what is wrong with self harm?

[tombstone]

i've been self harming for about 8 months now, it seems to keep getting worse, but less frequently.

its so hard for me to talk about this sort of stuff, im not really sure why. i guess its because i've always kept it to myself. There's only a handful of people know, not even my family.

in terms of self harm i have a lot of talk about i think, but no one to really talk about it to. this 100+ posts to pm someone does a lot less bad than good in my opinion.

what i wanted to ask was, what is wrong with self harm? its something i'm trying to figure out for my self. no one ever see's my arm apart from my g/f and she doesn't seem to really care about it any more. The only reason i can think of is; it upsets the people around you, and seeing the scars reminds you of the pain and the easy relief (self self-perpetuating).

i know if i could stop i would, i know i should, i don't know why, but its a lot easier to give advice like that than to follow it yourself.......

[Patchy]

Dangers of self harm:

Addiction
Infection
Possibility of scarring
Bullied due to it

and mostly because its something dangerous - theres many more but I cant think of them of the top of of my head.

[welcome_to_chaos]

The problem is...once u start u cant stop. u think you have control. you think u are on top but really it controls you. you might start out with a few scratches but they do get deeper and greater in number. and if u use a razor blade chances are you will nick an artiry one day. but for most people its shameful. you see yourself resorting to...to hurting yourself just to feel good for a moment...but that moment fades. and the regret comes. its not worth it. and if u dont relize it now u will. you can get serious infections from cutting. and to prevent it u end up buying lots of first aid supplies. you may not see it now. u may think "oh iits just a few cuts"...your wrong. very wrong. it will get worse. trust me. and youll find yourself lying to yourself saying you can stop whenever you want but you cant once you start its a chalenge to stop. go see the non-self harm calender and take a look at how hard those people are trying to stop. and the fact is. they all started with one cut.

[allsoulsareblack]

i have been selfharming for over two years now i have stoped for tho moment but its not easy lasttime i selfharmed i got sectoned for more than 5 weeks in manchester it was that horrible that i now have just prity much hide what im feeling i were a mask im smile but im dead inside i feel like im going to explode and im realy angry but i play evryones game happy go lucky me but on my own i cut myself with a razor hopeing that no one finds the marks cus if i get sectioned again its for 6 months i think that should anser your question

[MuzicIz4ever]

I've been wondering this myselffor a while and I just knew that t was apparently wrong so that's all that gave me any sliver of driveto stop.
Which rings me to a question - why do we try so hard to do things in life just because we wan to- but we all... Die. So... Why do we try? I'm not suicidal and I'm not trying to influence anyone at all!! I just want some answers.. Please

[Aspiringanonymous]

Why do we try - why not? Life is never about the destination, because that implies death - it is about the journey. How one experiences their journey of life matters. A path of delusion and self-destruction is very different from one of awareness and control. Choose the latter, because you deserve it, even if you struggle to believe so. There are the physical dangers of self harm - permanent scarring and other forms of damage; it is also possible to accidentally kill yourself in the act. But the mental dangers are more pressing - the danger of addiction and loss of control, of one day finding yourself in a better place after circumstances have changed, only to realize that a lingering dependency to self-harm prevents you from moving on from the pain of the past..

If you need someone to talk to, feel free to PM me any time - staff are exempt from the post restriction.

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[Obscene Eyedeas]

i've been self harming for about 8 months now, it seems to keep getting worse, but less frequently.

its so hard for me to talk about this sort of stuff, im not really sure why. i guess its because i've always kept it to myself. There's only a handful of people know, not even my family.

in terms of self harm i have a lot of talk about i think, but no one to really talk about it to. this 100+ posts to pm someone does a lot less bad than good in my opinion.

what i wanted to ask was, what is wrong with self harm? its something i'm trying to figure out for my self. no one ever see's my arm apart from my g/f and she doesn't seem to really care about it any more. The only reason i can think of is; it upsets the people around you, and seeing the scars reminds you of the pain and the easy relief (self self-perpetuating).

i know if i could stop i would, i know i should, i don't know why, but its a lot easier to give advice like that than to follow it yourself.......

it's easier to give advice because you dont need to do anything other then listen and talk but to try and stop something you've become dependant on is hard. self harm isn't the answer to anything it can just lead to serious health problems and social problems in life. life is hard enough already why Add to it. if you need to talk you can pm me as maya said staff are exempt. when you're quitting self harm make sure that you're doing it for yourself and you can do it

[Mike321]

As the other have said really, once you start, its very hard to stop yourself, like with any other addiction, then there are chances of infection if you dont keep the cuts clean etc. And your right, it does affect and upset the people around you if they find out, people react in different ways
And its always easier to gvie advice, because you dont need to listen or act upon what you say.
If you really want to stop, maybe see a councillor for advice, as they probably will have heard stories similar to yours before