First time?

[Kaycie]

I lost my virginity to my bf last night. We were fooling around like normal and just decided we were ready n it was time. He was not a virgin before this though. It was amazing!

I have always been told the first time will hurt badly, but it didn't hurt at all. Is that normal? (not complaining lol)

[Harley Quinn]

Usually it doesn't hurt, depends on the actual body and how well it responds to things being put in it :P. I don't think that it's weird, so I can't say it's not normal. Being a virgin myself, I wouldn't know if its gonna hurt or not, some people are different, so that means they may not bleed, they may not hurt, stuff like that

[Fiction]

You may already have broken your hymen, which means you are not breaking any skin and it will hurt alot less.
Also it depends on his size and also how turned on you are as more natural lubricant will make it hurt less.
Therefore it is not unusual.
Feel free to pm me with any questions :)

[Jenna.]

My first time didn't hurt either. It was great and my boyfriend really took his time making sure everything was okay for me. (: I honestly expected it to hurt but I'm glad it didn't. My friend said her first time hurt though, but she also did it with a guy who kind of used her and didn't really care what happened. So that probably has a lot to do with it. It helps having a gentle, careful boyfriend who actually cares.

[Kaycie]

My first time didn't hurt either. (: I honestly expected it to hurt but I'm glad it didn't. My friend said her first time hurt though, but she also did it with a guy who kind of used her and didn't really care what happened. So that probably has a lot to do with it. It helps having a gentle, careful boyfriend who actually cares.

Ya...I was definitely "ready" for him to enter lol. He's a decent size too I think. I'm glad it didn't hurt. It did feel strange though at first because I ve never had sex before, obviously.

[emt.Cam]

Glad you "listened" to your mind and body hun. Sounds like you were ready mentally and physically for a unforgettable experience. Many of the suggestions here are absolutely true and having the caring relationship that you seem to have helps a lot with something as big as this. As long as it felt right to you both, then I'm sure it was a great experience for your relationship because making love is something truly special and indescribable to share.

[prettyprincess]

thats lucky my first time hurt... i think cuz i was nervous

[DeEnd]

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[astro]

Well... I don't know about the first thing but aren't you a bit young to have sex? I mean where I come from you have to be at least 15 years to have sex but I don't know about the US?

[Clawhammer]

13 is awfully young lass. You're still not even close to adulthood, my advice before this would have been wait. Sex isn't just enjoyment, it's how kids are made. A simple mistake this early in life could land you in an unpleasant situation. At least if you're sixteen or so, you could take care of the situation more maturely and properly. I personally will not have sex til marriage, but if other people wanna screw up their lives, be my guest.

[Kaycie]

Well... I don't know about the first thing but aren't you a bit young to have sex? I mean where I come from you have to be at least 15 years to have sex but I don't know about the US?

It's not illegal to have sex unless you're over a certain age having sex with a person under a certain age.

13 is awfully young lass. You're still not even close to adulthood, my advice before this would have been wait. Sex isn't just enjoyment, it's how kids are made. A simple mistake this early in life could land you in an unpleasant situation. At least if you're sixteen or so, you could take care of the situation more maturely and properly. I personally will not have sex til marriage, but if other people wanna screw up their lives, be my guest.

Glad its my choice and not yours. :)
please dont double post, use the edit button. Thanks, Kryptonite

[astro]

Did you use any birth control like condoms or p-pills? I think you should take our advise pretty serious because you know what can possibly happen!

[Kaycie]

Did you use any birth control like condoms or p-pills? I think you should take our advise pretty serious because you know what can possibly happen!

Yes, condoms every time

[suicidenote.]

i'm a virgin (: lol
but i am afraid of it hurting

[fudgebabe]

i'm a virgin (: lol
but i am afraid of it hurting

same

[fudgebabe]

yeah, you are kinda young to have sex.

[Kaycie]

yeah, you are kinda young to have sex.

Yeah, didn't ask about my age. But thanks for chirping in.

