How can I tell her...?

[MuzicIz4ever]

Ive been SHing for a long time... only two years actually... but it hurts like its been longer... and everyone thats told their mom have gotten progress... i want to beat this addiction.
and... at the same time i dont.
you know how it is....
uhm.... And when a mother FINDS OUT the trust is gone and the relationship is broken... how can i tell her?
**she flips out really bad really easy....

[Fiction]

Maybe you should write her a note, or a text or an email. Maybe something that she will read while you are out the house, so that it gives her time to calm down before you have to face her.

[Mike321]

As Kathy said, if you dont want to do it face to face becuase of how she might react (which is completley understandable), write her a note or something and leave it on the table so she can see it.
Then she will have time to calm down and think about it before you come home

[georgiamay]

well, fist of all, when my mum found out, the trust wasn't all gone, and the relationship wasn't broken. Yeah, sure she inspected my arms every now and then to see if i'm still doing it, and she might occassionally keep a close eye on me when i use a knife in the kitchen, but that's only because she cares.
Me and my mum have a great relationship. We have our problems with the past etc, but we get on brilliantly, even now that she knows about my self harm.

Like kathy said, maybe writting a note would be a good idea. But I still think that sitting her down and saying it to her face would be a better idea. I didn't tell my mum myself, it was my head of year that told her, and i really regret not telling her myself. The trust would probably be strengthened if you tell her yourself, that way she'll know that you trust her with this kind of personal thing, and she'll trust you as well.

If you don't think you could face saying it out loud yourself then a note should do fine.

If you ever feel like you need to talk, just PM me :hug:

[MuzicIz4ever]

Wow, thank you all. Really good ideas.. I don't know if I'm ready tho... I doubt myself a lot and I just... Don't wan things to wind up worse then they are now... And... Even when I'm home alone I can barley utter that stupid three letter word that bites me everytime. I know I'm not supposed to be ashamed of it but is not somehing I don't him I can help... Some one told me to take off the bracelets and just tough a school day-- but I felt them and I always saw them... Then people started asking... Is it okay to be ashamed? And.. If not- how do I gt out of it? (and it's not an acceptance thing because I knowbwhats happening and I don't lie to myself to feel better..) thanks guys...

[tombstone]

What you should keep in mind is, if you go a day without your bracelets, which i assume are covering your scars. Is there a chance someone who see's could tell your mother?

The main reason i hide my scars is because im terrified of my family finding out. I don't know what i would do if they found out through someone telling them.