How to find out if a girl likes you?

[Daniel_]

Well, I reeaally like this girl, and I have for the past few years but I find myself in a bit of a predicament I guess you'd say. Well, I really want to ask her out, however she is a really good friend of mine, and the last thing I want is to end up asking her out but then she not being interested, then everything would just be awkward from then on..

The thing is, I can't really take my own advice because if I did just walk up to her and tell her, I don't want to lose her as a friend.

So is there any way to find out if she would be interested without her knowing that I like her? Or if SHE would ask ME out, that would be great.

[tomboysk8r1314]

Are you friends with another one of her friends? If so ask her to ask the girl you like if she fancies you. You could do that....ooorrr drop subtle hints that you like her. Eventually she will catch on and if she does like you she might ask you out or return the hints of likeness xD

Best of luck man :D

[Daniel_]

I could do that, but the problem is like.. Well, it kind of defeats the purpose. I don't want her knowing that I like her, because it would probably make things awkward between us if she doesn't like me back.

We are in like, the same group of friends, or in other words like.. If I'm friends with someone, shes probably friends with them aswell, so I could ask one of my friends to ask her but like.. Idk.

I'm more on the shy side, but I think it's mostly because shes my friend, and also if I ask another friend to ask her, knowing my friends they'd just tell her that I like her, and the last thing I want happening is her finding out from another person...

Ha, I'm so pathetic.

[tomboysk8r1314]

Haha dont say your pathetic..you do have a point :P

Well...you could play a round of truth with her or something and ask her if she'd rather date you or the hottest guy in school...maybe? Haha im just spitballing here

[User Name]

Haha dont say your pathetic..you do have a point :P

Well...you could play a round of truth with her or something and ask her if she'd rather date you or the hottest guy in school...maybe? Haha im just spitballing here

+1 to this idea. If she says you then you ask her out, if not, you try the 2nd hottest guy in school :P

[Daniel_]

Alright I really need some more advice..

Well I recently learned that her new puppy, Bailey, got tangled up in her backyard fence and was strangled to death.. It's extremely upsetting, I can't imagine how she feels.. It's like losing a loved one..

Anyway I sent her a text message and it says "hey i heard bout bailey, im really sorry. it must be terrible, i hope you feel better" and she replied "yeah, im alright i guess".

Well, I want to help her feel better but I don't want to seem like a creeper or offend her in any way.. I just want to be there for her.

Any suggestions?

[Syvelocin]

Comforting a girl usually won't come out creepy unless you show up at her doorstep at midnight XD. Most everything you might say to cheer her up over text probably wouldn't be seen as creepy behavior. Offending her is more likely, but I can't come up with many ways you could offend her.

Also, just wanted to add to the before question. Get a friend of yours, preferably a girl, to say that you two would make a cute couple. I've had friends do this for me a number of times.

[Jhon]

You just have to ask her

[Wolfy B]

I actually have personal experience with this exact situation so I'm going to try to help you out the best I can. As for figuring out if you like her maybe try and be a little bold and do something you think she would find annoying if most other people did but didn't mind if you did. I would suspect her to like you if she was nicer to you than almost anyone else. Also maybe you could offer to take her out to the movies to clear her head about Bailey or take her to a public event/party if you want to be more subtle. When it comes down to it you might just have to tell her and hope for the best. In my situation me and her started flirting very subtly and then out of nowhere she asked me if I liked her as more than a friend. Although I won't sugar coat it, there is a real possibility that if she doesn't like you or you break up shortly after getting together (which happens a lot in high school) that the friendship may be ruined. But you have to decide whether to go for it or live the rest of your life wondering what could have happened.

[electricfeel]

You hve to give her some hints, I'd say don't make It too obvious though. Like just be a little more flirtacious. If you don't over do it, you can always say your just being friendly. ^_^

[Daniel_]

I actually have personal experience with this exact situation so I'm going to try to help you out the best I can. As for figuring out if you like her maybe try and be a little bold and do something you think she would find annoying if most other people did but didn't mind if you did. I would suspect her to like you if she was nicer to you than almost anyone else. Also maybe you could offer to take her out to the movies to clear her head about Bailey or take her to a public event/party if you want to be more subtle. When it comes down to it you might just have to tell her and hope for the best. In my situation me and her started flirting very subtly and then out of nowhere she asked me if I liked her as more than a friend. Although I won't sugar coat it, there is a real possibility that if she doesn't like you or you break up shortly after getting together (which happens a lot in high school) that the friendship may be ruined. But you have to decide whether to go for it or live the rest of your life wondering what could have happened.


Yeah, I know exactly what you mean, and it's really gotta suck wondering.. But it sucks more ruining a friendship.

Anyway, this friday her, along with me and a whole bunch of other friends are heading over to Erebus and i think i'll try and hang out with her as much as possible then. Also I think we will be car pooling in the same car so I'm looking forward to that =)

[Wolfy B]

Yeah, I know exactly what you mean, and it's really gotta suck wondering.. But it sucks more ruining a friendship.

Anyway, this friday her, along with me and a whole bunch of other friends are heading over to Erebus and i think i'll try and hang out with her as much as possible then. Also I think we will be car pooling in the same car so I'm looking forward to that =)

Good luck man, you're gonna need it ;) These kind of situations are not fun but if it turns out for the best then it will be worth it.

[Daniel_]

Anyway, this friday her, along with me and a whole bunch of other friends are heading over to Erebus and i think i'll try and hang out with her as much as possible then. Also I think we will be car pooling in the same car so I'm looking forward to that =)

This went amazing. I made her laugh and i felt like a fucking king.=)

[KodieBear]

ask her friends!! dont ask her out until your positive she likes you at least a little. i lost a friend by asking her out and yea, we dated but for like 2 weeks because she "didnt want to upset me by saying she didnt like me."

[emricwars]

Hey I have the same problem except we got to go to a amusement park but tje bad thing is that I am moving somplace across the country and might move back next year

[what guy]

ask her on a date '' as a friend '' and if she enjoys the date, ask if she wants to have a more serious relationship with you

[Cjg1075]

flirt with her see if she flirts back that's how i got my first GF

[kyle95]

Keep it simple mate, you're bound to see her by herself, when you do, ask her if she'd like to join you for a snack somewhere. If she's happy with that, she'll trust you and enjoy your company and with luck she'll develop feeling for you. Don't lay a heavy on her, give her space to breathe but if you must send her a signal, it ought to be that you're ONE of the many decent guys she should consider; girls don't like to be cornered.

[emricwars]

She ended up asking who I like and said her and she thought it was sweet but she would rather be friends and likes other people who she doesn't even know as much as me so yeah...

[Cjg1075]

She ended up asking who I like and said her and she thought it was sweet but she would rather be friends and likes other people who she doesn't even know as much as me so yeah...
damn man im sorry

[laurita_21]

This went amazing. I made her laugh and i felt like a fucking king.=)

WOOHOO! lol
Keep making her laugh but get more flirty and see what her reaction is.
aww good luck :D