GF Situation

[adam1995]

Okay, so I had an uncomfortable situationwith my gf this afternoon. weve been going out for about 4 or 5 months and we were hanging out at her house after school today which we do a lot. sometimes we do homework sometimes we watch tv, you get the idea. all weve ever done is kiss and not that much of that. so anyway, we were just sitting there in her basement with the tv on and i leaned over and kissed her and put her hand on my crotch. she left it there for a minute and i def had a hard on, but then she pulled it off and told me she had to do homework so i should leave. I was embarrassed so just got up and left. i texted her a little while ago just saying hi and she hasnt answered. what shoudl i do? thanks for helping me:confused:

[Scarface]

P101:arrow:Relationships and Dating

[Jacob1993]

It seems to me like she might have been uncomfortable with the situation. U said u guys hadnt done anything but kiss. When u got a hardon with her hand on ur crotch, that was a bit more then just kissing lol.
As for her not talking to u...give her some time. Im sure shell talk with u if she cares for u (which it sounds like she does)...It was a new experience for her and she may not have been expecting it.
I had something similar happen to me like that before and thingsworked out
I know its rough, but hang in there :)

[Azunite]

I think you should directly aplogize, saying that you lost the control and thought something else....
Like:
"I didn' know what to do dear, I was confusedd andd.. ı was thinking... Shouldn't we process in our relatinoship for a while, I will udnerstand and can change the topic immideatly and let us continue our lives together if you don't want to make a process or don't want to talk about this..
It just... It's just I love you xxxx, that's all...."
This'll do :)

[xXWatEvsXxXx]

tell her that your sorry, and you will move at her pace in the relationship

[adam1995]

Thanks. All good for the moment. We've talked a few times and i told her we could go slow. Here's the problem... I'm horny as hell. We've been going slow and I want more. Suggestions?

[Mzor203]

Thanks. All good for the moment. We've talked a few times and i told her we could go slow. Here's the problem... I'm horny as hell. We've been going slow and I want more. Suggestions?

My suggestion? To be blunt, go masturbate. Relationships should certainly not be dictated by sexual desires, and seeking anything like that out isn't going to be great on the whole. You've already seen that it makes her uncomfortable, so why don't you just wait, and if it is meant to happen, it will happen.

[Jacob1993]

I know how it feels to be horny as hell and wanting more from ur g/f.
But making her feel comfortable and taking her feelings into account out weigh any sexual feelings u may be having...no matter how intense.
My suggestion is j/o as much and as often as u need to, to help keep ur horniness in check...Things will happen at there own pace and you both will know when the time is right to do more stuff together.
Its great that u seem to be a gentleman, caring about how she feels. Just remember always communicate with each other and respect each other

[nick]

Well first of all, I hope she keeps talking to you, its not like you did anything really extreme. If you want to apologise then I would just say "Sorry, I got a bit carried away" and maybe "It wont happen again". Of course you're going to get horny when you're kissing and stuff, but she's shown that she's not ready to do anymore so I think for the future you will have to wait for her to make the next move. Maybe when she's had time to think, and knows you're not going to mind, her hand will find its own way there next time.

[adam1995]

Thanks. Good advice all around. :)

[Nikk]

I'm not sure but..... her parents might lecture her every day about this kind of stuff. This happened to one of my friends though. :D
Think about this positively, sooner or later she'll get horny as hell and will forget about all the lectures xD