[kelly820]

I didnt hurt my first time... it was actually quite enjoyable!

[harjob]

It is not always that hurts.

[Rex99]

Glad you had fun. for me personally, I want to wait until i'm at least 18. That sounds like a well rounded off number. My parents would kill me if they found out i was doing it earlier than 18.

[nicole97]

Wow, believe it or not I also just lost my virginity (a few days ago), but mine kind of hurt, and I bled a little, but it didn't really effect me too much. Also like you I was totally ready (we've been together 7 months)

[obknobe]

It is sooooooo interesting hearing people tell you what you should have done and what you should not have done. You decided to do it, did it and enjoyed it. What anyone else thinks of you is none of your business. IGNORE them!

[Fiction]

Your actually really lucky it didn't hurt. It still hurts sometimes for me -_- Sometimes more than it did the first so no gurantee it won't hurt next time.

[Kaycie]

Your actually really lucky it didn't hurt. It still hurts sometimes for me -_- Sometimes more than it did the first so no gurantee it won't hurt next time.

Having sex hasn't hurt at all...a little uncomfortable once because I think he might have gone in too deep. But great so far :)

[DoomMaster]

I don't get why it matter whether she's 13, I mean if they both love and care about each other, then it's okay. That's how I am, I'm 19 and still a virgin, and I've had like 2 chances to lose it but I didn't cause I just felt it wasn't right, first chance was at 14 with a girl I wasn't going out,just talking to and what not and we only knew each other for a few weeks and I felt it wasn't right cause we were going out and things were going too fast, of course she didn't feel the same and left me and the second chance was at 17 with a girlfriend but she cared nothing for me, sure we fooled around a lot but she was just not the one. The point is, if they care about each other and felt it's right, who are we to judge? Were all different and think differently.

[snj3403]

theres no sex greater than that shared with someone you love with your entire heart.
sadly, im not a virgin anymore. but i have learned that the more feelings that you have for someone, the more enjoyable it is. therefore, i am celibate until i get married one day :) trust me. you girls will grow up and learn this for yourselves. and its not likely that you and your boyfriends will stay together, just to be honest. especially at such a young age. i dont encourage sex before marriage WHATSOEVER. im 17 and know SOOOO many girls my age getting pregnant..girls that i was friends with and had bright futures ahead of them. theyre lives are over unless they decide to place their responsibility on someone else. be safe.

[nicole97]

I don't get why it matter whether she's 13, I mean if they both love and care about each other, then it's okay. That's how I am, I'm 19 and still a virgin, and I've had like 2 chances to lose it but I didn't cause I just felt it wasn't right, first chance was at 14 with a girl I wasn't going out,just talking to and what not and we only knew each other for a few weeks and I felt it wasn't right cause we were going out and things were going too fast, of course she didn't feel the same and left me and the second chance was at 17 with a girlfriend but she cared nothing for me, sure we fooled around a lot but she was just not the one. The point is, if they care about each other and felt it's right, who are we to judge? Were all different and think differently.

That's good, I just kinda might over-explain myself and tell people "not to get the wrong idea" because alot of people automatically label people my age are all slutty. However I was totally ready with my BF (we'd been together 7 months and I can confidently say that we're far more prepared than two older teens who have sex for the first time.

[what guy]

you have to be careful though, because if ANYBODY finds out, youll be in trouble at the least.

[emt.Cam]

you have to be careful though, because if ANYBODY finds out, youll be in trouble at the least.
I honestly don't think you know what you're talking about. She can't get in trouble so please don't say anything.

