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georgiamay
October 5th, 2010, 12:44 PM
Basically, I have a close friend that's been recovering from an ED for the last 7 or 8 months. She's been doing really well. She's been eating foods in front of people, and from what I understand, keeping it down. She's even started eating more fatty foods like chocolate, and she even had a McDonalds meal every 2 or 3 months if we went to town. Everyone thought she was one the way to completely recovering.

But over the last 2 weeks, I've noticed that she's started making a bigger thing about eating. Before, she would make eating a HUGE thing infront of people so they wouldn't suspect anything, and then she'd go and throw it up.
She's either been not eating, or making a big deal over eating, and then disappearing off to the toilets for a few minutes.

I don't think anyone else has noticed, but I was the one that noticed it last time and convinced her to get help. I was there for her the whole time, and she talked to me about how she felt when she ate etc. But now she won't talk to me about it all. She won't talk about anything involving feelings, or any of that "deep" stuff.

I'm starting to worry about her. She's behaving the way she used to when she was anorexic/bulimic before, and I'm worried she might be relapsing. But she's pulling away from me quite a lot now. She knows that I spot these things, and she doesn't want me to notice again, so she's stopped talking to me as much. We still talk, but only in large groups. She's avoiding one to one's with me.

If I'm wrong about this and I ask her about it, She'll lose all faith in me. I don't know what to do, should I ask her about it? And what do I say if I am wrong?

Fiction
October 5th, 2010, 01:00 PM
Why don't you try asking her about it over msn or something? Asking not accusing if you get what i mean. Another thing you can do is keep monitoring it until you are sure you are right. If she's getting help then is she seeing a councillor or something? Beacause they may also notice the relapse and be helping her.

georgiamay
October 5th, 2010, 01:02 PM
Why don't you try asking her about it over msn or something? Asking not accusing if you get what i mean. Another thing you can do is keep monitoring it until you are sure you are right. If she's getting help then is she seeing a councillor or something? Beacause they may also notice the relapse and be helping her.

I know she used to see one when she first decided to get help, but I don't know if she's still seeing them. I'll ask her over MSN, thanks Kathy :)

partyprincess_93
October 5th, 2010, 01:30 PM
maybe don't speak directly to her if shes not feeling comfortable
try sending her a txt, email, or phone her
and if that doesn't work talk to someone who has a greater authority
they will decide from there what needs to be done like if she needs to go to a treatment center etc

Discomposure
October 6th, 2010, 07:48 AM
Like it's been said, just make sure you don't come across as acusing her. Just lightly let her know, that you've noticed a few changes, and because you care and don't want to see all her hard work go to waste, that your a little worried. Just see what she says, I hope all goes okay.
:)

georgiamay
October 6th, 2010, 12:08 PM
thanks guys :)