Can someone be in love with TWO people?

[KillerKing]

Hey,

Never thought to post here about this as i've been trying to figure it out myself but i just can't and well, don't know what to do.

I'm still best friends with my ex after going out with her for about 2 months. We were very intimate but not sexually. Anyway after a few months she started going out with another person and i can tell she loves him to bits but she still loves me and i still love her and well... Is that right? Should she even have feelings for me?

For me, she's the only person i've ever truly loved but i couldn't love her and someone else.

I don't know where I'm going with this now but any advice would be great.

Thanks

[Sage]

I recommend you take a look at this (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=82416) thread of a similar nature posted earlier, as well as the the video (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t1zSU7LjSDg) I linked to in my post there. In short, yes, you can, and such a relationship needn't solely revolve around sex. On the other hand... I detect some jealousy in your post, and I am not entirely sure she would be open to the idea of the three of you being together.

[KillerKing]

Aha, maybe i didn't put it right. I wouldn't want to be in a 3 way relationship at all and i think we both love each other so much that we never took it to the next level (sex) and our relationship kinda of endede without any i suppose some sort of closure but at the same time i couldn't because she's going out with someone else and it's just really confusing that she wants me but she wants someone else too.

[Sage]

Aha, maybe i didn't put it right. I wouldn't want to be in a 3 way relationship at all and i think we both love each other so much that we never took it to the next level (sex) and our relationship kinda of endede without any i suppose some sort of closure but at the same time i couldn't because she's going out with someone else and it's just really confusing that she wants me but she wants someone else too.

Then your ex-girlfriend is a cocktease and you should move on before frustration and longing drive you to rip every hair out of your head.

[Sapphire]

If she does have strong feelings for you and her new boyfriend then who is to judge her for it?
The answer is no one for she is being faithful to her current partner and is doing nothing wrong.

The reality is that you cannot dictate what you feel or don't feel. It isn't healthy to try to either. Neither is it healthy to criticise yourself for feeling in a certain ways.

You have to accept that she is with someone else. If you can do that and continue this friendship, then that is great. If not, maybe you should consider ending your friendship with her until you have moved on and are able to accept it.

[jenniferallain]

Hey,

Never thought to post here about this as i've been trying to figure it out myself but i just can't and well, don't know what to do.

I'm still best friends with my ex after going out with her for about 2 months. We were very intimate but not sexually. Anyway after a few months she started going out with another person and i can tell she loves him to bits but she still loves me and i still love her and well... Is that right? Should she even have feelings for me?

For me, she's the only person i've ever truly loved but i couldn't love her and someone else.

I don't know where I'm going with this now but any advice would be great.

Thanks


It really happens. But i guess you really need to talk with your partner. Ask her if its true and let her decide the situation. To choose you or the other guy.

[Art_dude]

Sapphire pretty much nailed it. If you can move on and continue your friendship, great. if not, than maybe you should consider taking a break from your friendship until your envy has subsided.

A friend of mine was in a similar situation after his divorce - he was very much in love with a new woman he had started dating, but he also was very much still in love with his exwife. The difference was that he and his exwife had been living in a platonic relationship for the last two years of their marriage. They loved each other, but no longer romantically, so in a sense yes, it's possible to love two people at the same time, but not in the same way. Luckily in this situation they had a very civil and clean divorce, and they still remain friends.