[Cjg1075]

I honestly don't think you know what you're talking about. She can't get in trouble so please don't say anything.
in Utah she's not even a minor her boy friend even though hes the same age can be charged with rape
Source:http://www.ageofconsent.com/utah.htm sorry for butting in

[AnzotheBananzo]

Hey! I'm only 14 and I live in the UK. So here, it's illegal until we're 16. Please don't kill me, but I do think you were too young. However, it's your choice and you have a loving boyfriend. This makes it better, I think. I know I said you were too young, but nobody can stop you doing it if you think you're ready. The law is sometimes stupid! I mean, in some random country the age of consent is 9! Luckily you were ready physically and mentally and I respect you for being mature about it all :-)
Perhaps I'm being biased, because I'm 14 and I'm definitely not ready! But you might be more mature than me. You sound it, anyway! You don't look like a slag or anything, you look kind and sweet. Which is good, because it means you'll go about things the right way. :-)
OK, I'm waffling now. Back to the point...
I've heard it doesn't always hurt. I think it will for me. :(
I say this because I've tried... masturbating... and that hurt. Quite a bit :(
But hopefully I can break my hymen beforehand, eh?
OK bye now, keep up the mature-ness ;-) x

[Kaycie]

Ok...let's be clear. I did NOT ask anyone's opinion on my age. I get it, you disapprove, so what? This forum is crazy. If you're gay, people come out of the woods to tell you to go get laid...stick I wherever you want.

But if you're a straight girl who has sex, your evil. Whatever.

[nicole97]

Ok...let's be clear. I did NOT ask anyone's opinion on my age. I get it, you disapprove, so what? This forum is crazy. If you're gay, people come out of the woods to tell you to go get laid...stick I wherever you want.

But if you're a straight girl who has sex, your evil. Whatever.

Agreed, plus the forum's description has "girls only" though that doesn't really seem to be punished. Anyway though I agree, i'd rather be 13 and prepared and close, rather than 16 and having to happen to fast.

[allyclaire]

My first time didn't hurt. I was 13. I don't regret it. Echoing everything Kaycie and Nicole have said.

And with what Kaycie said, there's this whole idea that you have to encourage gays (especially gay boys) to be "out, loud, & proud." Ran into that so many times at school. I'm bi (slightly more to the het side) and I was on the GSA at my old school, but I don't think you're any better equipped to decide whether or not to have sex just because you're queer. I think its a political thing, ppl want to support gays so they get away with more.

Yeah, I'm gonna get killed on this, but still...

[Harley Quinn]

Agreed, plus the forum's description has "girls only" though that doesn't really seem to be punished. Anyway though I agree, i'd rather be 13 and prepared and close, rather than 16 and having to happen to fast.

because boys can post, but they can't ask questions. they have to ask them in general, and dont worry i've been looking so if there is a problem I will deal with it. :-)

[Aceso]

Please forgive me if I am wrong, but I think that not only is it young to have sex, it is illegal to have underage intercourse. Even if one of you is older and the other is younger, I think it is classed as statutory rape.
Just so you know...

[Kaycie]

Please forgive me if I am wrong, but I think that not only is it young to have sex, it is illegal to have underage intercourse. Even if one of you is older and the other is younger, I think it is classed as statutory rape.
Just so you know...

Yeah. You are wrong. It's not illegal for two underage people to have sex with each other. It's illegal for a person OVER the age of "majority" whatever it is where you live to have sex with someone underage.

And I didn't ask your opinion on my age. Thanks for playing.

[Harley Quinn]

You didn't ask for peoples opinion but they are entitled to it. You'll just have to deal with people doing it, it's going to happen - you're posting threads about having sex when your 13, even I would comment on that, but I won't.

And it's if a minor has sex with someone over the age of consent - 16 in most countries I believe.

[Aceso]

Yeah. You are wrong. It's not illegal for two underage people to have sex with each other. It's illegal for a person OVER the age of "majority" whatever it is where you live to have sex with someone underage.

And I didn't ask your opinion on my age. Thanks for playing.


