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Jag7
September 29th, 2010, 03:52 PM
Im a 15 year old guy and I am pretty confused.
I have always thought I was straight and had crushes on girls all through middle school. But sometimes when I am in the locker room or see a guy with his shirt off I get aroused. I have tried and I cant fantasize about guys or anything and when I do get aroused I am never thinking about how "cute" or whatever is used to describe guys as and I haven't had a crush on a guy before but its more of noticing they have their shirt off and not thinking anything sexual about them. Now after thinking about this a lot I keep wondering if what am I attracted to guys or something then think Im not.
I don't have any problems being gay but when I've tryed thinking of myself as bisexual or curious but it dosen't feel like me. I remember that I used to notice guys with their shirts off when seeing the fronts of magazines in the grocery store is this proof?

Heath
September 29th, 2010, 04:33 PM
It doesn't sound like you are bi or gay. If you don't have a primary sexual attraction to guys, then you're not gay.

Are you STILL having crushes on girls? If so, not gay. Maybe bi.

If you had a choice to have sex with the hottest girl or a really hot guy, and nobody would know, who would you pick? If you had to think about it for any length of time, you "might" be bi.

Getting aroused by seeing a guy without his shirt does not make you gay or bi. It just makes you a teenager.

And, if you have to try to fantasize about somebody, then it's really not a fantasy. My vote for you? Horny, straight teenager.

PJay
September 29th, 2010, 05:10 PM
Dont worry about the labels, you get turned on by whatever you get turned on by, and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks about it.

If you can't fantasize about guys then that kind of says to me your not gay (cos I can't fantasize about girls ever lol). But on the other hand a lot of guys who'd say they are straight are quite happy to 'fool around' so maybe you are just a teensy bit bi. Or could be you've not found your exact type of guy.

Don't stress about it and just go with whatever feels right to you, you'll be happier.

trackstar9.875
September 30th, 2010, 12:40 PM
Heath says it all.

I'm Gay, and I've NEVER been attracted to girls.

I think guys overlook the fact that WE'RE ALL WE KNOW ABOUT - and we're all we spend any real time with - for the first 12-13 years of our life, so we're just naturally "comfortable" (not necessarily attracted to) with each other, AND IT'S NOT WRONG to look upon another guy and appreciate him.....ESPECIALLY after seeing "hairless" legs, crotches, navels...for so many years..then all of a sudden: That guy we played with in the back yard...is LOOKING GOOD!!

Hope this helps.

P.S. I'm with Heath; My vote is: You're str8

Jag7
September 30th, 2010, 06:22 PM
Thanks for the good advice guys, but it seems like now I am not attracted to girls as much as I used to. I am still not attracted to guys but I used to be able to get aroused just by seeing a girls chest and I don't anymore. Is this normal? Since near the end of Middle School and the Start of High School I have been feeling really insecure and this is when I started questioning my self is this normal?

Sorry but another thing, what does physically attracted to guys mean? I know I am not sexually or emotionally but based on the info earlier I guess I am just horny.
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