocksoutloud]

So my friend came out as gay a couple of months ago but when we talk about sex and stuff he feels uncomfortable with it? he certainly doesnt show a liking to boys OR girls. Is this just for show? he certainly doesnt act or show that hes gay. And when people ask him if hes gay hell just say "yes" in a really drowny, slow and quiet voice...as in hes not proud of it. We talked dirty when he was straight and that was alright

[Scarface]

Well when you first realize that you're gay as in the situation for me. It took a lot of time for me to finally accept it and be proud of it. He's only been out to you for a few months. So he might not be completely accepting of it yet, but he knows who he is.

Try not to make a 'typical stereotype' gay people as they are not always the flamboyant gay people that want the entire world to know they're gay. As how I am. People think I'm straight unless either I tell them I'm gay or they ask me. I just don't think that making it painfully obvious that I'm gay helps me or makes a difference if I just act like I always did before I realized I was gay.

Gay people are not made they're born, so he might have been confused, but just be there for him. If he says that he's gay, than just be there for him and accept him for who he is. I mean when I first came out, I didn't sit there and comment on every good looking guy I saw, sure I looked, but I didn't have to mention it aloud or say something to my buddies. Just have his back and be supportive.

[Nicky97]

With luck, he may be able to hold his head up and talk to people he honestly respects about it in a couple of years. He has as many incorrect assumptions about you (friends/former friends) as you have about him (gays).

A real friend will help him through this. I hope that you are able to do that, he sure needs help and reassurance.

And do you really want to hear about his sex fantasies? I'm sure he is relieved that he no longer has to play straight around you.