I'm Confused :pp

[the8bitter]

I've been flirting with this girl over Facebook like every day for a week, and we're gonna hang out at this park in a few days. It think she likes me (she told my best buddy), but she's also after this guy who won't even give her the time of day (although I would :) ). She's talking about "getting all over me" and "tackling" me at the park, but I can't tell if she's just screwing with me or what. The other guy she likes is my best buddy's brother, but as I've said he really doesn't want her and even avoids her at times. How do I show her I could do better than him? especially since I care about her wayyyy more than he ever would.

[Art_dude]

Stop yourself right now - this is how the friend card will be locked on to you. She's attracted to this other fellow because he's showing disinterest. He doesn't necessarily seem like a jerk, but he's aloof and indfferent to her - that's cat nip for most girls. She's probably someone guys are after a lot, so she's used to being fawned over: to have a guy NOT do that is intriguing. If you can clearly do better than him, than it will show. Don't feel like you have to prove yourself over this other guy to win her over. When she sees you are more giving she will notice. Stepping up the adoration notch is going to be more of a turn off than a turn on. Just be yourself and let her see the true victor.

[Blue63]

Stop yourself right now - this is how the friend card will be locked on to you. She's attracted to this other fellow because he's showing disinterest. He doesn't necessarily seem like a jerk, but he's aloof and indfferent to her - that's cat nip for most girls. She's probably someone guys are after a lot, so she's used to being fawned over: to have a guy NOT do that is intriguing. If you can clearly do better than him, than it will show. Don't feel like you have to prove yourself over this other guy to win her over. When she sees you are more giving she will notice. Stepping up the adoration notch is going to be more of a turn off than a turn on. Just be yourself and let her see the true victor.

Could not agree more. Alex, as usual, is absolutely right :yes:! I've been the in the friend zone enough times to know that fawning over her will only make you a boring ego-booster. Now I'm not saying to go around insulting her or anything of that nature. However, being aloof is a good thing. I've seen the effects it has first hand. Don't talk to her every single day, let her initiate some conversations. Don't come on too strong. If your one of those people (like me) whose texts are often long, complete sentences, be a little short sometimes. Still show her you care. If she likes you, she'll see how truly wonderful of a person you are. Good luck! And if it doesn't work out, it's something to learn from. We learn more from failures than from successes!