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coolkid719
September 18th, 2010, 09:18 PM
So I have two best friends that we all hang out together often. (one guy, one girl) (and I'm a guy)

The littlest things get to me, but those littlest things group up to make a huge issue...a huge scar on my heart.

There are these times when I think the guy friend and girl friend are more friendly and close to each other than I am to both of these guys. (I've met them the longest btw)

They always tell me that they love me, but it just seems so contradictory to me...
because I feel so left out...
I have jealously to my guy friend AND to my girl friend, which is just...so pressuring...
The girl friend seems more happy with the guy friend, and the guy friend seems more happy for the girl friend...
I may be overreacting, but that's just how I view it, and I get severely depressed from that.
I think about them all the time because I love them too...but I feel like I don't get anything back from any of them.
I cry in my sleep sometimes...and I feel so hopeless...

Help.

Kaius
September 18th, 2010, 10:24 PM
I think this is one of those times where you'll need to sit them down and talk to them about it and how its making you feel. If you three are all friends but you're feeling left out I think its something you'll need to work out if you're going to make this friendship work. Is there any point during or after school you're alone with them? Just sit down and think to yourself, maybe write a list about what you personally want to change about it, then say to them that you feel left out of the group and so on.

Art_dude
September 20th, 2010, 08:56 AM
I think you should explore what you're feeling in a little bit more depth. What is the nature of your jealousy? Is it simply that they seem to get along more, or do they legitimately exclude you from certain activities? Jealousy is a consuming emotion with anger and sadness at the heart of it. I think once you locate the source of these feelings, you'll be better prepare to (as Kaius suggested) sit them down and talk about it.

PJay
September 20th, 2010, 09:03 AM
I think you should explore what you're feeling in a little bit more depth. What is the nature of your jealousy? Is it simply that they seem to get along more, or do they legitimately exclude you from certain activities? Jealousy is a consuming emotion with anger and sadness at the heart of it. I think once you locate the source of these feelings, you'll be better prepare to (as Kaius suggested) sit them down and talk about it.

Wow i just wanted to say that is just ... deep and wise.

@OP I was wondering if you want more from one of them that you are getting (i.e. love / sex) or if maybe you are scared of getting shut out of the friendship if there is something like that between the two of them. But i think Kaius and Art_Dude make awesome sense about what to do next.