Question, please help!

[Delta_301]

Hey all.

I'm new here and this is my first post, so please be nice :D lol

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Okay to my question.

Some background information on me; I am 16, never had any sort of relationship experience and i am most likely bi, more towards girls.

My situation is that I have been in love with this girl for about a year now. She seems perfect for me and I have tried everything in my power to get noticed by her. She doesn't know I exist, lol.

My problem? She is 13, and I can only imagine this would cause some trouble with friends on both sides, parents etc.

So my first question is, is me being in love with someone 3 years younger than me acceptable, through your eyes? I have searched in-depth on Google, so please don't send me any links to Yahoo questions, as I've most likely seen it before.

Let's consider these circumstances:

-They both love each other very much
-Not interested in any sexual activities
-Mature and sensible about their relationship
-Enjoy each other's company

Would that be acceptable?

To my second question now.

How the hell do I get her to notice me first of all? I want to become friends with her so I can start to maybe tell her how I feel, but I don't want to go right up and talk to her first off, that might seem a little weird. I just am basically asking for tips on how to make friends with her. I think I can handle it from there.

Thanks so much for all your help people, it's rather killing me now being able to be even friends with this girl.

Cheers

-delta

[Nevfx]

Some background information on me; I am 16, never had any sort of relationship experience and i am most likely bi, more towards girls.

My situation is that I have been in love with this girl for about a year now. She seems perfect for me and I have tried everything in my power to get noticed by her. She doesn't know I exist, lol.

My problem? She is 13, and I can only imagine this would cause some trouble with friends on both sides, parents etc.

So my first question is, is me being in love with someone 3 years younger than me acceptable, through your eyes? I have searched in-depth on Google, so please don't send me any links to Yahoo questions, as I've most likely seen it before.

Let's consider these circumstances:

-They both love each other very much
-Not interested in any sexual activities
-Mature and sensible about their relationship
-Enjoy each other's company

Would that be acceptable?


To me, no. You cant change the way you feel, and your not interested in sexual activities but dude, she is to young. I mean I know, in 3 years time, when your 19 and she is 16 it wont seem AS bad, but for now, I dont think you can do anything, except be friends.

To my second question now.

How the hell do I get her to notice me first of all? I want to become friends with her so I can start to maybe tell her how I feel, but I don't want to go right up and talk to her first off, that might seem a little weird. I just am basically asking for tips on how to make friends with her. I think I can handle it from there.

Thanks so much for all your help people, it's rather killing me now being able to be even friends with this girl.

Just be yourself. All you can done. Make an excuse to go and talk to her.

[Delta_301]

Yeah well that's the problem because anything I do my friends would wonder. Perhaps it's better to tell them first? If they accept it they would know what I'm up to when I try to talk to her. y/n?

[Nevfx]

Well they will find out anyway, so, you might as well.

[everestclimber]

the age difference is not to bad I know a few people that have gone out with people a few years younger. Ussually its no problame

[Billy15]

If your worried about what your friends are going to say then in my opinion I doubt your ready to date and that doesn't sound like love to me. If you really love this girl, then I would think that she would be your main concern, not being accepted by friends.

and second, whats wrong with just walking up to her, saying that she's beautiful and that you've had a crush on her for a long time? I mean do you really like her or not?

I think we spend so much of our time talking ourselves out of things (like this and I'm guilty to) that we let whats "real" slip right through our fingers and then we sit back and wonder why we're alone and lonely. Suck it up and take a chance, it might be the first step of a great thing, who knows.

[PJay]

If she was immature physically it would be difficult i think, but most girls seem to start earlier than boys. I can understand you being nervous if you both getting teased if the age gap was obvious and like, you probably think why would you put her through that. I guess you could be discret about it for a while but that could be hard too.

No one else can make this go away (unless she asks you first i guess) so you need to make a decision or move on, or it will just keep eating at you. What Billy said makes alot of sense to me ^^^

[Powerline]

I dont see any problem with the age difference. If you both love each other or both have feelings than you cant stop that. It might bring up other questions from people like "Wow shes to young for him or he's too old for her" But like I said you cant stop love and people just need to deal with it. As for talking to her just approach her calmly and talk about little things like your interests. See if you have anything in common with each other. If she likes you back then score.