Thats why I said I might be wrong, because I wasn't sure. But there is no need to be rude ;)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_of_consent

Hey! I'm only 14 and I live in the UK. So here, it's illegal until we're 16. Please don't kill me, but I do think you were too young. However, it's your choice and you have a loving boyfriend. This makes it better, I think. I know I said you were too young, but nobody can stop you doing it if you think you're ready. The law is sometimes stupid! I mean, in some random country the age of consent is 9! Luckily you were ready physically and mentally and I respect you for being mature about it all :-)
Perhaps I'm being biased, because I'm 14 and I'm definitely not ready! But you might be more mature than me. You sound it, anyway! You don't look like a slag or anything, you look kind and sweet. Which is good, because it means you'll go about things the right way. :-)
OK, I'm waffling now. Back to the point...
I've heard it doesn't always hurt. I think it will for me. :(
I say this because I've tried... masturbating... and that hurt. Quite a bit :(
But hopefully I can break my hymen beforehand, eh?
OK bye now, keep up the mature-ness ;-) x

I agree :)
I'm from england too, thats why I made the mistake :)
please don't double post, use the edit button in future - Kryptonite

[obknobe]

I just love how people judge other people and tell them they are doing something horrible and ruining their lives -- JUDGE NOT LEST YOU BE JUDGED PEOPLE!! Kaycie is a friend of mine (no I'm not the boy) and I know she is awesomely cool and doing exactly the right thing for her. I think its cool that everything worked out so well and that they are happy together and in their relationship. Live you life and let the rest of us live ours.

[brennaluvv]

Glad its my choice and not yours. :)

Okay, since I'm only a year older than you, you could say I'm wrong and I don't know anything, I'm stupid, whatever you want to say, but I think that you're going to regret your choice about sex.

Losing your virginity is like getting a first kiss, the longer you wait, the more special it is. Not to mention, many, many people don't even marry their HIGH SCHOOL sweethearts, and you're in middle school, am I right? I'm just saying maybe you should have waited longer to have sex with someone who is truly special to you, someone you know your relationship with is never going to end no matter what.

My dad told me that when he was my age, he had sex with a girl and he really regrets it now and he wished he would have waited for my mom to come along because his first time would have been so much more special with her than with some girl from his past that he thought he loved.

Anyways, it's your choice, I hope you made the right one, and if not, I hope you can live with the consequences.

[Fact]

Okay, since I'm only a year older than you, you could say I'm wrong and I don't know anything, I'm stupid, whatever you want to say, but I think that you're going to regret your choice about sex.

Losing your virginity is like getting a first kiss, the longer you wait, the more special it is. Not to mention, many, many people don't even marry their HIGH SCHOOL sweethearts, and you're in middle school, am I right? I'm just saying maybe you should have waited longer to have sex with someone who is truly special to you, someone you know your relationship with is never going to end no matter what.

My dad told me that when he was my age, he had sex with a girl and he really regrets it now and he wished he would have waited for my mom to come along because his first time would have been so much more special with her than with some girl from his past that he thought he loved.

Anyways, it's your choice, I hope you made the right one, and if not, I hope you can live with the consequences.

Exactly this.

[just-another-guy]

i agree with this one. im 17 and sometimes i feel behind because it seems like most of my frined have had sex or have gone almost all the way with someone but most of them end up breaking up or what ever. i want it to be sepcial and i want it to be the best ever so i am waiting. But i am not you and you do what you feel is right it is your life and that is the best part :yes:
Okay, since I'm only a year older than you, you could say I'm wrong and I don't know anything, I'm stupid, whatever you want to say, but I think that you're going to regret your choice about sex.

Losing your virginity is like getting a first kiss, the longer you wait, the more special it is. Not to mention, many, many people don't even marry their HIGH SCHOOL sweethearts, and you're in middle school, am I right? I'm just saying maybe you should have waited longer to have sex with someone who is truly special to you, someone you know your relationship with is never going to end no matter what.

My dad told me that when he was my age, he had sex with a girl and he really regrets it now and he wished he would have waited for my mom to come along because his first time would have been so much more special with her than with some girl from his past that he thought he loved.

Anyways, it's your choice, I hope you made the right one, and if not, I hope you can live with the consequences.

