why is it always the friend zone?

[dmeek7]

wow it's been a while vt. i havnt been here and posted in a long while..but i have a problem i would like people to help me with.

here it is..why is it when i become friends with a girl and i end up liking her genuinly, and i think she likes me i tell her how i feel and she always tells me that she only thinks of me as a friend? i got stuck in the "friend zone" and everyone knows once you get into the friend zone there really isnt any getting out. so another questions is, what can i do to stay out of the friend zone while being firends with a girl??..i wanna be good friends with a girl but i wanna be able to tell her how i feel and maybe eventually date her without her telling me that im just a friend to her and there is no possible way to be anymore?

[Kahn]

There really isn't any advice to get out. You just have to try.

Flirt with girls when you start talking to them regularly, or just flat out say you like them. Hang out with them more outside of school and talk to them inside of school. There has to be at least one girl that thinks about you more than a friend. I'm sorry this is such a short answer, but there really isn't much to say about this. Sorry dude. :/

[Art_dude]

Unfortunately what you're asking for is a rare form of love - being romantically involved with someone you want to also consider your best friend. Often it's either just a friend or just a romantic relationship. If some of us are lucky we get both. I'm not saying compromise for just anyone, but realize that romantic partners are different spheres of your social life. Have friends that are girls, and have girlfriends. both are important.

But if you are looking for both, than make sure you start off as romantically interested first - as you know, if you start off in the friend zone it's near impossible to get out. Adam gave great suggestions, just flat out make it known that you're interested in them. Friendship can always be built later, but for now start with a strong romantic entrance.

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[Dan_UK]

wow it's been a while vt. i havnt been here and posted in a long while..but i have a problem i would like people to help me with.

here it is..why is it when i become friends with a girl and i end up liking her genuinly, and i think she likes me i tell her how i feel and she always tells me that she only thinks of me as a friend? i got stuck in the "friend zone" and everyone knows once you get into the friend zone there really isnt any getting out. so another questions is, what can i do to stay out of the friend zone while being firends with a girl??..i wanna be good friends with a girl but i wanna be able to tell her how i feel and maybe eventually date her without her telling me that im just a friend to her and there is no possible way to be anymore?

Girls like "jerks" as such, because they're "more exciting" to them, girls want a guy that they won't get bored of, and being nice doesn't cut it for them, girls want to be ignored a little, it's your best bet of getting a girl

Oh yeah, and making sure you are physically fit and have clear skin is important too, not just girls, but people in general are horribly judgemental, so if you don't look the part, your chances drop like a rock in the sea


Contraversial, maybe
True, certainly

[dmeek7]

i take all that into consideration. i have a friend that's a girl right now, and she knows i like her..that's to the point im at right now. any suggestions...btw, she's the goody two shoes girl that has never had a boyfriend, and is smart, and an only child so she's spoiled and she knows she's pretty.

[Cjg1075]

i take all that into consideration. i have a friend that's a girl right now, and she knows i like her..that's to the point im at right now. any suggestions...btw, she's the goody two shoes girl that has never had a boyfriend, and is smart, and an only child so she's spoiled and she knows she's pretty.
*sigh* i have found that i was in a similar situation i think deep down we both liked each other but she went to a different school and now we rarely talk....but i digress a good tip is to try and share her interests