How do I woo him back to me from a miscommunication mistake ?

[tornado]

I have been "dating" someone online, and we have fallen in love. We HAD to break up for silly reasons out of our control until I'm 18, but we ended up acting like we're still together without the label of dating because we still loved each other. We just went with it and never discussed where the boundaries were, even though we were officially broken up. Two people very close to him, including one crushing hard on me, started telling me that he was trying to move on and that I was in denial about him and I being together someday. Their theories were solidified for me when I asked my bf -- *cringes* exbf --what our new relationship was. He said some things like "friends with benefits" and "not being afraid to see other people," but he insisted that he still loved me and wanted to be with me, just couldn't officially at that very moment. I interpreted this as "I'm lonely and confused, and I don't love you though you should stick around until I find another girl." I heard that he was asking if other women were interested. This interpretation ended up being totally wrong. I dated someone, and my "ex" got pissed because I kept this from him. He also found out that I had been "dating" this person a couple times before after we officially broke up, but each time it was only a few hours because I kept remembering how much I loved my "ex" and couldn't move on. Previously, I had gotten caught flirting with this other guy while with my "ex," and my ex insists that I have been sexual with and telling the other guy I'm madly in love with him which he heard from untrue gossip. I don't love this other guy; I'm very much in love with my ex. I made a mistake because of misinterpretation of how he felt about me. He really really really does love me and wants to be with me.

So miscommunication. He feels very betrayed, lied to, unloved, and very very very very hurt, heartbroken. He says he wants distance from talking to me, and that he never wants to be together because he only thinks of me as lies.
I love him and want him so badly. What do I do to get him back ? When would be the appropriate time to email him about this ? What do I say and not say ?

Thanks so much. :/

[Kahn]

I have been "dating" someone online, and we have fallen in love. We HAD to break up for silly reasons out of our control until I'm 18, but we ended up acting like we're still together without the label of dating because we still loved each other. We just went with it and never discussed where the boundaries were, even though we were officially broken up. Two people very close to him, including one crushing hard on me, started telling me that he was trying to move on and that I was in denial about him and I being together someday. Their theories were solidified for me when I asked my bf -- *cringes* exbf --what our new relationship was. He said some things like "friends with benefits" and "not being afraid to see other people," but he insisted that he still loved me and wanted to be with me, just couldn't officially at that very moment. I interpreted this as "I'm lonely and confused, and I don't love you though you should stick around until I find another girl." I heard that he was asking if other women were interested. This interpretation ended up being totally wrong. I dated someone, and my "ex" got pissed because I kept this from him. He also found out that I had been "dating" this person a couple times before after we officially broke up, but each time it was only a few hours because I kept remembering how much I loved my "ex" and couldn't move on. Previously, I had gotten caught flirting with this other guy while with my "ex," and my ex insists that I have been sexual with and telling the other guy I'm madly in love with him which he heard from untrue gossip. I don't love this other guy; I'm very much in love with my ex. I made a mistake because of misinterpretation of how he felt about me. He really really really does love me and wants to be with me.

So miscommunication. He feels very betrayed, lied to, unloved, and very very very very hurt, heartbroken. He says he wants distance from talking to me, and that he never wants to be together because he only thinks of me as lies.
I love him and want him so badly. What do I do to get him back ? When would be the appropriate time to email him about this ? What do I say and not say ?

Thanks so much. :/

It sounds like you truly love this boy, and I respect that but you also have to remember that you went behind his back not just once and "dated" another guy. It doesn't matter what you thought after the fact, it was wrong of you to do so. At least you realized a few hours into all of them that you had stronger feelings for the other boy and ended it.

You should've told him right away though. He has reason to believe that you deceived and lied to him because you actually kept it from him. If you would've told him what you did and how you were sorry he might've acted differently. You should've trusted him instead of kept it from him. To have a good relationship you must trust your partner, no matter what.

Email him now, while he still thinks about it. He needs to know as soon as possible. I'm sorry this seems a little vague, but good luck. If you need any help just post back in here.

[jandilee]

Try reading this article, it may help.

http://www.savelovetoday.com/get-ex-back/get-him-back-how-to-make-a-guy-want-you-back/