people dying

[phish]

I have a lot of older friends, and for the first time in my life I had someone die. I had a friend I had known for about a year die a few months ago, and just about 10 mins ago I found out a friend I've known for about 8 years died from lung cancer. I don't feel affected by this at all, and fake being sad. I don't know what to think of this.

[Fiction]

It probabaly hasn't sunk in yet, and if the person wasn't a big part of your life you are not going to have an immediate reaction. My grandad died 2 days ago and the day after his death i thought i was already over it, but today was much worse so i think it just takes time for it to sink in.

[Art_dude]

Kathy's right. Death comes as a huge shock, so much so that we don't really understand the depth of the situation until we're fully aware of the person's absence. When I was in middle school one of my teacher's I really admired died very suddenly of a heart attack - it was such a shock. He was young, incredibly healthy, and it was totally unexpected. And when I heard about it I felt the same way - unaffected, not really sure how to feel etc. But when he wasn't in school the next day, the reality of the situation began to sink in. As the song goes, "we don't know what we got till it's gone." When someone we love dies, we don't really feel the grief until we feel their absence. You've only known about your friends death for 10 minutes - give it some time!!! My teacher had an open casket at his wake/funeral so I really got to see in the rawest sense possible, the reality of his death. And trust me, after all that, the emotions came flooding.

So in conclusion, you're probably not feeling anything because you're in such shock overdrive, and because it has happened so recently.

[Mike321]

As the others have said, it probably hasnt sunk in yet, especialy if they were a big part of your life, it takes time for you to realise that they wont be there anymore.