Peer Pressure

[geniusrocksoutloud]

About a couple of days ago my "so-called" friends were having a discussion on alchohol and weed. We talked about how its effects until one of them said that he did weed for a long time and loves it. hes not addicted to it but smokes it. Then my other friend talked about how im a "goody two shoes" and how im never gonna get laid because i dont smoke, drink or do drugs. I know it is probably an obvious answer but am i really a goody two shoes? They were pressurising me so much to smoke weed or binge drink that i kicked one of them in the balls and the other one a punched in the face and sort of walked away Overreating? Probably...

[PJay]

So if they were on your case about trying to make you do it and getting really heavy about it I don't think you overreacted so much. It makes me really angry when dumb people want you to be dumb with them so they dont feel quite so dumb. Doesn't stop them being dumb lol.
So yeah , you might be better off getting a new set of actual friends, cos yours dont sound so clever.
Plus wtf has getting laid got to do with how many drugs you do? Personally i'd never go out with someone who did drugs or smoked.

[Scarface]

I like what pjay had to say there on the factor that doing drugs and drinking don't increase your chances to get laid it only increases your chances of waking up in bed with some crack whore and not even remember how you got there.

Your friends don't actually sound like friends. It doesn't really matter what they have to say, if you don't feel comfortable with doing that than you most certainly do not have to do it. If they think that name calling their 'friend' into trying things that in the end does more harm than good then I just don't see the point of having them.

I think you overreacted slightly only because I just think a simple no and walk away always works for me. There ain't no way that I'm going to let what someone tries to pressure me into doing actually make me think I can do it. If I know deep inside it's the right thing to do then I don't need to do it. Nothing anyone can say to change my mind.

You're not a good two shoes, you just are making decisions that you know are for the better, and if these 'friends' don't accept that than you should find some new friends that will.

[staying_alive]

So if they were on your case about trying to make you do it and getting really heavy about it I don't think you overreacted so much. It makes me really angry when dumb people want you to be dumb with them so they dont feel quite so dumb. Doesn't stop them being dumb lol.
So yeah , you might be better off getting a new set of actual friends, cos yours dont sound so clever.
Plus wtf has getting laid got to do with how many drugs you do? Personally i'd never go out with someone who did drugs or smoked.

I take offense at this. I smoke weed and drink alcohol because life stresses me out. Ever think that some of us are actually smarter because we learn from experience and not from what people on the TV tell us is bad? When I try to get people to do that type of stuff with me, I leave it up to them. I don't want them to try it because I "don't want to feel quite so dumb", I want them to try it so they have an experience to base their opinion off of. No one should make a decision on drugs and alcohol because someone else does or does not think they should do it. They should decide whether they like them or not after trying them. Please don't act like you're above those of us who have more stressful lives that need relieving once in a while.

On a side note, I think the "getting laid" thing that they said was pretty stupid as well.

[wtblife]

Please don't act like you're above those of us who have more stressful lives that need relieving once in a while.

Some people can handle stress really well and also there are tons of other ways to relieve stress without drugs, so don't just assume he has a less stressful life :P

[Paladino]

I take offense at this. I smoke weed and drink alcohol because life stresses me out. Ever think that some of us are actually smarter because we learn from experience and not from what people on the TV tell us is bad? When I try to get people to do that type of stuff with me, I leave it up to them. I don't want them to try it because I "don't want to feel quite so dumb", I want them to try it so they have an experience to base their opinion off of. No one should make a decision on drugs and alcohol because someone else does or does not think they should do it. They should decide whether they like them or not after trying them. Please don't act like you're above those of us who have more stressful lives that need relieving once in a while.

On a side note, I think the "getting laid" thing that they said was pretty stupid as well.

My thoughts exactly. They shouldnt keep trying to peer pressure you into doing it because if you dont want to do it peer pressure isnt going to change your mind on it. They should respect your decision.

[PJay]

Yeah I have some stress funnily enough caused by too much drink but thats another story. Sorry if my view comes over like i think i'm above anyone else, i really don't think like that. But I think smoking and doing drugs and drinking too much (as in damaging your health) is dumb, and i dont care how good you tell me it makes you feel, medical facts tell me its not a good idea, and i sure as hell would rather spend my pocket money on something healthier. I dont see why you think people need to try it to decide whether its a good idea or not, i have to live with an example of why its not so great and I've friends and ppl i know who are causing themselves lots of problems from those things, i can see it with my own eyes.
I never said you or anyone here was dumber than me by the way, i just think it is a dumb choice. Smart people do dumb things all the time.

[Apollo.]

Yeah I have some stress funnily enough caused by too much drink but thats another story. Sorry if my view comes over like i think i'm above anyone else, i really don't think like that. But I think smoking and doing drugs and drinking too much (as in damaging your health) is dumb, and i dont care how good you tell me it makes you feel, medical facts tell me its not a good idea, and i sure as hell would rather spend my pocket money on something healthier. I dont see why you think people need to try it to decide whether its a good idea or not, i have to live with an example of why its not so great and I've friends and ppl i know who are causing themselves lots of problems from those things, i can see it with my own eyes.
I never said you or anyone here was dumber than me by the way, i just think it is a dumb choice. Smart people do dumb things all the time.

Totally agree with this guy

[staying_alive]

Yeah I have some stress funnily enough caused by too much drink but thats another story. Sorry if my view comes over like i think i'm above anyone else, i really don't think like that. But I think smoking and doing drugs and drinking too much (as in damaging your health) is dumb, and i dont care how good you tell me it makes you feel, medical facts tell me its not a good idea, and i sure as hell would rather spend my pocket money on something healthier. I dont see why you think people need to try it to decide whether its a good idea or not, i have to live with an example of why its not so great and I've friends and ppl i know who are causing themselves lots of problems from those things, i can see it with my own eyes.
I never said you or anyone here was dumber than me by the way, i just think it is a dumb choice. Smart people do dumb things all the time.

I know you didn't say you were smarter than anyone else, I was referring to another poster. I believe he referred to your friends as wanting to feel "smarter" if you did it with them.

I recognize the destruction you see around you is affecting your decision. Wouldn't you consider this learning from your own experience though? Even though it isn't you feeling the effects, your experiences with others show you the negatives and that makes you not want to do them.

On the other hand, people who watch anti-drug commercials and instantly think that drugs are evil bother me. You are obviously not like that, and I respect your decision to avoid them because of your reasoning behind it.

Sorry for the confusion.

[closed]

you did great!!! you need to stand on your principles and don't let anyone pressure you to do somehting you won't like to do! if every teen was as good as you at this than our world would be much better.
few facts:
-getting laid is not connected in any way with drinkin\doing drugs! Never try to change yourself in order to make someone like you! and i would suggest to stay away from girls who use you or want their guy to smoke\drink\do drugs, because she would use you just for the adrenaline rush and then dumps you, as a drug addict, alcholic, and a smoker.
-you should beware your friends if they pressure you to do stuff like this. it hurts them and you. try to think that this friends will regret what they done later, think about what your parents would think about you if you came home smelling of alchohol and cigarretes.
-you are not overreacting. it's an extremely upseting situation when you are pressured to do something you don't want to do.
-You did great, don't ever do something just because someone told you.
-Your position is totally understandable. There is nothing wrong with that you did.

if you need anyone to talk to, feel free to p.m. me :)

[Rayquaza]

Awesome dude, just fantastic!

I agree with arches5, dont do saomething just becuz someone tells you to. Its YOUR llife. Live it on and rock your world rather than getting caught up in useless sh*t that makes you spend your money and harm you...