A Family Rant.

[DarkHorses]

My family really just... annoys me sometimes. There's my mom, who now that I've started school has developed the obsessive need to constantly remind me to do my homework, and to scream at me for being a procrastinator. She doesn't trust me to be responsible AT ALL.

Then there's my aunt, who always comments on my facebook statuses making it clear that she disapproves of what I'm saying in them. Even if I'm joking. She can't take a joke! And I can't say anything I want to.

And all of them aren't really accepting of who I am. I feel like I put on some kind of charade when I'm around them. I have to pretend that I'm 100% Christian, that I feel comfortable in that religion. Because God forbid they found out that I believed in God, but not in religion.

No one understands me. They all expect me to be this person that I stopped being a long time ago. I wish they could just accept me the way I am. Trust me, and accept me. But apparently that's impossible. I guess I'm stuck pretending for the rest of my life.

[Scarface]

(short off topic your avatar is amazing)

Well in regards to the Face Book situation the best solution to make sure you can say whatever it is you would like to say there are a few options: #1 being you could delete her off your friends list, which might not be the best idea depending on how she is as a person. #2 is you make a second Face Book for your friends and yourself that way you can say whatever you want to and you can add all of your friends there. That would probably be the best solution especially if you keep it discrete.

To be completely honest with you with your mother; she just wants the best for you and wants to you to show your true potential and all of your intelligence can show. She obviously doesn't think you're not capable of the work otherwise she wouldn't be bugging you about it. Parents will be parents, sometimes they can be a bit overboard and take things too seriously and that is completely normal. Just know that she cares about you and only wants the best. Just meet her halfway, I'm not trying to take her side completely because then i would be a hypocrite as I sometimes have a tendency to procrastinate as well. Just show her what your true abilities are because she see's them, but show it all!

The religion situation is very tough as everyone has their set ways. No one has the same beliefs as I have no belief in any higher power being or God, but I have no prejudice against anyone that does have that belief of a God. I understand you, I may not know you personally, but I can most definitely see your points of view and your situations. it's not that they don't trust or accept you, it's just they want you to be the best you can be, but sometimes they can go off the deep end with it. So try and have a filter in your mind for the things they say. Like when they say something about religion you may not completely agree with, don't internalize it, you don't have to change for anyone unless you, yourself want to change. So don't let their thoughts and the vibes you may get from them internalize because when you're free to make your own decisions you will. If you ever need someone to talk to I'm always here. you're not alone okay? Just hang in there and try to see the best in this situation as solutions are always available.

[Brighter.Tomorrow]

Sadly, mother's are like that. If you really want a change, maybe talk to her, if thats a no go, write her a letter. Letters express alot better.
As for your Aunt...Just ignore or bitchslap her. My aunt decided to post all over FB that I needed to find God and that I was a filthy sinner, I laughed and deleted her.
As for religion...Ask if you could pick up a book on Buddhism, Buddhism is a fairly accepted religion, and will give you insight if your mom is okay with you not being Christian.

[PJay]

I used to fight a lot with my mum and it was about all sorts of stuff. Nothing violent but really lots of emotion and raaaaaaargh over nothing sometimes.
We get on much better now i think it was hard for her realising i was not her baby any more, and i kind of appreciate that i still need her in my life because she's been there for me when i needed her, so i guess i'm not an adult yet even though i feel like i am most of the time. Also i think (surprise) we are a lot the same which was some of the problem.

Your aunt sounds like a nut job :eek: might be better off just 'coming out' about your feelings on religion and stop pretending to them : i think i'm right that you have a right under law to your own religious views.

@Rave.Light - i love your passion lol.