[ipod444]

yeah, you are kinda young to have sex.

theres no set age where you are ready, i was the same age, it all depends on if your ready and if the person your with is ready, mentaly and physically.

[kentucky girl]

Everyone needs to just leave the age thing alone. She didn't ask for permission from anyone on here to have sex. She was just asking about it not hurting. I am glad that it didn't hurt her so all she has is good memories of it. I was the same age as she is and I don't regret it at all.

[Fact]

Everyone needs to just leave the age thing alone. She didn't ask for permission from anyone on here to have sex. She was just asking about it not hurting. I am glad that it didn't hurt her so all she has is good memories of it. I was the same age as she is and I don't regret it at all.

How old are you now, though?



400th post :D

[Jonathan M]

Agreed, plus the forum's description has "girls only" though that doesn't really seem to be punished. Anyway though I agree, i'd rather be 13 and prepared and close, rather than 16 and having to happen to fast.

Actually by girls only it means only girls can post threads, boys are allowed for there own opinion and insight, just letting you know it's a common misconception. And I completely agree you said nothing of your age it shouldn't of even been brought up. As long as you and your boyfriend care for each other I think it's completely fine and congratulations =D

[coeur de lapin]

My first time didn't hurt either. It was great and my boyfriend really took his time making sure everything was okay for me. (: I honestly expected it to hurt but I'm glad it didn't. My friend said her first time hurt though, but she also did it with a guy who kind of used her and didn't really care what happened. So that probably has a lot to do with it. It helps having a gentle, careful boyfriend who actually cares.

This!

Mine didn't hurt at all. In fact I was kind of disappointed because I felt like I missed out on a 'first time' haha. But that was just silly, it was amazing though.

[johnnysbigday]

All animals on Earth attempt to have sex immediately after puberty. Humans usually aren't and shouldn't be any exception.

In fact around 90 percent of everyone on the planet has sex before 18, so why exactly is there a law against it if the majority of people break it?

Sex is an important part of being in a relationship with someone for an extended period of time. It would be extremely foolish to save yourself for marriage because, honestly, guys don't really care if you're a virgin or not. And if you don't have any experience, how good can you really be anyways?

[Fact]

All animals on Earth attempt to have sex immediately after puberty. Humans usually aren't and shouldn't be any exception.

In fact around 90 percent of everyone on the planet has sex before 18, so why exactly is there a law against it if the majority of people break it?

Sex is an important part of being in a relationship with someone for an extended period of time. It would be extremely foolish to save yourself for marriage because, honestly, guys don't really care if you're a virgin or not. And if you don't have any experience, how good can you really be anyways?

My boyfriend cares if I'm a virgin or not... As would many other guys who didn't want to get STIs etc.
Knowledge of your partner's sexual history is important.

Also, experience doesn't make someone good. You can sleep with 50 guys and still be crap at making someone feel good, same as you can have never had sex before and be amazing at it.

Also, I think you'll find that there are many good reasons for laws that restrict age of consent e.g. paedophiles, rapists, child molesters etc.etc.

Think before you speak?

Edit: You just compared human's sexual behaviour to that of an animal's. Whether you're Religious or believe in evolution, I think it's fair to say there's not a whole lot of comparison to be made?

[johnnysbigday]

An age law isn't going to stop a rapist. He's a rapist; he's going to do it regardless.

And most young girls are smart enough not to hang out with rapist or older guys that are complete jerks.

[Fact]

An age law isn't going to stop a rapist. He's a rapist; he's going to do it regardless.

And most young girls are smart enough not to hang out with rapist or older guys that are complete jerks.

Young girls don't have to hang out with rapists in order to get raped.

[Harley Quinn]

An age law isn't going to stop a rapist. He's a rapist; he's going to do it regardless.

And most young girls are smart enough not to hang out with rapist or older guys that are complete jerks.

Most young girls aren't expecting to be raped though, are they?

