My mother.

[skinny_white_boy]

So my mom and I have our arguments every now and again. But lately they have been more about her boyfriend. I cannot stand him one but. He is over all the time and is just soo annoying. I just lose my head when he is around an it makes me' grumpy which ruins our family time a lot. Well last night I specifically told my mom that he couldn't sleep over and she said okay and sent him home. Or so I thought.

So I turned in for the night and I woke up at 5 am to go to the bathroom and I peeped out the window and what do ya know. His car was sitting in the driveway.
So hen earlier today I brought it up while my brother and my mom and I were watching tv. And she didn't like it that much. Then I simply told her that I do not like him and left and retreated to my room. Then she came up and pretty much grounded me. Which makes no sense to ground Simone over their opinion. Anyway now she is like twisting the story and sayin to my brother that he is not aloud over because I said he couldn't. Which I didn't all i simply said was I don't like him.
Sorry for ranting but I just had to let it out. She has been treating me' pretty bad since then. I guess I'm asking, is there a better way to tell her which she won't be as mad? Or any way to make her not mad about my opinion? Or any comments on this will be helpful

[Azunite]

I have the very same situation oh shit i am not along that God !

Though tehre is no way.
I have talked to my mum, and all she says is " Why the hell do you care, you dont even get out of your room to even feel him in the house ! "
That is bullshit!
It is my house, I want nobody in here!
It is not ranting my friend :)

I think he sometimes sleeps over here :( Fuck him.
As I said there is nothing you can do..
And my mum says "When you go to college and leave the home, I need someone besid me don'tbe fuckin selfish!"
SHE IS THE ONE BEING SELFISH
Thankfully my dad understands me..
This tactic worked a bit...
Tell your mom that you should go to a counselor.Go there and tell your problems to him/her. Then tell him/her to tell exactly what you have said to your mum ( but like tell her to tell your mum this too : I called you here not because your son wanted it. Your son asked me not to tell you this but the situation may be grave and he will go on a deep depression if you don't act as quick as possibe" and then tell her to talk )
PM me ANYTIME you want, I understand you

[Scarface]

Well first of all, this is a very frustrating situation and I completely understand. My dad's girl friend is a complete bitch. She's like the most controlling and narcissistic girl I have ever met. She thinks she has a doctorate in everything and could tell a contractor, trained and certified how to do their job. Though my dad is not 'with it' if I could put it. She still came over and I finally snapped at her, and lost my voice in the process.

Anyway, in regards to your mother boyfriend, your mom is going to do what she will with this guy. Though what you can do is take a more subtle approach to this that way you come down to her level and not let what your disliking thoughts overcome your reasoning with her. You should ask her to have a sit down with you so you can truly express on a calm level about this boyfriend that way she can understand that it's interfering with the family time. That you feel deprived from hanging out with her since he started coming around and that you felt disrespected when you asked her specifically not to have him over that night and yet when you woke up he was. That way she understands more on how you feel on a deeper level instead of just you disliking him. It will make a lot more sense to her.

If you need someone to talk to, I'm always here, PM,VM me anytime.

[Christiaan]

There's not an easy answer for ya mate.

Me Da was killed when I was 6, and after a few years me Mam married a Dutch Marines officer. He'a always treated us well, eventhough when he offered to adopt us we chose to not be - which I realize now hurt him, but he never let it affect how he treated us.

We see our 'rents as close to perfect when were wee children, but as we get older we start to realize that they aren't perfect. Letting things bother and fester just amplifies the problem for all of yous. Yer Mam wants male company, that's no secret to ya. But ya can't choose or tell her who to date anymore than you'ld care to have her tell ya the same thing. Ya can always hope yer Mam finds an exceptional fellow, but the one she's found obviously suits her at the moment and for yer bro and ya, it's the old Golden Role, He (or she) who has the gold, makes the rules. The day is coming when you'll be in the same position.

The more ya gone on with her about him, the more she's gonna get her ass up on her shoulders. That punishment was bull-shit, yer right, but it was her desperately trying to exert authority over ya cos she can't stop yer talking about her b/f. She may know what yer saying is true. Let it alone cos she's the one who's gonna have to make the decision to dump him. Yer making this a war between you and her, give it time to be a war between her and her b/f.

Me Granda always has told me don't fight unless ya see a reason and can win it. Ya can't win, so see how ya can be smart enough to figure out how to make things easier on all of yous,

Yer Mam's b/f may well not last, give him time - and her - for him to show himself. As they say, the higher the monkee climbs, the more ya see of him.

[skinny_white_boy]

I can see what you all saying. I'm just going to try my best to deal with him and try to get our relationship back together. Thanks for the advice

[Christiaan]

I can see what you all saying. I'm just going to try my best to deal with him and try to get our relationship back together. Thanks for the advice

Best of luck to ya lad and a hug from me in Ireland.

[TheMatrix]

She still came over and I finally snapped at her, and lost my voice in the process.
sorry for this off-topic question, but what do you mean with "lost my voice"?
did you yell at her too much, or what?