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DreamSeeker
October 5th, 2010, 05:49 PM
Hi, I'm George and I'm 13 (Nearly 14) and don't really like discussing my problems but found this forum online and thought I would see how you lot can help as looking through it seems everyone is very helpful and nice.

Well, I'm not very popular as I'm one of the smart kids and tend to be annoying and apparently lack social skills so don't have ANY true friends. I used to have one but even they can't help me.

Here's how the story lately went
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There is this girl in my form and after I had a sort of fling with this other girl that I don't even consider that it was a fling as it was something small and did not even matter. But me and "M" as I will call her became really good friends in Year 7 (UK school years) and started flirting lots through the year, and said we "Went out" but it was never proper. This was all in 2009.

But then in Year 8, October 31st 2009 we started a proper relationship and I loved her. My first girlfriend and I could have nothing happier. But come February/March 2010 we had our ups and downs and then eventually April 6th 2010 we broke up. Which broke my heart completely.

I could not cope and have had ups and downs since then, I felt suicidal, did self-harm (Just cutting wrists) and could not get anything done. It's been 6 months and the self-harming stopped but it has not much else changed.

I still love this girl like nothing else, she moved on a week after which hurt me, we both have not dated since then but she tells me to find someone else. But the thing is every other girl in my year hates me due to the having no friends and everything. The reason I lost someone who I thought was my friend is that they laughed at my slitting and spread it round the school :(.

But the girl is in my classes and we used to be very good friends before in Year 7 texting all night etc. Now we hardly text at all, we fight lots and everything. But I really want a second chance.

I know it's been 6 months today (6th October). And October 31st it would have been a year as we were going out for about 5 months. But I am seeing a counsellor but I just need more help on what I could do. Everyone laughs at me about it, when they ask if I am over her sometimes I will lie, but when I say Yes they laugh and have a go saying why won't I get over her and everything.

So I really don't know what to do, I want her back but have no clue on what to do :'( And what to do this month as I am going to be really upset and don't know :'(

[Sorry if I broke any rules or anything :(]

The Madness.
October 5th, 2010, 06:05 PM
Well honestly, if you've tried to go back out with her, and you didn't succeed, it might not happen. You may need to move on so you can feel better and move on with your life. I mean, you're young, this was your first girlfriend, try to search around more instead of getting hooked onto one girl forever like you're doing with this girl. She seems to have moved on, so maybe it's the best thing for you, too. If you still want to be friends with her, try to tell her that, but make sure she doesn't think you're just trying to go back out with her, and then maybe she'll start talking to you again. :)

DreamSeeker
October 6th, 2010, 12:38 PM
Thanks :) Any tips on how to move on and be nice as well, every other girl at my school hates me so it's that hard :(

The Madness.
October 6th, 2010, 03:49 PM
Thanks :) Any tips on how to move on and be nice as well, every other girl at my school hates me so it's that hard :(

How to move on? Try not to think of her. Just try and do things to to get your mind off of her. And, you never know if a girl really does like you, and there are other girls outside of your school, they're not just inside the school. :)

JDB_95
October 6th, 2010, 03:56 PM
the best way to move on is to just forget about her last year i thought id meet the 'one' but three months on i got the cold shoulder, i dont talk to her anymore she moved on within in 2 weeks and that hurt but im now with another girl who i love alot and i know she feels the same. you will adventually find someone who you really like and they will feel the same. it may just take some time.

jandilee
October 7th, 2010, 12:40 AM
Try reading this article, it may help.

http://www.savelovetoday.com/get-ex-back/i-miss-her-how-do-i-get-her-back/

kaye
October 7th, 2010, 01:02 AM
Please help yourself :( Seeing a doctor would help. Be with positive people. hang out out with them. Distract yourself for keeping you thinking about your heartaches. Find a new hobby. Learn soemthing new. Rearange ur room. Move on. and most important love yourself and pray always