[AutumnDae]

I don't know why people are bashing her! She just asked if it was normal for her to not feel pain her first time.

I'm glad it was such a positive experience for you. :) If I was in your situation, personally I would have waited, but if you think that was the right choice, then good job. :)

[johnnysbigday]

Young girls don't have to hang out with rapists in order to get raped.

Most young girls aren't expecting to be raped though, are they?

Exactly. Neither are older women. So why even bring it up?

[Fact]

So why even bring it up?

Because you made a statement which I believe was wrong, so I corrected you with examples.
That's why.

[gothamgirl]

just remember condoms are risk reducers not risk removers

[ipod444]

when did this post turn into an argument on rape?

[Bath]

I lost my virginity when I was 14 to a guy I didn't love, 2 months after we started going out. 10 days later, he broke up with me saying he couldn't see me the same way again. I thought an asshole of him until I realized sex changes everything in a relationship and we both just weren't ready, and I talked to him about it and we're on good terms now.

[Tarabats93]

My boyfriend cares if I'm a virgin or not... As would many other guys who didn't want to get STIs etc.
Knowledge of your partner's sexual history is important.

Also, experience doesn't make someone good. You can sleep with 50 guys and still be crap at making someone feel good, same as you can have never had sex before and be amazing at it.

Also, I think you'll find that there are many good reasons for laws that restrict age of consent e.g. paedophiles, rapists, child molesters etc.etc.

Think before you speak?

Edit: You just compared human's sexual behaviour to that of an animal's. Whether you're Religious or believe in evolution, I think it's fair to say there's not a whole lot of comparison to be made?

Humans are part of the animal kingdom. Darwinian evolution by natural selection isn't a belief, it's a scientific process. Almost any sexual practice found in humans can be found in other animals.

ANYWAYS, I lost it at 13 as well and "it" didn't hurt but my thighs did...a lot.

[Greeney]

I just lost my virginity this past weekend. Unlike yours, it hurt quite a bit. I don't think I regret it. He and I are pretty good friends, though we don't see each other much anymore bc he's in high school and I'm in 8th grade.

I just feel like things are going to get weird. We have not texted or talked since then.

Should I wait for him to call me or should I call him?

[johnnysbigday]

You should call him. If he doesn't talk back then he's a jerk.

[Katiiee1]

Well... I don't know about the first thing but aren't you a bit young to have sex? I mean where I come from you have to be at least 15 years to have sex but I don't know about the US?

Yeahh,i gotta agree with you on that.

I just lost my virginity this past weekend. Unlike yours, it hurt quite a bit. I don't think I regret it. He and I are pretty good friends, though we don't see each other much anymore bc he's in high school and I'm in 8th grade.

I just feel like things are going to get weird. We have not texted or talked since then.

Should I wait for him to call me or should I call him?

Hes pretty much useing you for sex.
I would call him.=]

Please don't double post, if you have anything to add use the edit button. - Kryptonite

[danika13]

I was raped when i was 8 yrs old and now i am so scared that it will hurt a lot because it hurt really bad then maybe some day i will be ready again but till then i will just masterbate.

[sophiebeachgirl]

I think he is one of the luckiest guys ever because your very pretty

[harjob]

He is using you. Call/ text him.

[babyhottie]

it hurts soo bad i started cryin from the pain ;C

[Weeping]

My first time didn't hurt either. It was great and my boyfriend really took his time making sure everything was okay for me. (: I honestly expected it to hurt but I'm glad it didn't.

This, but my first time hurt a bit anyways, but that was just for two seconds,
but oh well, I was bleeding a little at my first time too, so it was probably just
because it broke. (:

Honestly I thought it would be a total pain in the ass for me, haha.

And well, I did it with the love of my life, and he really cares about me.
So we took it slow and carefully. (:

:hug:

[Ladean]

My first time didn't hurt. I get really wet and the guy wasn't huge.

[Quick_Sylver]

Please do not bump old threads.

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