Do guys get pms?

[Billy15]

I know this is a freaked question (sorry) but 4 real, I was talking to a great VT friend yesterday and he said "maybe it's that time of the month" and I thought well, maybe boys do get a form of PMS because IDK? I do know when my mom gets it she cries a lot. Heres why I asked that.

Yesterday (out of the blue) I find myself sitting in my room (door locked, lights out, sitting on the floor in the corner) crying my eyes out and I couldn't stop for nothing. I'm not a cry baby or anything like that so it was just freaky and the harder I tried to stop, the more I cried. WHY?

I know me and my dad have been having a rough time lately because he wants me to be just like him (you know, the macho man, work in construction someday and take over his business, a good ole boy) and well, I;m just nothing like that and it pisses him off. Both my parents nag me constantly about finding a GF, cutting my hair (so I look like the other rednecks around here) wanting me to hang with his work buddies kids and Im like "dad, I have my own friends, I like my hair, I like being different, I'm not ready for no GF
(I absolutely can't tell them I am gay OMG no) and anyway, they make me feel like Im their worst disappointment and all I want is to be me (not them) just me. :what:

So the dam broke and I'm sitting on the floor and my little brother who is 11 (thank god we were alone) starts banging on the door (he heard me crying) and I let him in and everything just came out, everything I've been holding inside with nobody to tell (even about being gay) and he was so sweet and told me "I love you Tris (my real first name is Tristen (middle is William/Billy)
and I don't care if your gay or not" and well, I never thought I'd ever tell him and always feared if I did he would freak but he didn't at all (but he's nothing like our parents either) and well he just hugged me and for the first time in FOREVER I actually felt loved (for real) and accepted for just being me.

Anyways (sorry for venting) I don't know if there is something like PMS in boys but sometimes I cry myself to sleep to and it's usually when Im alone
and feeling empty inside. So what do you guys think, am I losing it?

Billy

[Rutherford The Brave]

No, but guys can get moody too.

[Ender]

I agree with Greg. Guys are allowed to have emotions, and be moody too. But we have no "PMS" behind it.

[phily08]

We cant have pms but we can have mood swings,breakdowns and emotions.
Plus that was so nice of your brother to do that. And you should feel accepted,theres lots of people just you.

[nick]

Anyways (sorry for venting) I don't know if there is something like PMS in boys but sometimes I cry myself to sleep to and it's usually when Im alone
and feeling empty inside.
There's no PMS, but life's still full of stress and opportunities for depression. Thats how I am all the time at the moment.

[Ender]

There's no PMS, but life's still full of stress and opportunities for depression. Thats how I am all the time at the moment.

:hug: for you and billy :)

[Giles]

PMS? No.
Extremely Emotional? Yeah.

[Apollo.]

No PMS but you can have mood swings and be depressed especially if you an your dad are arguing it happens to me sometimes when im arguing with family and friends

[foxtrot]

All adolescents are prone to HUGE mood swings. It's all those hormones and stuff. It sounds like you're going through a rough time at the moment; if you need to talk to someone then i'm here.

[cristian123]

You.really are NOT losing it.
I feel lonely too. And I do cry myself to sleep too :'(
Don't feel alone.....your not alone

[Church]

Not pms per say but me and my friends coined the term 'boner rage' where testosterone is pumping due to girls, doing something awesome etc. and they get all pumped up and can be very aggressive.

I.e After losing the wrestling match Tim was pissed cause he lost and had total boner rage

[TheTrueKing]

guys get moody i get like that a lot 2 and depressed very often u are lucky u have a bro like that rlly apperciate him rlly sweet story. i am very happy that i got to read it.

[trackstar9.875]

Billy:

You're not losing it!

I've read numerous postings by you, and all elude to a tremendous amount of stress and anxiety in dealing with being gay.

And now, this particular night, it kinda all came to a reckoning...with yourself, and with someone you love dearly...your little brother.

You are - every day - becoming more comfortable with yourself..in spite of the stress and anxiety that WILL CONTINUE to surface now and then.

As they say: The cat's outta the bag, so let it just run free, and you just concentrate on being happy.

[Spoookster]

Yes after their 1st menstruation =)) LOL.. no man, we all get moody..

