I'm tired of it!

[dec_1892]

Hey guys, I'm not sure if this is in The right place, but if it's not, feel free to move it. So, I'm slightly feminine, subconsciously, and I don't really like it. I'm not into that sports, but I love music and school. I sorta wanna pump up the testosterone a bit, know what i mean? I'm tired of peoples first impression of me is that "he's probably gay." And I wanna be able to make good guy friends easier. Any advice?

[disassociation2016]

1st. Don't pose in pictures looking like you just got knocked the f*c* out or just have issues with your neck, and don't make it look like you just ate something really nasty/sour.

[Tadgh]

1st. Don't pose in pictures looking like you just got knocked the f*c* out or just have issues with your neck, and don't make it look like you just ate something really nasty/sour.

Shut the fuck up, Don't start flaming his pic'.

[Scarface]

Do not troll this thread, he is asking for help, not insults. Any further will result in infractions handed out.

Shut the fuck up, Don't start flaming his pic'.

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[axel3]

same problem dude just start hangin with people they'll realize your real personality and youll just develop "guy qualities" i guess thats basically waht i did.

[randomlyonhere]

same here dude, i am wayyyyy more comfortable with girls than guy, i never know what to talk about and always get nervous and leave

[TurboDieselBandit]

Working out will at least make you feel "manlier" but I'm sure with you working out, your testosterone levels would increase. Working out makes me feel that way; all gay thoughts and feelings temporarily vanish and it feels good. Not to mention its healthy.

[usernamelol]

just be yourself! if people don't like you for you, why bother? music is awesome, find people with similar interests. it's cooler not to fit in imo.

[Randomchaos]

Saaaame problem. Only for me, if it makes me uncomfortable, why do it? Everywhere I go, I hang out with girls, love school, big on music and every guy calls me gay. But. It's whatever. It's them not giving you a chance.

[Starlight Blaze]

Well I LOVE music and do no sports at all! I'm never called gay...
I mean it's more accepted at my school but not playing sports and liking music is not "feminine". At some places girls do tons of sports and guys do tons of music and drama
Just be yourself only idiots would make fun of you.
I mean think about it. Where would we be without the beetles???

[Hank Hill]

Just be yourself, and hang with the people who you think are your "type". If they become real friends, they will accept you no matter what. As for being feminine? Trust me. There are MUCH more feminine guys around. If you're really worried, try out for sports, expand your branches to new hobbies. And above all else, like I said before, just be yourself. :)

[CestDan]

Well, I can tell you that I have the same situation lol. I mean, I'm very happy and many people think or well, the first impression that they have about me is that I'm gay. And well, what can I tell you, according to my own experience is: Don't worry!!! Be yourself!!! Enjoy and be happy for who you are!!! No matter what other people say!! I mean, it maybe sounds stupid but it really works! Although, indeed, I'm bisexual, I've had 4 girlfriends, and each of them told me that they thought I was gay lol anyway, once someone knows better, they will notice what you really are.

[secretboy]

I have had the same problem, but not anymore. I live in a society that is based on prejudice. A guy has to be male in all senses. They call you gay if you are a bit more emotional or like artists that girls like (Miley <3). So, I used to be extremely stressed about it. People on my school and condo were always calling me as "gay". But i've changed, and I don't hear them anymore. I have a lot of girl friends, and have had some girlfriends as well. I prefer to trust girls because they make me comfortable and don't judge me, like guys do. From my point of view guys do this because they are jealous of my relationship with girls, while they are being called "idiots" by girls. If you want an advice, GET OVER IT. Stop caring about such things, and people will soon stop calling you gay, they will see you're not (at least the people that really know you). I have some guys friends too now, and we have an open friendship, so we can share all the secrets and conversations that I wouldn't be able to share with a girl.

[Nate027]

Get on the school football team. That will get your testerone going and should eliminate any "feminine" impressions

[JJSSHH]

same thing with me

[colt]

im in the same problem as u, but i accept that I dnt like sports, but I LOVE MUSIC, not like just listening on my iPod but I mean like I fill my school schedule with music! i have developed a "who gives a [email protected]#K" attitude. If ppl wont accept me for me, well they werent meant to b apart of my life. I'm not religious at all though. But, if u want to develop some more testosterone, u can eat certain foods that can pump up testosterone levels, or u can go to a doctor, and usually they can give u shots of it

[Christiaan]

Write down all those things ya do that ya think make ya look like a lass. Make a list of what ya want to change, decide which ones ya want to work on first.

Don't try to work on it all at once, but pick one or two out and break yerself of those habits. When you've done that, then move on and pick a couple more. You'll soon be rid of them, it just will take a concerted effort on yer part.

[obknobe]

Just be yourself. What others think of me is none of my business. Just be dec!

[jack316]

I'm gay and I get on with girls better than guys but all the popular guys at my school talk to me and nobody cares that I like one of hottest and popular guys in our school and he talks and flirts with me all time :)

[TheFame]

just be yourself! if people don't like you for you, why bother? music is awesome, find people with similar interests. it's cooler not to fit in imo.

^^ Took me a long time to realize that.

For me i changed everything that was girly about me. But when i was around people who were close to me i went right back to girly.

So i thought, "why change so people wont talk about me?"

and i didnt change. and i get called a faggot. And i like women. And i am fine with that :P


When you find people who like you for who you are you start to not care about how you act or what people think of you.

[mranderson]

Man, just be urslef, dont try to be something your not