Friend of mine...

[mexa]

So I have this friend, he's been through A LOT. Apparently his father died a while ago and it seems his family blames him for it, which is quite weird if you ask me, why would you blame the youngest (i think) boy in the family for a death? seriously! He hasn't told me how it happened but I don't want to ask, don't want to make him remember that moment...

Now add the fact that he has heart problems (he already had surgery) and a possibility of AIDS (seems the doctors fucked up, but I think he still doesn't know for sure), what kind of family would leave behind a son that needs so much support? I mean wtf?! do we really live in such a fucked up world? :(

He's told me he lives with his older brother who works...and still gets some money from his dad's job, or something like that I'm not sure, I don't feel its right to ask him about it.

I really like him, he's a good friend, happy and positive even though he's going and been through a lot. When I think about his problems I notice mine are minuscule and feel like I'm a selfish self-centered bastard =/.

I want to help him, tell him I'm here for him, show him I care...but it feels awkward to say that, I don't know why it just does. I just...I don't know what to do or say to him sometimes.

I'm not even sure if I'm asking for advice...I just feel like I need to tell someone, I need opinions please.

Thanks to all in advance.

[DrkZ90]

Tell him just that... that he means a lot to you, and that he can count on you anytime he needs someone, I bet you he will be very happy if he hears that from you.

[MacMilker]

I really like him, he's a good friend, happy and positive even though he's going and been through a lot. When I think about his problems I notice mine are minuscule and feel like I'm a selfish self-centered bastard =/

Oh how I can relate to that..

But my advice to you is to;
1. Tell him your there for him, always.
2. Ask him more about whats going on so you have a better understanding.
3. Tell him about how you feel.

[mexa]

Tell him just that... that he means a lot to you, and that he can count on you anytime he needs someone, I bet you he will be very happy if he hears that from you.

I want to, I really do, but then I worry if he'll feel awkward when I say it =/


2. Ask him more about whats going on so you have a better understanding.


Yes I guess figuring out what really happened would help in a way, but I don't really feel like I should ask...then again there's no better way I can help him if I don't know what is really going on I guess...

[DrkZ90]

If he really needs you he won't feel it as awkward, he will be very pleased and thankful for having you by his side, that's what I wanted to point out...

A simple "how are you?" or a "What's wrong?" could also give him the message that you care.... but there's nothing like saying it up-front.