Bully.

[Emtay]

I've never had this problem and then recently some kid at my school decided to make my life miserable. He'd constantly make crude remarks or would harass me for the scars on my arm. While I found it in me to tell him off and tell my teacher, I still am afraid of what will happen. I hate making big deals of things. Thankfully he will be far from me in the classroom as opposed to right beside me.

But I just wonder, why me? What did I do to deserve this? Just as things were getting better for me, school has become hell for that ONE class. I have an army of friends to help me, but my heart feels too broken for it to help.

[Nevfx]

I understand this feeling. When I was at school, for my first two years of secondary school, these guys picked on me over ANY little detail. Everyone else was like "ignore them" and stuff like that but it never helped, like you, I was screwed up inside and those words didnt reach me.

Until one day, I just stopped caring. Not just about those guys though, but everyone. I recommend you dont do that.

I know its difficult, but just ignore him. You have told someone now, no one can expect anymore from you.

[Emtay]

Thanks, I tried ignoring him and it didn't work out that well. I'm hoping it will get better.
I just avoid him. Thankfully I don't see him except in that class, and being on the other side of the room eliminates most contact.
What just irks me is that no one stood up for me, even if the people around me were assholes.

[Love.Hate]

I know exactly how you feel,
dont worry carry on ignoring him and it will gradually
stop because he will get bored.

meanwhile, you have done everything you can. so good luck,
and to the "why me?" question.
there is no answer to that im afraid, if it wasnt you it would have
been someone else. i hope this helps x

[Paladino]

This guy seems like a total arsehole. Tbh dont worry about it, hes not exactly perfect is he, tbh he is pathetic for bullying you because of scars on your arms. Just ignore him and if he really annoys you find something bad about him and say something to him about it.

[myskias]

its a test emily. the reason this is happening to you is because your life is getting better. and if u cant push through a small thing like this you wont be able to push though harder things in the future. you just need to be strong and not let him bother you. youre better than that :)

[PJay]

gah i wrote a lot of stuff and hit my back button by accident and lost it.

but i care enough to type it again so here goes lol.

I had something similar when i came out last year and there was a time when i really didnt want to go into school but then it stopped by the end of the year because i think they grew up a bit or got bored. It was hard beacause i'd been fairly popular before that and never had to deal with things like this. All pretty much back to normal now though. So hopefully that will happen for you. but if it doesn't or if it is getting you so down you dont want to go in or worse, then just tell a teacher or someone like that. I had a really good talk with the IT guy at our school (i love computers so i'm always hanging around the it rooms after school) and he really helped me with advice and support.

hope that helps, and i really hope some of the people around you get some courage and help you out.

[red_dragon]

He may be picking on you because, he feels insecure about himself. He must find its upsetting seeing you have friends who care about you when he may have no one.

[dbrkk]

I second what Mike said. More often than not, bullies are very VERY insecure people. By putting other people down, it makes them feel better about themselves. In response to your "why me?" question, it's likely because he saw that you were a bit insecure, and he used that as a way to get to you. I've been recovering from an eating disorder and severe body image problems. Bullies have sensed this and used appearance as a way to put me down because they KNOW it will hurt me. The best thing you can do is try and remind yourself what it is they're trying to achieve, and not giving them that satisfaction. The old "ignoring" trick never works..maybe for some, but in my experience it actually makes things worse.

[Jagster]

Emily, to be blunt, everyone in life is going to go both sides of bullying. They'll be the bully, and will get bullied. It's how life works. On a bright side, there is an optimism to all this.

I've been continuously told that bullies are only bullies because they have their own life problems and think that their only outlet is to put the weight on someone else's shoulders. So they extract that pain and suffering from their life and inject it in to someone else's.

There are many ways to stop a bully. One, truly is, tell a teacher. I've done this myself because of all the times that someone at my school has made fun of me for having homosexuality in me, but it never stopped me. To make it work though, you really have to establish a great friendship with every teacher in your school so they can help.

So, all I can say is, just keep your head up and get help every time you need it. You don't need a bully to tell you how to live YOUR life. It's YOUR life, so live it how YOU want it to be.