The pain of rejection

[justalovestruckteen]

So theres this boy in class, who has been flirting with me. (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=83846) I dropped a few hints (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=84495) , and in this last one I found out something.

He knows I like him.

Well I think he does.

Last week Thursday in class, I planed out a way to get though to his head I'm interested. We had to do a time-lines, with symbols. I picked a heart symbol as one of my symbols. When He wanted to see it, maybe to copy from it, A plan formed in my head and I decided to add his initials into the hearts.

I showed it to him and said "Look into the hearts" I than quickly faced away cause I fear rejection.

After a few moments he began to speak. I quickly turn back to face him. He smiled and said "Yeah, I can tell" as he handed my time-line back.

and he said more stuff on he knows about my feelings for him...

Ugg rejection...

Although, One of my friends say that its not rejection cause he didn't say he didn't like me, but he didn't say he liked me either...

so REJECTION!

This week our friendship was still good, it was as if nothing happen between us. He didn't act avoidant, so he's ok with my feelings for him.


No one except my close friends knew about my feelings for him, which is good he didn't spread it out. No one is teasing me about it. (I have a bad reputation at school, plus whenever I like someone and they know about it, they keep pestering me to do bad stuff.good thing they don't know)

I cant help but wonder if he has feelings for me too...

although he did reject me, maybe he didn't?

[Billy15]

Hey, you have more balls then I do because I would never have the nerve to add initials like that to those hearts and put my own heart on the line (afraid or rejection lol) so I admire your guts 4 real.

We both know that admitting to yourself that your gay or bi is extreamly hard to do, especially in school where we can become the butt of everyones cruel jokes, so maybe he does also like you, maybe he is also afraid to lose his cover, to be rejected, to be hasseled by his friends if they ever found out, so why not ask him if he'd like to do something after school (even shoot hoops) anything to be alone where you could be yourself and maybe (if he does have feelings) he could also be himself without the fear of everybody else finding out.

[Daniel_]

Alright... I read both of your posts and I'm just gonna come out and say it.

Stop fucking with his mind.

Trust me, I'm a guy, I know. If a girl liked me, I wouldn't want her throwing all these "hints" everywhere, just walk up to him and say "I like you, will you go out with me?".

Sounds crazy, I know, but it works, and any other guy here will tell you that.

[shottosh]

Alright... I read both of your posts and I'm just gonna come out and say it.

Stop fucking with his mind.

Trust me, I'm a guy, I know. If a girl liked me, I wouldn't want her throwing all these "hints" everywhere, just walk up to him and say "I like you, will you go out with me?".

Sounds crazy, I know, but it works, and any other guy here will tell you that.

A little bit of harsh wording , but I agree.

[Daniel_]

A little bit of harsh wording , but I agree.

I didn't think it sounded harsh.. If it did, sorry though, I was just trying to get a point across.

[justalovestruckteen]

Hey, you have more balls then I do


I beg to differ, but I don't think I do, lol.

Thanks for the compliment though, lol.

Anyways, he knows, and maybe you're right. I think I should straight out and ask him.

Thanks for the advice.

[Chris_Likes_Drums]

That way you'll know, even if he doesn't like you it'll stop any uncertainty. maybe dont pressure him too much, poss give him a night to sleep on it? not sure if thet could help you or now. but straight up is always good, face to face and alone would make it easier for you, if you dont think you can say it, write it down and just give it to him to read. Might help if you get all nervous

Good Luck :)

[justalovestruckteen]

I think by song is a great way to ask, I already have it plan out.

[Daniel_]

Just tell him... Good god, it doesn't need to be this complicated piece of art.

[Jhon]

You can't play mind games with guys we just want you to come clean besides what's the worst that can happen

[jovien]

i think that meant that he was like umm i like u too but i will never tell u ill keep my front up till schools out then mabey if no one knew we could do it

[jovien]

You can't play mind games with guys we just want you to come clean besides what's the worst that can happen

omg right i hate when people do that it usually blows up in thier face and im glad for that

[jovien]

Alright... I read both of your posts and I'm just gonna come out and say it.

Stop fucking with his mind.

Trust me, I'm a guy, I know. If a girl liked me, I wouldn't want her throwing all these "hints" everywhere, just walk up to him and say "I like you, will you go out with me?".

Sounds crazy, I know, but it works, and any other guy here will tell you that.

dont agree idk i have never done that but i dont think that would make the other guy feel like saying his mind just the natural responce consider it then not say anything

[Daniel_]

Dude.. You just ahhh never mind.

Anyway, I don't understand you. You agree that girls shouldn't play mind games, yet disagree that they should come straight out with a guy?

Well anyway, we all have our opinions I guess, but it sounds like your more or less trying to play both sides.

[justalovestruckteen]

Thanks everyone.

What I don't get is, why ask him?

He already knows I like him, and he didn't say it back(although he didn't say no either). Isn't asking him pushing it?

[Daniel_]

Thanks everyone.

What I don't get is, why ask him?

He already knows I like him, and he didn't say it back(although he didn't say no either). Isn't asking him pushing it?

Not really... If he doesn't have the balls to ask you out, do it for him.