HELP! Gay or Bi guys...

[DanielBoy]

It is a LONG story, so I'll try to cut it down. :P

There is this guy I've liked for a LONG time, and over the summer I finally got up the courage to talk to him, and ended up coming out to him. He said he was straight, but wanted me to suck his dick, and then he told me two weeks later he was bi. I've always known he wasn't straight, just the way he talks, looks and acts; I kind of think he is GAY not BI though.

Anyways, he said he wanted someone to have sex with, and he wasn't wanting a relationship until college, he don't want his parents to find out about his sexuality. Oh, only a FEW ppl know about him, his best friends, and me. Well we ended up having sex, my first, and we had ALLOT of fun. I took it as an open book, like we could go farther than sex, so I started trying to get him to clarify, but really wouldn't give me a straight answer, and I kind of got emotionally involved and a little insecure. Then I pushed an answer again, and he told me to forget him completely, and that I was emotionally compromised. This was two weeks ago.

Now since then, I see he has his relationship status as married to one of his best friends, a girl. They don't "SEEM" to be in a relationship, but they leave things like: "I love you more than you know" and shit on each others walls, but the most I've seen them do is hug, I feel like they just really good friends, but it confuses me. I know he just isn't ready for a relationship, and all, and he is a different person that he trys to make me believe, he says he don't care about anything or anybody, but I know him allot better than he thinks. I know he needs time, but we seniors, and IDK where he is gonna be next year, and I want a chance with him, but I just don't know what to do at this point. I REALLY like him, and have some strong feelings for him, but again, I'm just confused and don't know what to do, I don't want to get between him and his friend, if they dating, but I also don't want to miss out on the opportunity to have ANYTHING with him. It is sooo frustrating. If you want more of the story, I'll be happy to share. :P

What do you guys think, thanks for any answers. :P

[Skeletal-Chic]

In all honesty... it seems to me like he used you. Forget about him and moved on. There are guys much more worthy of you and your emotions than someone who leads you on jut for sex, then leaves you with difficult emotions to deal with while he displays a possible relationship in front of you.

All in all.
He's not worth it. He used you. Forget the dick.

[Dorsum Oppel]

He told you all he wanted was to have sex. Well, all he wanted was to have sex. You brought in platonic relationships, which scared him off.

[niceguy44]

he used you for his own pleasure.
did he use a condom?

[DanielBoy]

First, yes we used protection. But the weird thing is, even after we had sex, we were flirting and shit for like two weeks, and we only did it that once. He is such a sweet person. I would have been fine with leaving it at JUST sex, but originally he left the statement OPEN ENDED, and then for the longest time would be throwing other shit at me, like he threw EVERY type of mixed signal at me I could think of. It felt like to me, that everything was moving in a more serious direction, I kind of felt like he was getting into it, then one day, he just BOOM, turned into a COMPLETELY different person. He kept telling me he wasn't who I thought he was, I am a pretty good judge of character, and it was all a front. Brandon is indecisive, and confuses the hell out of me, never in my life have I been with someone who just threw off as many random signals as him.

My opinion is that emotionally he wants more, but Brandon doesn't want his parents to find out about his sexuality, or many of his friends for that matter, and when we discussed our original plans, neither of us wanted a serious relationship with someone of the same sex until college. I'm a more outgoing and open person, so of course when I found someone I liked, I didn't stay in the closet for very long, not that he knows I'm "OUT" but IDK. He still confuses me, like I catch him staring at me in the class I have with him, he turns away the second I look. I really feel like emotionally he wants it, but he doesn't want it to mess with his plans or something. This guy is one of the few guys I know that I would date. I know him, he isn't what he is trying to act like he is, I mean I even saw his personality show through his fronts today for a few seconds today, and he just retreated back. I can't tell him all of this, if just a VERY FEW of my emotions scared him, imagine all of this.

I like the sex, and I'm a talk to him in another two weeks when most of my emotions connected with the situation have worn off, and I'm going to tell him, I want the sex, and I'm going to leave it at what he wants to leave it at, if he wants more, he will need to take the lead. IDK, most confusing month and a half of my ENTIRE life. :P