Effects of absent fathers on boys

[ShyGuyInChicago]

Do you think that a woman can raise a boy into a man? In order for a boy to live life according what a man is supposed to be does he need a male role model?

Does a boy need a good father figure in order to respect women? The link below mentions a statistic saying that 80 percent of rapists motivated by displaced anger comes from fatherless home.

http://www.fathermag.com/news/1780-stats.shtml

[jason93]

Every child deserve to have a mother and father.

Cant always happen but it is much better that a child have a mother and father.

This is why adoption agency should not allow same sex adoption or adoption by people who want to be single parent.

My opinion I know extreme in some eye but it how I think.

[Patchy]

Ever since I was 5 I moved out of our family house with my mum and sister. Ever since then I barely see my dad (like an hour or 2 every 3 weeks or something) therefore my mum primarily brought me up. A few years ago I was a right bastard to my mum (that whole teenage rebel thing) and would argue with her and basically just be a brat. She couldn't handle it so she ended up calling my sisters boyfriend to come and shout at me and basically scare me into behaving.

It worked and I one day woke up realising how much of a wanker I was being and now I get on with my mum quite well. If I lived with my dad or my dad and mum I'd probably wouldn't get away with what I get away with like I do now and also I probably would do better at school since my dad would of properly forced me to study instead of giving in like my mum does.

[Scarface]

Every child deserve to have a mother and father
Well I do agree with you to an extent, but I will say that if the father figure is abusive or is other ways completely not suitable as a father than I would not want that man as a father. It isn't mandatory to have a father figure in a child's life, but if the father is neglectful and/or shows behavior un-suitable as a parent then I don't believe he should be in the picture.

This is why adoption agency should not allow same sex adoption or adoption by people who want to be single parent.
Why is that? Two man or two females can take care of a child and raise them like a traditional family, just because it's not 'the way' doesn't mean that it's the wrong way. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it as I see it. As long as both of the parents (same sex or not) are not doing doing damage to the child or his/her future or state of mind. being supportive and being there for the child has no bearing on sex. That's just how I see it.

As for my own personal view; I was practically raised by parents who couldn't really give a shit, and look at how I turned out to be. (Absolutely not boasting) just saying that I didn't turn out to be anything like them in the slightest. I don't think that there is any reason or 'necessity' to have a male figure, but if there is and it's a positive one, it will surely benefit. Though is it an absolute to have in a child's life? Not at all.

[karl]

I agree that every child deserves to have a mother and a father, but I wouldn't wish my father on anyone, and I'm better off without him.

[steve1234]

Well I only see my dad for a couple of hours every 2-3 weeks, and I think it has had an effect on me.

I have no males in my direct family (that is, those who I would see almost every day) and its just females in my direct family. You would have thought that being in that environment that you would be good at communicating to women, but I am completly useless. I find it incredibly difficult talking to girls of my own age and I find that very frustrating.

MAYBE if my father was in my direct family, I would have learned properly how males are supposed to communicate with females. I have always wished to have a 'normal' family, i.e. mother and father and a couple of siblings, but that didn't exactly work out. I feel quite isolated from society, so MAYBE if I lived with both mum and dad, I might feel a bit more 'normal'. I'm also quite a selfish person, and I my mum has let me get away with alot since I am also an only child.

Saying all that, I might have the exact same personality if my dad was around, but my dad is much stricter than my mum, so things could have been very different.

[colt]

Yes!! it is possible, even though the father gap is there, a woman can raise a child alone. My mom did it for a few years until she remarried.. My step-dad is more a father to me than my real one. my real doesn't give two shits about me b/c I'm not the star football player like him and I am not going to go to his alma mater college.

A woman (or a man) can raise a child. Even homosexual parents can raise children! I hate that status that a child needs a mother and father. No, they need the roles, not the actual female and male to become what society deems "right".

One parent is just as good as two!

[Peace God]

In order for a boy to live life according what a man is supposed to be does he need a male role model?

imo traditional gender roles are very overrated...i was raised without a father and i do many things that arent considered "manly"

i dont play sports or watch professional sports
im not into cars, guns, beer, meat etc
i like to cook
im bisexual
i listen to a lot of music that isnt "manly"

but are all of these things necessarily bad?... of course not

[Incompris]

I never knew my dad. My mom raised me all by herself. I dont think i turned out that bad.

[embers]

I never knew my dad. My mom raised me all by herself. I dont think i turned out that bad.

Hey, this thread is over 2 months old (it's from October 2010). Try to post in something more recent. :locked: