I Think I Like Guys...

[adakr]

For as long as I can remember I,ve been attracted to guys. I've never really wanted to kiss or date one but I've wanted to have sex with a guy before. It started as just being curious and wondering what other guys dicks look like, then as I got older it turned into me jerking off with guys and getting boners when I think about them.

Well heres the thing...I dont want to be gay! When I'm not horny I think guys are gross. I'm a Christian too so I also believe it's wrong. Don't tell me that I was born gay and that I shouldn't let religion stop me from being who I am. Because I don't believe that. I think being a homosexual is wrong (no offense to gay peole, this is just what I personally believe). So I hate these feelings and want them to go away.

I think I maybe am just confused. It's normal to be able to notice a guy is good looking and when you go through puberty, your hormones are going crazy and you can get turned on by anything sexual. Maybe I'm not actually attracted to guys, I'm just jealous of guys who I think are hot and I want to look like them, thats why I like looking at them.


I def feel more attracted to girls. When I look at a girl I can't take my eyes off of them and I I stare at their bodies and imagine making out with them. But with guys I basically just look to see how big their muscles are, see if they are good looking and I wonder how big their dicks are compared to mine. I think it's just curiosity but I'm still confused. Does anyone feel the same way as me?

[Gopher]

From the sounds of it it sound like you are just confused, you say that guys can turn on...but so can girls. so your definately not gay,youve still got a ways to go till you should start being worried but if this is you then you cant fight yourself, i understand that being christian narrows your faith but you shouldnt torture yourself because another part of you differs, find a happy copromise.

[Errr]

=O.....you just explained me ...So i would say confused. Im in the same boat as you. Your not alone.

[Harley Quinn]

:arrow: teen sexuality

[Captor K]

Well heres the thing...I dont want to be gay!

Many gay people have said the same, myself included. If you are gay, though, no matter how much you kick and scream, stamp your feet and say "No way to the gay," if it is truly a part of who you are, it's never going away. Never.

I'm a Christian too so I also believe it's wrong. Don't tell me that I was born gay and that I shouldn't let religion stop me from being who I am. Because I don't believe that. I think being a homosexual is wrong (no offense to gay peole, this is just what I personally believe). So I hate these feelings and want them to go away.

I understand this position, as well, because I faced the same dilemma for practically a decade. I thought the same things, felt the same things up until this year. I asked myself, "Why exactly is this wrong? Is it because that's what I've been told repeatedly?" Finding the answers to those questions was the hardest thing ever, but I do not regret it. And so, if I advise you that if you believe being gay is wrong because you've been told so multiple times (in context of religion), then you have every right to question it. All denominations of Christianity don't believe the same doctrines regarding homosexuality. Just because you've heard something over and over or think such-and-such doesn't necessarily make it true. Studying the Bible (not reading it) may open doors for you. Don't sit in the dark like I did and let yourself become a spiritual victim of some religious doctrines.

And again, if you are really gay, no matter how much you don't want it, those feelings will never go away. You can't pray them away. I tried that one for years. It doesn't work. Do you know why? Because being gay, just like being straight, is an attraction. You can't help who you're attracted to.

I think I maybe am just confused. It's normal to be able to notice a guy is good looking and when you go through puberty, your hormones are going crazy and you can get turned on by anything sexual.

You could be confused. But you cannot really comparing admiring physical beauty to having a sexual attraction. I see lots of stunning guys, but I don't want to bang all of them. I know a heck of a lot of gorgeous girls, and I don't want to have sex with any single one of them, even if I see them naked. Your hormones are going to be raging for pretty much most of your life as it is. You're not going to reach a particular age and all of a sudden your hormones just chill out. We get aroused by sexual stimuli that interest us in some way.

Maybe I'm not actually attracted to guys, I'm just jealous of guys who I think are hot and I want to look like them, thats why I like looking at them.

Maybe. But this sounds like deep-seated denial.

I def feel more attracted to girls. When I look at a girl I can't take my eyes off of them and I I stare at their bodies and imagine making out with them.

Imagining is one thing, doing is another. Making out and fucking are different. I can imagine myself making out with a gorgeous girl with no problem, but doing it wouldn't happen. I want to make out and fuck guys, and guys only. Here is where you be honest with yourself.

But with guys I basically just look to see how big their muscles are, see if they are good looking and I wonder how big their dicks are compared to mine.

^This is not what you stated earlier:
For as long as I can remember I,ve been attracted to guys.
I've never really wanted to kiss or date one but I've wanted to have sex with a guy before.

For as long as I can remember, I've been attracted to guys. I never really wanted to kiss or date one until I accepted I was gay.

I think it's just curiosity but I'm still confused. Does anyone feel the same way as me?

I felt the same way for years. You have established the fact that you have, or have had a sexual attraction to guys. You didn't mention girls until the last paragraph, and it almost sounded like an afterthought. I won't give you that crap about, "It's just hormones," or "puberty's a confusing period" because that doesn't explain anything to anyone, and it's a cop out for facing reality. I get the sense that you are in screaming denial about a same sex attraction, but if it's there, trying to deny it is not going to drive it away. You need to honestly and completely acknowledge it to yourself, then you can work on sorting out the rest of those feelings.

One more thing (and I apologize that this post has probably been long and boring). Ask yourself when you have some alone and free time, if you were in an open world, what kind of relationship would make you happiest? Being with a guy? Why? Being with a girl? Why?

[Nicky97]

So you believe what the Bible says about what actually defines a homosexual sin, or are you listening to your local religious/political "leaders"? I think you might be surprised at what the Bible actually says, for those who take the Bible as "the Word".