Confused :/

[Nord88]

Right. where to begin.

Basically my, now ex, girlfriend and i have been going out for 6 months, in these past 6 months we've both kept saying how happy we were and how much we love each other, our sex life was good, we could talk for hours on end without noticing the time gone past, just looking at each other would make us smile , and so it went on like this until a few days ago when she rung me and broke up with me :(

I talked to her and she tells me she still loves me and she misses me alot, her reason (that she's told me) for leaving me was that she didn't want to be worrying about me and getting pissed off all the time, or something along those lines... now i've met up with her twice since and its been just like it was before we were going out, i've been making out with her, she wanted ot ahve sex but i said no, the other day we talked for 3 hours straight about nothing in particular, i've asked her out agian but she says she doesn't know yet.

Basically im at loss of what i should do, my friends are telling me to forget her and move on, but even thinking about that makes me feel sick to my stomach as i can't even go a day without thinking about her and i don't want to forget her as she makes me so happy, i havn't eaten in 4 days because everytime i do i remember something about her and just can't keep anything down :/

This saterday i've planned to go on a picnic with her, which we were going to do when we were together but never got round to it. im going to ask her to tell me whats happening once and for all...

Just wondering if anyone had any advice on what to do?

[Paladino]

Well if she really loves you she will go back out with you eventually, she might just be confused but she'll come round and on Saturday talk her through it, remind her of the positives of when you two were going out and she will realise that she mistakendly dumped you.

[Art_dude]

First of all, NEVER let ANYONE affect your health like that. Your body is your temple. Eat something and take care of yourself.

As for the situation... it sounds like she's unclear about what she wants and she's toying around with your emotions. Next time you see her, you need to make it explicitly clear that you want an answer as to what she wants. Don't allow her to lead you on if she really doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore. I see this happen all the time with girls getting out of long term relationships: they say they want out, and then they continue to abuse privileges of being in a relationship. It's fine to maintain friendship after a break up, but guess what - FRIENDS DON'T HAVE SEX. she's very obviously confused. You need to tell her to make up her mind, or not contact you until she's made a decision. It is unfair for her to figure out what she wants at the expense of your emotions.

[Nord88]

the thing is, well, i like to think i know her pretty well and she's really not the kind of person who'd play with people like that, i may just be being naive.
and im waiting until saterday, and just not seeing her so much until then, so she may have a chance to miss me .

[Art_dude]

I'm not saying she's doing it intentionally - she very well may not realize she's doing it. I doubt it, but it's possible. You certainly know her pretty well, but can you say that she wouldn't do that without being biased by your love for her?

Regardless, she still needs to figure out what she wants. Do you want to be put through emotional roller coasters until she finds out on a whim? I think it's good that you're waiting until Saturday. It will definitely give her time to really reflect and figure things out. I hope it works out for you two.

[Aves]

I know how you feel. Not to the same extent, because my ex and I only lasted a week and a half. But before we went out, I had a crush on her for 6 months >_>, and I know how it feels after all that time for her to break your heart. I don't know about your food issue, but I can tell you this. Just try and be her friend. Maybe you two will end up together again, but friendship is better than nothing.

[Nord88]

its now almost two weeks since we split and its just the same :/ im virtually going out with her, minus the actually going out with her part, if that makes sense?

we still text each other all the time, see each other and make out etc, have deep conversations and all the usual stuff.

Im at a loss as to what to do. i know that i should probably stop seeing her, as she's probably just messing me around but, i don't want to loose her and she tells me the same :/ i reckon part of the problem might be she might like someone else a bit aswell, but im not sure.

HELP!!! =)

[Art_dude]

Clearly there's nothing any of us can do for you. You are so deep into your infatuation for her you can't even see the harm your doing.

Let me ask you something - are you satisfied? Do you feel like this is actually going anywhere? Do you feel appreciated? orrrrr
do you feel confused? do you see this ending up in more pain? do you feel used?

I'm guessing it's the latter.
You can't continue to hurt yourself like this just because you, "don't want to lose her." Either commit to reentering your destructive relationship with her or break up for good. Continually staying in limbo will not help you. You have an important choice to make. Either continue your habitual patterns, and shut down, or see a new opportunity and help yourself.