Can't hide it with a smile anymore

[tomboysk8r1314]

...I feel..well really sad and lonely i guess. I feel like no one understands me, no one will ever love me (besides family), and that i dont have a place in this world.

No, i dont want to kill myself but i just want answers. Is being a tomboy really killing my love life, and any possible friendships? I never feel pretty enough, i feel fat, ugly, and like a peice of shit.

I've stopped liking guys because i always spend so much time trying to get the guy to liek me to only find i have an awesome personality but im just not pretty enough. Plus everytime i do like a guy its a guy that most people think are undateable. Ive gone from nerds, to shy guys, to scene skaters and its all just never worked out.

I feel so alone....and cold

[SecretHarmer]

I know how you feel, I feel quite similar myself.
I've been a tomboy for ages and in this last year i've just made an effort with my hair, and i wear makeup and i feel better. Your 13, you have plenty of time for relationships, you will find someone wether it's a few months or a few years.
I feel alone too, I guess making friends can be hard but you will earn them if you try.
But don't forgot, you shouldnt have to change yourself for other people, be your own person, no point being someone your not. :)

[Art_dude]

I'm sorry hun :(

First thing's first - don't base your happiness on relationships. The social drama of being a teen is not substantial enough to base big decisions on. You are 13 and have PLENTY of time to figure out dating. Yea, perhaps the tom boy thing is a bit of a turn off for some guys, but I know for a fact that there are plenty of guys who are equally turned on by it. You just need to find someone who's interested in your type :)

I know you may feel alone, and the best way to fill that void right now would be to have a romantic relationship but trust me - even if you had one, it wouldn't fill that hole. We can't expect others to compensate for how we're feeling. If you're feeling alone, dig a little deeper and really figure out why. You have your family and you have your friends right? Why depend on a boyfriend? You are a beautiful and complete human as you are. Nothing to it. Your existence is your miracle, no need for anyone else in it. :hug:

You have me and VT behind you so don't feel alone :)

[tomboysk8r1314]

I just wish i was like my friend...shes pretty, and its the second week at our new school and she has her clique and has forgoten me....

I feel like no one will ever love me as much as my dog loves me :'(

[Kahn]

You're pretty. Don't live to other people's standards, live to yours. Love life does boost morale I must admit, but when it doesn't work out it crushes it as well.

I think you should just continue being yourself. Yes, everyone says this, but you need to just continue to do it. Don't live for society, live for yourself. Society will always change, and at one point it will be your time to shine. You need to be ready for it, and that means preparing yourself for anything.

Everyone has these rough patches in life. Whether it be relationships, or school. You just need to get past it. Try talking to new people, or being more open about thing. (Not to open like many girls are.) I love Tomboys. I think it's cute. Continue what you're doing, try talking to new people, and most of all be yourself. I'm here to talk. I'm on all the time.

[DarkHorses]

Don't let guys determine your self confidence. One of the most attractive things is someone who is confident in themselves, no matter what other people think of them. I think that if you learn to love yourself no matter who does and who doesn't, you'd find it a lot easier to find a relationship. Guys and friends and all that will come and go, but your confidence shouldn't come and go with them. You should always be confident in yourself, and not let other people determine that.

[tomboysk8r1314]

You're pretty. Don't live to other people's standards, live to yours. Love life does boost morale I must admit, but when it doesn't work out it crushes it as well.

I think you should just continue being yourself. Yes, everyone says this, but you need to just continue to do it. Don't live for society, live for yourself. Society will always change, and at one point it will be your time to shine. You need to be ready for it, and that means preparing yourself for anything.

Everyone has these rough patches in life. Whether it be relationships, or school. You just need to get past it. Try talking to new people, or being more open about thing. (Not to open like many girls are.) I love Tomboys. I think it's cute. Continue what you're doing, try talking to new people, and most of all be yourself. I'm here to talk. I'm on all the time.
haha thanks..ive alwasy been dissed about being a tomboy and listening to the kind of music i do...that the first compliment ive heard in forever. You're right about not living for society and i normally dont give a crap about what people think of me..its just ive been stressed with the whole switch and stuff and its been getting to me. Thank you again and if i need to talk ill make sure to find you (:
Don't let guys determine your self confidence. One of the most attractive things is someone who is confident in themselves, no matter what other people think of them. I think that if you learn to love yourself no matter who does and who doesn't, you'd find it a lot easier to find a relationship. Guys and friends and all that will come and go, but your confidence shouldn't come and go with them. You should always be confident in yourself, and not let other people determine that.

I try to be confident but i break down sometimes. Like ill sit in my room put on some screamo music and just cry. I do love myself..and i wouldnt change being a tomboy for anyone. Its who i am! And yes i can agree that confidence if usually a big turn on for both guys and girls but at my school..its all looks :p ...

Thanks for your help. I feel kinda better now

[disassociation2016]

If you don't mind could you define tomboy for me?
Not saying you don't have a chance with any of the guys just have to get them comfortable around you.

[tomboysk8r1314]

If you don't mind could you define tomboy for me?
Not saying you don't have a chance with any of the guys just have to get them comfortable around you.

Well thats hard to define..they're many different ways. Sometimes is just a girl who is super girly (loves pink,dresses makeup ect.) and they arent afraid to get dirty or whatever. Other times its just a girl who doesnt like pink dresses ect.

But me well i guess im a girl who acts more like a guy than a girl. I never wear girly colors, dresses, skirts, or even like a dressy top. I stick to jeans, t-shirts, and athletic shorts. I love videogames, sports, doing nasty dares..and pretty much everything you could define as a guy thing.

and its not that they're not comfortable around me i guess i just dont define as "dateable" just a friend.

[Nevfx]

I used to feel like this and I became very depressed.

You know what helped me? Talkign about it. Friends, family, everyone.

[phill1]

you are pretty. Don't live to other people's standards

[BOBBY HILL]

you are pretty. Don't live to other people's standards

You're pretty. Don't live to other people's standards

Dude you pretty much repeated the exact same thing, I've seen you do that twice now.