[KodieBear]

no, guys dont get pms. but we get almost the same emotional mood swings during puberty. so your fine, dont worry about it

[Dive to Survive]

So the dam broke and I'm sitting on the floor and my little brother who is 11 (thank god we were alone) starts banging on the door (he heard me crying) and I let him in and everything just came out, everything I've been holding inside with nobody to tell (even about being gay) and he was so sweet and told me "I love you Tris (my real first name is Tristen (middle is William/Billy)
and I don't care if your gay or not" and well, I never thought I'd ever tell him and always feared if I did he would freak but he didn't at all (but he's nothing like our parents either) and well he just hugged me and for the first time in FOREVER I actually felt loved (for real) and accepted for just being me.

Anyways (sorry for venting) I don't know if there is something like PMS in boys but sometimes I cry myself to sleep to and it's usually when Im alone
and feeling empty inside. So what do you guys think, am I losing it?

Billy

I dont think guys get pms but your little bro is really sweet! :)

[zander]

billy,
gee who could have said the time of the moth thing???? i do bvelive that aas teens we get moody sometimes and i have read that all males have a cycle of emotions that they go through, while it is not like PMS becuase it ifs not tied to menstral sutff it is a cycle. and like i told you that day, i totaly get super moody sometimes and yes, i am not afraid to admit i cry at times too. this whole being gay and not telling anyone because you dont want to be judged and dealing with all the other s#$t that we do , it just gets to you some times. your little bro rocks and i know my little brother said the same thing when i told him. we all need to know that we are loved and cared for by someone and i know you know this ,but you know i love you man, your like one of my closest friends and if we lived closer i would give you a hug when ever you needed it

[Fourth Dimension]

i get like that too

[JimSauce]

Guys don't get PMS. I feel moody and depressed at random times too, it's just being emotional.

[disassociation2016]

So the dam broke and I'm sitting on the floor and my little brother who is 11 (thank god we were alone) starts banging on the door (he heard me crying) and I let him in and everything just came out, everything I've been holding inside with nobody to tell (even about being gay) and he was so sweet and told me "I love you Tris (my real first name is Tristen (middle is William/Billy)
and I don't care if your gay or not" and well, I never thought I'd ever tell him and always feared if I did he would freak but he didn't at all (but he's nothing like our parents either) and well he just hugged me and for the first time in FOREVER I actually felt loved (for real) and accepted for just being me....

It took quite a bit of effort to say that I bet, but good for you. Hope all goes well, and personally if I do have PMS I don't notice it.

[Ryan123]

yea, well we all have to let our emotions out somehow!

[TheDavid]

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[disassociation2016]

Not related to your question, but is related to your coming out to your brother...

Apart from my best friend, the first person I came out to was my sister and like you - I just cried my fricking eyes out. After that, I've been so much more comfortable with who I am though. She's a lot more of a literal Christian than I am (I wouldn't class myself as one at all any more - more because of the typical CHRISTIANS where I live than the CHRISTIANITY itself with which I take no issue) and she took it pretty tough and obviously thinks it's wrong for me to ever be involved in any sort of relationship (like she was bleedin' celibate at my age, anyhow!) - but anyhow. Life gets better from here on out. Once the people you can trust to keep it secret know and still love you - you actually feel like you can tell people like your parents. I hate lying to them. I came so close tonight, but the time just didn't quite feel right. (I've been saying that for a month - maybe when I get moody and my PMS comes about I'll just crack?)

LOL. I feel for you man! :)

Congratulations to you also for having the courage to come out to anyone!

[samshan]

No, i dont think so...

[jovien]

i hope not it would be probably a hormonal thing

[bvboy]

I know its been a month since u posted, but I just felt like I needed to reply. Its definitely not PMS. Like everyone said its just teen hormones, it's perfectly natural. But what I wanted to tell u specifically was that U are just probably a really sensitive guy, and sometimes things might stress you out more than they would other people, so you let it out and cry. But remember this. It is a GOOD thing to be sensitive, consider it God's gift or something. Just don't let it eat you up, and don't let anybody tell you differently.
Also always have people, like your brother to count on, to cry on. I would also suggest talking to your parents. Not necessarily coming out to them, but just saying expressing some of your feelings about what they expect you to be. It might help. When your ready, talk to them.
Anyway, hope it helped.

[JohnFitz]

everyone gets moody. guys too.