Childish behavior?

[Tenkotsu]

I think I ignored it a lot, it doesn't make much sense, but I realized that I don't like girls, at least most of them, I don't like them, I feel like I only want to be with guys, at least have a kind of best guy friend, I don't know.

I mean, I do have some girl friends, but I've never been attracted to them and I feel more connected to my boy-friends (hehe :P). I don't know, I feel that I can't talk to them, I can't relate to them or be with them, I don't find them interesting or anything, they don't make me feel anything because... Well, I'm not sure, it's like I don't want to be associated with them, I only want to be with guys, (well, at least with a special one :wub:).

What do you think? It seems like I'm still a 7 year old that wants to have only his best friend and only hang out with him and be like "special super bro buddies" and stuff (and I wish I could :wub:) but It's not right to act like that, but I can't help it :confused:

[Nicky97]

You're listening to what "they" say, aren't you? Best buddies can be wonderful on so many different levels. Don't let anyone convince you that youthful wonder is ever inappropriate. Wish you luck finding that guy, but even if it's a succession of best buddies, what YOU feel is always right for you.

[Aspiringanonymous]

Who says it's not right to act like that? My ideal form of companionship is platonic - a best friend who is compatible enough to share a life with in the long term. I don't understand romance, and never, ever want a sexual relationship. But that doesn't mean I won't treat my companion seriously or whatever that seems to imply to the vast majority of people. The purpose is to have a subject of interaction that is close enough to be meaningful, right? The other stuff just seems, redundant. Almost everyone who reads this will disagree, but I'm entitled to my opinion, and my lifestyle which isn't hurting anyone.

Be whatever you are most comfortable with being, and stand confident. Screw what society says.

[Billy15]

Hey Erick,

Why isn't it right? Why can't you have choices, preferences and live your life in whatever way that makes you happy? Why is that childish?

Some people love steak, others don't. Some people prefer blonds, others prefer dark hair. Some people like gravy on their potatoes, some prefer butter. What I'm trying to say is that your an individual (not like anyone else) you are unique and it sounds like you know what makes you happy, so why not go with what you know, what you prefer?

I have a few female friends and their alright in certain situations but like you, I prefer to hang with the guys because we have so much more in common, their more fun to be around and in my opinion (because I am gay) well they just look a lot better to lol.

My advice, just be yourself and go with whatever makes you feel complete and happy.

[Tenkotsu]

Yeah, now that I realized this I feel kind of calm, like, a big relief for some reason, but I still fear what other people would think, if I only hang out with guys. It seems kind of wrong that I don't like girls at all and I'm not sure why is that. I don't know why I only like guys :confused: I wish I knew why :P

[Aspiringanonymous]

Let them think what they wish. Alternative pursuits seem wrong because we have been conditioned to accept a certain set of values since birth - and the initial struggle against it is always difficult. It will get easier with time.

[Scooby Dooby Drew]

*facepalm*
I'm such an idiot, I read this as you saying that you're a 7 year old XD

So anyways, I don't think there's anything wrong with being gay, or simply not being interested in girls and only wanting to be best friends with guys
:p
In today's society, you can get away with any sort of sexuality (assuming it's not illegal), whether you be gay, or even asexual, or only feeling platonic or romantic love, and who cares what other people think of your choices?

[Tenkotsu]

Well, I've been thinking about it and maybe that's why I like my best friends twins, because they have the relationship that I want, it's like two guys that know and love each other and hang out together and do stuff together :D. I really wish I had a relationship like that with somebody, well something like that as I've said :)

But I'm wondering, is this "I don't like girls at all" attitude a sign of immaturity? Do any of you felt like that and then started liking girls?

I'm not totally sure, since, I'm 18 already so by now I should be liking girls, I'm feeling ok with it and accepting it, actually I feel very happy being honest with myself finally and I really want to be with a guy like that, but is it still possible that I change? I still don't know if this is the right thing. I feel guilty too for thinking this =/

[Billy15]

I'm not sure if your saying that your gay or just like hanging with guys but I am 15 and this past year finally admitted that I was gay and it was the hardest thing I ever done
(still is in some ways) so if your saying that you think your gay, then no, it's not unusual
for it to be bothering you in some ways because it was for me and admitting that your different from most of the world is not an easy thing to do but i'm happy now.

As for girls lol, two of my very best friends are girls and i really like them a lot but as far as being attracted to them or anything like that, i have never been attracted to girls in that way and without a doubt lol, i much rather hang with the guys.

[Tenkotsu]

Well, it's kind of weird, I'm accepting now that I simply don't like girls and I only like guys, that I want a special best friend to be with and do stuff :) (hang out a lot, talk about lots of things, knew each other and all), but I'm also unsure if this is exactly the right thing, if it's my fault or if it is completely wrong to think this.

I'm not sure if this is a "phase" I'm stucked or if this is who I am :confused:

[nick]

Erick, I've read through all the posts in this thread and I dont feel that there's anything in here to allow me to judge whether your feelings are anything to do with sexuality. I'm not sure if this is because you are holding back on anything, we cant give the best advice unless you are completely open with us, or whether, which is as I read it at the moment, you dont really have sexual feelings for either sex at the moment. I also have no idea how old you are.

Based on what you've said, and this is not supposed to be rude or patronising, I think it could be "childish behaviour", that you just havent reached enough emotional maturity yet to know how you feel. There's nothing wrong with that. Don't push it, give yourself all the time you need, and in the mean time just be friends with who ever you like.

[PJay]

I'm gay and I definately what that best buddy thing, so much that its almost got me into trouble a few times with guy friends. My best friend was a girl when I was 10 and a couple of girls have been good friends to me this past year which was kind of a surprise . I think i'm a bit like you but the best way i can say it is girls I don't like annoy me way more than (most) guys I don't like. I hate people who are 'fake' and there are a lot of girls who act that way at my school so perhaps thats it for me. I think sometimes i'm jealous of them flirting with the boys :rolleyes:

[Tenkotsu]

Ok, I'll try to be as clear as possible, I might end up repeating myself and maybe adding other things because I can't stop thinking about it.

I'm 18 already and I've admitted to myself recently that I only like guys and I don't like girls at all, I'm not attracted to them, they don't make me feel anything at all, I'm not after them. I denied it before, never wanted to touch that topic of "why I don't like girls?" or "why I haven't tried to get a girlfriend" Am I too shy, or maybe too embarassed, do I have such a low self-esteem that I don't consider myself worthy of someone? I don't know, I never even wanted to try to go after them because I felt that I was just pretending and I actually didn't want a girlfriend.

It sounds silly, maybe it's because I watch too much tv hehe, but I want a best friend, or best friends to talk about anything, to do stuff, hang out, to be with each other, to cheer each other and all. Which is why I don't know if maybe I'm not actually gay, I'm just emotionally immature or something like that, maybe I haven't snapped from that "phase", the phase that girls are icky and all, if it exists and is not something just from tv also hehe. It sometimes makes me jelous to see two male best friends =/ because I want one.

Well I do like guys and the more I think of it, the more it sounds that I actually want a boyfriend:wub:. Or maybe a best male friend that pretty much is my boyfriend hehehe as in ultra super friends and all.

You can ask me other things if I you need to know something, it's ok :)

[DrkZ90]

I know what you mean, because is for the most part how I feel (I accept I'm gay, whether I like it or not), and all I can say is I really know how it feels, because having a best friend to trust next to me is what I want the most, someone physically next to me to trust.