i don't want to be the last

[mori]

i'm 16 and in few month i'll be 17
i have a gf for 4 months
last month when we made out we got to 2nd base
since then we've done it a few times and i started thinking forward about 3rd base and even sex.
but then... yesterday, we got to this talk about sex and she told me she want to stop with the 2nd base because she think it's ruining our relationship, that it makes her feel "unpure" and that she doesn't want to have sex till she's at least 18-19 and what bugs me is that now i'm probably going to be the last out of my friends to have sex... and i completely respect her and i totally understand it that she doesn't want to but idk i just really don't wanna be the last :S and we are in a very deep relationship, i became almost like a part of her family so i'm sure we are going to be together for a long time and i don't wanna leave her, especially not because of that... please idk what to do

[laurita_21]

I don't think theres anything you can do about it, or maybe you can talk her into it. You can't force her to and so what if all your friends have sex before you? If you like this girl you can wait untill she's ready.

[Timma]

Then maybe you shouldent be together? think about it there are alot worse things that can put strain on a relationship such as
If you go to different colleges,Family,Freinds,Moving Away...and if she thinks sex will kill it then how will you survive anything else...

If you do break up with her its not over sex its over he strenght of your relationship

[Kahn]

Why does it matter if you are the last? If they make fun of you for it are they good friends?

In my opinion your girlfriend has the right idea. You guys should wait and develop your relationship before you do anything like sex with her. Why do I say this? Because I have heard many people tell me that they wish they could've changed who they had sex with the first time. Make it special, don't do it just because it's sex. Love the person as much as they love you. If this doesn't work out between you, then thirty years from now you may look back on it and wish you could change how it happened.

My advice to you is to just wait. Wait and make it special.

[Aves]

It shouldn't matter if your the last. If your friends have had sex and then the relationship fell to shit because of it, you're in a much better situation being in a happy relationship. Respect her. Wait, and it will pay off.

[brennaluvv]

Who cares if you're the last one to have sex? If the relationship is worth it, it won't matter.

[The Joker]

If your friends make fun of you for being the last to have sex, they're sluts.

[billium183]

dont do anything. what can you? who cares if ur "last"

[Dan_UK]

Personally, I strongly disagree with a notion of sex making anyone "unpure" and probably wouldn't ever be in a relationship with anyone who has views which I believe to be ridiculous, however the friends thing is unimportant

About waiting until your relationship strengthens a little, fair enough, but waiting 2-3 years? That's complete overkill, sex isn't something you should consider to be bad in any way, just 1) a way of showing love for each other and 2) very enjoyable

So I'd say try and talk her into it, but be sensible about doing so, for example do not mention being the last out of your friends, don't even let that be brought into the discussion, instead talk about the current strength of your relationship, as in the fact that you claim to already be close and know her family well, and perhaps agree to wait a while, for example until you are 17, if she still wants to wait until much later you have to decide:

Can you really wait that long? If yes, then stick to it, if not, explain to her you can't, and find someone who doesn't feel the need to wait

[Nevfx]

Dude, I lost my virginity when I was 18. Do not worry about it.

If it bothers you that much... you COULD talk to her about it, but that might be seen as pressuring you pressuring her for sex, and no one likes that.

[charaze]

Why does it matter to you if you're going to be the last one to have sex with a girlfriend? Your friends are very inconsiderate. Don't be part of those people who think that sex should be done in every relationship.

See, if you do have sex with her and get her pregnant, are you ready to be a father to your kid? Are you willing to sacrifice your independence and being single when you're going to be a father?

Your girlfriend is just smart enough to think what's best for the both of you. I know it's hard for boys to resist sex but think of what's gonna happen to the both of you when you get into situations like that.

[Dan_UK]

Why does it matter to you if you're going to be the last one to have sex with a girlfriend? Your friends are very inconsiderate. Don't be part of those people who think that sex should be done in every relationship.

See, if you do have sex with her and get her pregnant, are you ready to be a father to your kid? Are you willing to sacrifice your independence and being single when you're going to be a father?

Your girlfriend is just smart enough to think what's best for the both of you. I know it's hard for boys to resist sex but think of what's gonna happen to the both of you when you get into situations like that.


Terrible post in my opinion, unbacked up ideas laced with a dollop of sexism

[charaze]

Terrible post in my opinion, unbacked up ideas laced with a dollop of sexism

That's your opinion, I can't argue with that. I'm just telling him the possibilities of what could happen.

Isn't this supposed to be a forum about teens?
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@mori

Don't be pressured about staying a virgin while your other friends aren't. I know it's hard not to be, but you got to at least try. Why don't you talk to your mom or dad about this matter? I'm sure they can help a lot.

[Obscene Eyedeas]

If you truly loved her this wouldn't bother you. the fact your considering dumping her over this suggests a lack of maturity and depth in your relationship.

[Billy15]

hey dude, what is more important to you, not being last among your friends to have sex or having someone in your life who apparently loves you and who also cares enough about herself that she doesn't want to be the norm, she wants to be different, special,
pure and ya know what, Im gay but dude I think she sounds awesome personally.

If I were you, I'd care about her and would care less what my friends thought and besides, who wants to be like everyone else?