Blergh. Really?

[starbrite5]

I'm not good at explaining things briefly, so bear with me:

In March I started dating this guy who was really nice. But that the thing, he was REALLY nice, by which I mean clingy. He was always giving me little presents and walking with me everywhere. I felt suffocated, especially because we'd only been dating for like two or three weeks. So I started avoiding him, and he started cheating on me with his ex, and then when I was trying to break up with him, he avoided me. Overall, it just took way too long to break up with him.

We said we would be friends, but I never really meant it, I didn't think he did either. I went on to clarify this to him later. But then this summer, my best friend told me that he actually still liked me and wanted to date me, except he was still dating the girl he dumped me for. Then, right before school started, they broke up. He kept sitting behind me in class, and edging into my conversations, when I made it clear earlier, I don't want to talk to him. But I feel like I can't get over it until I tell him to piss off. Which my best friend took into consideration when she told him to talk to me tomorrow. And I'm glad she did, but still... I feel all anxious and crappy. How do I tell him that I don't want to see his face without sounding like a bitch? I hate being mean, but he's not going to get it unless I make it really clear.

[Nevfx]

To him, you cant not sound like a bitch, but he will just have to get over it.

All you can do is tell him exacltly how you feel, and he has to deal with it.

[Dan_UK]

I'm not good at explaining things briefly, so bear with me:

In March I started dating this guy who was really nice. But that the thing, he was REALLY nice, by which I mean clingy. He was always giving me little presents and walking with me everywhere. I felt suffocated, especially because we'd only been dating for like two or three weeks. So I started avoiding him, and he started cheating on me with his ex, and then when I was trying to break up with him, he avoided me. Overall, it just took way too long to break up with him.

We said we would be friends, but I never really meant it, I didn't think he did either. I went on to clarify this to him later. But then this summer, my best friend told me that he actually still liked me and wanted to date me, except he was still dating the girl he dumped me for. Then, right before school started, they broke up. He kept sitting behind me in class, and edging into my conversations, when I made it clear earlier, I don't want to talk to him. But I feel like I can't get over it until I tell him to piss off. Which my best friend took into consideration when she told him to talk to me tomorrow. And I'm glad she did, but still... I feel all anxious and crappy. How do I tell him that I don't want to see his face without sounding like a bitch? I hate being mean, but he's not going to get it unless I make it really clear.

As harsh as it sounds, you deserve inconvenience, if a guy is a little clingy, just damn well tell him, don't start avoiding him like some 4th grader who doesn't know how to talk to other people properly :mad:

[starbrite5]

As harsh as it sounds, you deserve inconvenience, if a guy is a little clingy, just damn well tell him, don't start avoiding him like some 4th grader who doesn't know how to talk to other people properly :mad:

I know I shouldn't avoid people, that was just a really rough few months in terms of anxiety. Even now, the idea of having this talk almost sends me into a panic attack, but I know I should have it. :/

[Dan_UK]

I know I shouldn't avoid people, that was just a really rough few months in terms of anxiety. Even now, the idea of having this talk almost sends me into a panic attack, but I know I should have it. :/

Hmm, I suppose at least realising ignoring him was a bad idea is something, at this point all you can really do if you aren't attracted to him at all anymore is to let him down lightly, by either explaining the truth or saying it was to do with your anxiety that you split up, so he doesn't feel like it was his fault

[Nevfx]

Just be honest. Sometimes trying to "butter" him up or tell him lightly will lead him to think he still has a chance.

[starbrite5]

My sister told me to just say "Fuck off." I suppose I should find a bit of a middle ground between that and being superficially nice.

[Dan_UK]

My sister told me to just say "Fuck off." I suppose I should find a bit of a middle ground between that and being superficially nice.


Yeah, it's easily possible to be nice but still get the message accross, and if you think they aren't getting the message, just throw in some things like "it's a shame things didn't work out" etc