im really scared..

[Necroxfiendx07]

So me and my girlfriend have been together for almost a year and 5 months. Recently we've been talking she realizes she really doesn't know who "she is". I've seen signs of this, and I'm really worried. What if she changes? What if her personality changes? I love this girl to death, and obviously besides her looks, her personality is what I'm drawn to. She is the only woman to have made me this happy. I asked her "what if your personality changes? What if I lose who I love?" And she said she can't answer that question. I feel like my chest is being ripped open just thinking about her personality changing. I love her the way she is, but she does need to find herself. But just because she needs to find herself, I don't think the core of her personality would change with it. Idk what to do, she is everything to me. Can anyone help me out?

[Sage]

People change all the time in their teenage years. To expect her to remain the same forever would be incredibly unreasonable. Let it happen, and if you no longer like her, well, go look for someone else then.

[Art_dude]

Ditto to what Sage said.

Be happy that she's evolving into her truer self. I hate using the term, "finding oneself, or discovering oneself." Besides being a redundant cliche it's just not a healthy idea - you don't find yourself, you INVENT yourself.

I'm guessing she's been reading, seeing or hearing about something that interests her and that has no doubt piqued her curiosity about who she is as a person. I doubt she'll fundamentally change who she is as a human being, but changes will no doubt follow. Also, personality is something that is relatively unchangeable. Her belief systems, values and interests may change but the woman you fell in love with has no doubt changed her personality. My advice? relax and let her become who she has to become. If it's for the better than great. If not, well then you'll just have to move on.

[myskias]

sage is exactly right. its that simple. let her go down her path and either accept her the way she is after or move on.

[Sage]

On a further note- If she's not sincerely being herself, can you really say you love her? I'm sure plenty of people would adore me if I dropped some of my tendencies, but I don't, because that would not be me.

[The Madness.]

Let her figure herself out. Then afterwards, if you still feel the same way, you're honestly in love with her. You don't just love someone because of certain ways, if you really love her, you'll love her no matter what kind of person she is.

[Dan_UK]

If she does want to try going down a new road etc, try going with her :)