Gay, Bi People. A book I read.

[Thylacine]

Ok recently I read a very good book called Being Homosexual By Richard A. Isay M.D

This book has helped me to accept myself and that the way that I am is not wrong and its just the way I am. I would recommend this book its a good read:yes:

But my main point in this book a link was mentioned that homosexual boy's often have distant fathers and domineering mothers. So in order to attract their fathers love they become more feminine. Psychologically in their subconscious. I have found that this is reflected in my life while I don't consider myself effeminate I do have a strong mother and a distant father. I love them very much of course.

Also it was mentioned that gay boys have an aversion to contact sports and do more arty farty things.

I know some of you won't like this but it is not a rubber stamp on all gay boys its just a view point.

Also he mentioned that bisexuals were either predominantly straight or gay and through some psychological event or maybe teenage hormones they have become confused. Of course some people are actually attracted to both but he commented this was rare.

I cannot really do justice to this book and to really understand you would have to read the book but I just wondered if any of you guys identified with this.:what:

Nb This guy has helped a lot of Gays' in a positive way.

[PJay]

It sounds about right to me in theory but i don't quite fit 100% I think?

Ok well I love my dad (most of the time) and I used to fight a LOT with my mum but we get on really well now. So yeah maybe that means mum is domineering.
I'm just me. I don't think i'm effeminate at all but i don't like macho crap that some guys do to fit in (just seems immature and fake to me).
Arty farty - yeah so i play guitar and i wish i could paint but i can't lol. I also do JuJitsu / judo and I don't mind Rugby but i dont like it enough to join a team (see macho crap above lol).

I think i'm odd because i've never questioned my sexuality i knew from literally 11/12 that i liked boys : basically as soon as i discovered sex it was about boys for me. I've always been comfortable with it so i'm just 'me' where at the other end i think some guys think 'ok so now i've realised i'm gay, time to top pretending to be straight so whats left? and they end up being quite stereotyped.

[willrod]

Sounds like an outdated view on being gay. In my psychology class the textbook says that that's been completely disproven. As for me, my father was never distant at all- he was about as loving and caring as any father could be. And my mother is absolutely amazing, the opposite of domineering. And I love contact sports- football, soccer, rugby sometimes. So no, not all gay guys are like that, and I think that's not how it happens at all. Most likely it seems to be a random genetic mutation, seeing as even identical twins can have one straight, the other gay.

[JimSauce]

Sounds like an outdated view on being gay. In my psychology class the textbook says that that's been completely disproven.

^This. The first thing I thought when reading the OP was "What? Haven't I read a million studies that disproved that claim already?"

[Alec Thomas]

thanks for the suggestion ;) I'll have to pick it up sometime and check things out :D

[Thylacine]

Its not really a theory the guy acknowledges that gayness is probably b4 u are born thing its just that he found that these factors were predominant in the childhoods of gay men. You really need to read the book to understand.

[Thylacine]

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[Zero Beat]

I'm glad to hear this book helped you accept who you are. That is a great thing :D

[trackstar9.875]

There's always one thing for sure about ANY book; It has an Author, and his/her writings are their observations and/or opinions.

So, let's see here...What did you say YOUR opinion was?

[Thylacine]

Well I agreed with alot of the things that it said as it eliminated the theses of those who believe that homosexuality is a disease.

[NVerson]

For me, I don't really have a distant father or a strong mother. So, this view point doesn't really fit me...
And next, about the contact sport. I do like sports like basketball or baseball but never have been interested in boxing, wrestling, or sth like that.

The theory about attraction for one gender being predominant fit me perfectly, considering that i had crush on only one girl in my entire lifetime (as far as i can think of) but had numerous crushes on guys. So, this sounds pretty right to me.

Well, I think you read a interesting book Liam!

[ryanmichael]

psychologist have proven the your sexual orientation is determined by the time your six years old not by who or how they raise you.