i need advice bad

[ColdFire92]

Hey...umm.... tryin to find right way to say this... Im 14 and im pretty sure im gay. Im having a rly hard time trying to come out to my parents and friends. My parents are really republican if you understand that. And my friends... they're always ripping on the gay kids at my school and im forced to go along with it and it's rly hard to try and ignore it and let it roll off my back. Im embarresssed to say it but I rly dont want to be gay. It just kind of came up on me. I dont even act,talk, walk, ect in any gay way. Ive tried everything i can think of but im just gay. Im not embarressed to say it to myself cause i finally admitted it to myself but like i said, i dont know what to do about my friends or my parents. I was brought up being told that being gay was ethically wrong but i think that's a load of shit. But no one else rly seems to. =/ And i have this horrible paranoia or contracting and STD. Im really lost and really need some help here. So any advice or time you might be willing to share would really go along way. Thank you for listening.

[iluvlamp1414]

well you dont have to be openly gay... a lot of gay people arent open about it.

[TragicSaturn]

I know its very hard coming out to your friends
But If there really your friends they shouldn’t care
If your gay or not…You should just tell them…because
Friends are more understanding then parents.

[Drug Sniffer Dog]

Well if you are finding it hard to keep it all in, just one day while sitting down with your friends you should just let it out. They have been your friends for [X] amount of time and they havent noticed that you are gay, so if you tell them, your going to act the same way so they shouldnt really care.

[him]

I aggree with you Drug Sniffer Dog I really do

[boy_lover88]

I know its very hard coming out to your friends
But If there really your friends they shouldn’t care
If your gay or not…You should just tell them…because
Friends are more understanding then parents.

Wow, YOU'D be surprised how much more understandable a parent is compared to a friend.

Friends sometimes understand your causes, desires, pains.... but your parents are more willing to know more about everything you do as they've most likely experienced it already.

For example, my Mom was attracted to a woman when she was younger, but she was going through a phase of course. As for me, I'm definitely not going through a phase as I think I'm gay. It's hard for me, since I've never done it with a girl yet. Either way, I've come out to my friends and because of this, one was already gay, so he didn't care. In fact, we did it! ^_^

Of the other two, neither cared and I even gave an 'oral' present to one of them for his birthday. But that was like 4 years ago, when we were both 14.
All experimental phases for them and for me. So as you can see, coming out to your friends isn't all that bad. You may even get a good thing or two out of it.

Sad to say though, I've only kept one of those three friends as a best friend as the others went uber gothic and did too much drugs. Hope I helped with your problem at least a little! ^_^

[~Ðarç~]

i dont know if telling your friends is a good idea, cuz people these days; especially kids, can be mean and cruel =\ know your frnds very very well before telling them anything

[redcar]

hey Coldfire92, welcome to VT, i'm Alex by the way.

what ever sterotype you have in your mind about being gay get rid of it. a sterotype is just a characturer of the extreme. i am gay and i dont act like that, people i know who are gay dont act like that. being gay doesnt determine how you act, its just something thats inside you.

as for coming out, dont worry yourself about that. if you want to tell people you can, but its really no one elses business. its just who you are.

the embarassing part will pass. soon you will realise that being gay is not something that defines you, or anything else, its just something that you happen to be.

and most of all just be happy and do what you want to do. life is too short to be unhappy, so do what you want and be happy, fuck everyone else, its your life and you only get one shot at it.

[randomer]

if you tell your parents im sure theyll understand, i mean youre there son. As for your friends i dunno about them, depends how good friends they are.

[Dante]

Alex is right, you should get those stereotypes out of your head. If your gay, you dont have to walk or act a certain way.

I am actually skeptical on you telling your parents, I know how extrem republicans are, and trust there are cases, where parents disown their kids for it. I would talk to your parents about the subject and see where they currently stand. Then based on that, you make a decison.

As with your friends, they might be more understanding, tell your girl friends first, they more than likly will accept it.

With the STD thing, you can get an STD from anyone whether straight or gay, you just have to be careful

Hope I helped

[Chris luvin girls 4eva]

Hi

What i would do is go on a gay chat room, and then you are with lodes of other gay guys and there is nothing to be ashamed of .

[TheWizard]

You are only 14 and you might just be going through a gay curious phase. No need to label yourself. Give it time and don't worry about labeling yourself. Maybe when you've had sex with a guy or girl you will know for sure but until you do your just guessing.

[cooldudescott2]

if ur friends are not ok with it there not ur true friends friends stick to gather and ur parents good luke with them

[him]

i agree with the wizard and i think i was going through lots of phases like wedgies, spankings, Gay stuff, etc and i look back at it and im wooooooooh i cant belive i did that

[~Ðarç~]

if you tell your parents im sure theyll understand, i mean youre there son. As for your friends i dunno about them, depends how good friends they are.


yeah if you're parents start rejecting you for being gay, there's something seriously wrong there, and if your friends do, they're not your friends =\

[plopalopa]

wel they rely r ur frends they shud jus except u 4 hu u r!