Harsh Words From Family. Please Help.

[Immortal Love]

How do you handle this?

Okay, here is the situtuation. You see, I live with my mother, since my Father left us because he was doing thinsg he should not of been (Drugs, lots of drinking, stealing, ect.) So it's just me and her. My Mom has been absolutly horrid for the past few weeks. Her words cut into me like razors. Here are her words:
"I can't take you anymore Hunter. If this continues, then I want you out of my life. I don't care if your my daughter. I.Don't.Want.You." Now you ask, 'well, what did you do?' Nothing that I can't help. She yells at me for my Moods. How I can be happy, then a total brat, then cry. See, I can't help it. She dosn't understand what I am going through. She says it's hormones, but heck, I KNOW it's not that.

Another thing she says that throws me off the edge every time.You see, I am a cutter. I am REALLY trying to stop too. It's hard, it really is. She dosn't understand that either. Hell, she makes jokes about it when she see's I am upset, which feels like everyday anymore. She says "Well why don't you go cut yourself, hm? That will help." I know this is NOT somthing your supposed to tell a attempting to stop cutter.

To add to that, she says that I'd be better off living with my dad and sleeping in a car. (Problem with that, I was told my dad is DEAD.) She also loves to torture me with that. She knows how much it hurts me. She always asks me if I have emotions or anything. If i care about people. To this I answered "It depends on who the person is, and what the problem is" She went off on me for that saying I was a 'psychopath'.

I really can't take much more of this. I feel so upset over it all and I can't do a thing. I am, honestly, afraid of my mother, and family. My grandma and grandpa are like this too. They make jokes about stuff that isn't funny. Like my G-pa said once when I was going to go take a nap. "You know, you arn;t going to get anywhere in life by just laying on yoru back. The only people who do are prostututes." Not.Funny. I am the most anti- sexual girl ever. I hate it all.

So now, I ask for help. What do I do? I've tried talking to them and they just shut me up without a care in the world. I feel like I am unloved now. I feel they hate me. They want me to no longer exist. Please, help me out.

(Edit: I forgot to mention that I'm not completly left unsupported. My wonderful Boyfriend has kept my head above water, so I thank him for that.)

[PJay]

If your family are wierd and really don't want you around any more, this sounds like you need to see if someone at school could help you sort it out, because i'd of thought (hope) the authorities would protect you if you were in danger from them neglecting you or from their attitude making you start cutting again.

I guess some of this may be worse in your head than in theirs though and they may just not know how to handle you or understand the cutting . It may be you ALL need help to deal with this, so maybe some sort of counselling for the whole family? Sounds as though they aren't being there for you in the way you probably need and it isn't right you should have to deal with everything and have more piled on top by the people who could/should be helping.

So if you haven't got support from them, you need it from somewhere else, so then my other thought is see if you can get that by asking your school for advice or even just walk into a church and see if anyone there knows where you could go for help, because they probably would.

Just my thoughts but i hope that helps, anway.

[Kahn]

Family criticizes. A family always wants someone to be perfect, or someone to be just like them. Family wants it to be a group thing, not an individual thing. I know what you're going through, Hunter. I've gone through it almost every day of my life. Whether it be bad or good, your always being criticized. You just have to learn that people are like that, and that you need to ignore the things that don't need to be changed.

My father did the same thing your mother sis doing. He would always say how I was never good enough, and how I needed to be better. I always practiced, and practiced, and practiced but in the end he'd scold me and point out the small faults like me slipping and barely keeping my balance. On the way home he'd scold me for being a tad bit slower than a boy that is 3 years older than me. He'd tell me how if I lived with my mom, I'd just give up hockey. He'd say I'd need to be like my oldest brother, a fucking genius.

When I finally had enough of it, however, I found a way to ignore him. Books. Books were there for me. It was like an escape to a new world. I wasn't there, and when he'd yell I'd be too into the book to realize that he would be yelling at me. I think that's what you need to do. Find something to distract yourself from her. You seem more outgoing and willing for help than me, so maybe go to a close friend or close adult that you can talk to about the way she treats you. I'd call this verbal abuse, because it's unrelenting and she won't stop.

I hope this helps.