help!

[fudgebabe]

It's NOT fair!!! My stepmom has parental controls set on the computer, and i hate them! I am 13 years old and I can only spend two hours on the computer a day, and 3 on weekends. I am blocked out of "innapropiate sites". But some of the sites I want on are blocked, even when they're not innapropiate, like if I'm searching for something (harmless) on google or something. I have to admit that I have done some REALLLY bad stuff online in the past (sexual stuff) and my stepmom does know about it, but it's been 7 months since I did it! I'm not sure if this is why she wants the controls or not. but if it is, I wish she would realize that it was a while ago and it doesn't matter anymore. I want to know how I can convince my stepmom to take off all the controls on the computer, because I am honestly not going to do anything bad anymore.

[Syvelocin]

Maybe you just have to communicate that fact with her. She might still think that you are going to use the internet like you were before.

And beyond that, since she has power over you, internet restriction is something some parents feel the need to do, and if you can't convince her that you aren't going to do it again, or that you're responsible enough to not have parental controls in place, then there isn't a lot you can do. Many households are different. Some have controls on everything, and others have very little structure, like mine was :/

But little structure is also not the best thing in the world. Some people can handle it better, but how little shelter I had growing up was probably the cause of a lot of issues I was having and my irresponsible behaviour in high school. Sometimes a little structure is a good thing.

[Kahn]

Rith nailed this on the head.

You've said it yourself, you've done some bad things on the internet. That may be the reason why she has put parental controls on. Instead of complaining, show you are responsible enough now to handle the parental controls and maybe after some time, confront her. If she has noticed your attitude, prove it to her by sitting down with her and trying to reason with her. If she still says no, calmly abide.

If you take my advice though, she should be able to reason with you. Just don't cause such a large ruckus. If you complain, it'll show you haven't matured and you will prove her point for her. Just be calm about it for a few days, or a few weeks if you have to. She'll come around.

[fudgebabe]

thanks guys. i am going to start acting very responsible and making sure that I show her that I have good history online.