I am so sick of this!

[Syvelocin]

I've done everything to make myself look less attractive. I'm thirty pounds underweight! I have self-harm scars all over my body! But it doesn't stop him.

I am done. I'm done dealing with him. I'm done being defiled by him. Four years is way too long for this to be happening.

They all know about what he's done. My parents, my aunt, even my fiancé. They're all really worried, I know they are. But their easy fix? "Don't go over to your aunt's house. Then you won't run the risk." But I don't want him to be the reason I never see my family! I love my aunt so much.

But even then, how can she still love him!? A child molester/rapist. I get that she's been in love with him since they were in school together, but personally, if the man I love raped my niece even once, I would forget about dating him. She is concerned too, really, she hates that he does this, but... I don't understand.

It's not as simple as contacting the police. He's threatened me multiple times, to not even scream. He says he will kill me, and frankly, I think he would. But if I tell, he knows where I live. He knows where my parents live, he has access the phone number and address of my fiancé's house where I usually stay.

I don't know what to do. I really have no piece of advice for myself.

[Mackenzie_]

holy gawd............................. i wish i could help but there is nothing i can doooooooo

[welcome_to_chaos]

I know it may be hard but u need to go to the police...they really can help..they can make it so he wont touch u...and in the mean time u can stay w a friend...i know what ur going through and i want u to know ur not alone in this...if u have any questions u can vm me cuz i know u cant pm yet...:/ i dont want u to get hurt anymore...:)

[Asylum]

your in a tough situation hun. only one group of people can help.. the police . contact them ASAP! he can threaten all he wants, but if u tell the cops, he gets taken away and he can't hurt you. u call the cops he can't hurt u anymore, let alone anyone else.
i didn't call the cops whne i was being harrassed... and i still live next to my wonderful neighbors...
4 years is a long time.... please im begging u seek out help.. u won't regret it. tell the police about the threats.. everything.. i know it's hard... but think of what good will come out of it... an end to it all!!!

good luck hun, pm me if u need me. we're here for u. u r not alone. *huggles*

[DarkHorses]

How many times have you heard about someone being sexually abused, telling, and then having a family member injured or killed by the person who abused them? Personally, I haven't heard a story like that even once.

Look at it this way: He doesn't want to go to jail, so he threatens you to prevent his arrest. So let's say he kills or hurts you or one of your family members. Then he's stuck with even more jail time. It doesn't solve his problem. Chances are his threats are simply that: threats. I highly doubt he will act upon them.

He needs to face consequences for his actions, and you need to finally live in peace. You need to report him. It's the only way to truly resolve this. I know that it's easier said then done, but do this for yourself. You deserve to be happy, and reporting him will make that all the easier.

[Syvelocin]

He actually had been in prison for a bit because he had killed someone, so that's my only concern. He's done it before.

And if he gets out again, if I turn him in, well... that's what frightens me.

I know I should go to the police. That's the piece of advice I usually give. I'm obviously hesitant though.

[Brittany123]

If you report him to the police he WILL be arrested. When he goes to jail he probably won't get out for years (charged for many things including threats) since he has been convicted once it will be a longer sentence. When he gets out he would be on parole and your family would be protected by police (telling them he threatens will make sure of that)

[tatuboy327]

I've done everything to make myself look less attractive. I'm thirty pounds underweight! I have self-harm scars all over my body! But it doesn't stop him.

I am done. I'm done dealing with him. I'm done being defiled by him. Four years is way too long for this to be happening.

They all know about what he's done. My parents, my aunt, even my fiancé. They're all really worried, I know they are. But their easy fix? "Don't go over to your aunt's house. Then you won't run the risk." But I don't want him to be the reason I never see my family! I love my aunt so much.

But even then, how can she still love him!? A child molester/rapist. I get that she's been in love with him since they were in school together, but personally, if the man I love raped my niece even once, I would forget about dating him. She is concerned too, really, she hates that he does this, but... I don't understand.

It's not as simple as contacting the police. He's threatened me multiple times, to not even scream. He says he will kill me, and frankly, I think he would. But if I tell, he knows where I live. He knows where my parents live, he has access the phone number and address of my fiancé's house where I usually stay.

I don't know what to do. I really have no piece of advice for myself.

I know he threatened you but you need to report him! And I've done the self abuse thing, though I did prescription drugs to escape my sleeplessness. That was over 3 years ago! No matter what, you need to know that if you report it, the police will charge him and take him into custody. He won't be able to harm you in custody, and if needed request police protection and or a restraining order. I hope everything works out for you, if you would like, you can talk to me anytime, just send me a message, I'm usually on and wouldn't mind talking.
-Alex

[Asylum]

If you report him, he will not only be sent for years... you could geta restraining order from him. So if he comes in a certain number of miles fom you, he get's arrested. They will have people checking up on him. Telling the olice is the only way to get out. Otherwise don' t go to your Aunt's house. Have her meet you at your house, iwth parents. This way you g3et to see your aunt, and not get hurt. He can't touch you, he can't go near you once he's in jail and out. Please go to the police, i'm begging you. Please...

[Syvelocin]

My mother hates my aunt, actually. Not because of this. She left her behind after she moved out, and now they only briefly see each other at family reunions.

I also think that, if I were to turn him in, I would have the rest of my family on my back. Not my mum, but the rest of her family. I also worry about my aunt's reaction. It's definitely not what she wants.

[Asylum]

does your aunt know? If not tell your Aunt right away.
I'm sure if your family knew what you were going through they woud understand. They would want you to turn him in.
Or tell your aunt to meet you somewhere a public place. Like a park, or a library, a mall? You have to thnk about wha'ts good for you in the end. Telling is good for you.

[Syvelocin]

Yeah, my aunt knows.
That part of my family hates me, so I doubt that :/

[Asylum]

so what more could they possibly do to you after you tell. think about yoursefl. don't focus on them. this is you. your decision. your future. your the one thats being hurt. you can end it hun.

[Wings of Despair]

Criminals always use phrases like this...ill kill you..Go to the police,lock the guy in jail anc thsn move away .Easy to say,harder to do...Good luck

[Fiction]

Please stop bumping posts. :locked: