The "Gay-phase"

[coolkid719]

The "gay-phase"...
something that a lot of teenagers go through but still an uncomfortable topic to talk about.

But...is it true that EVERYBODY goes through this phase?

[Scarface]

People are born gay they aren't made. There maybe a "Curiosity" phase and a "Experimentation" phase, but not gay. Some boys will get it some won't, but most of the time it's all curiosity.

[Captor K]

True for some, but not true for all. I never went through a gay phase because I've always been gay. But I can't say I ever went through a "straight phase" either.

[Lights]

A lot of boys do go through gay-curious phases, but not all do. Of course, there will be some boys who completely shake off the idea of liking a boy and ignore the slight thoughts. If they were really interested, they'd persist. Other boys embrace the thoughts positively.

I would guess you're more likely to go through that sort of phase depending on the amount of association you have with other guys. A lack of it (kind of like with me) may lead to you looking at boys, because your girl friends do. Even if you have lots of association, there's still fair chance you'll have at the very least a curious moment.

[One_Kay]

People are born gay they aren't made.

I had a debate about this, "Are people born gay or are they not?" I certainly agree that people are born gay. Then after time pasts, people makes their decision. And still, no one can be "Straight", everyone can only be Bisexual or Homosexual.

[Nicky97]

I think lots of the time the "I hate fags" redneck macho phase, which may last a lifetime, is imposed on guys by parents, church, and teammates. It doesnt happen naturally all that often.

So this stuff about same-gender attraction -- how do you define it if you are not having sex with anyone? Is it just who you are most comfortable being around? My attraction to the handsome coach on the baseball team, is that "gay"? I sure like him. He is so smart and I respect him and would like to grow up to be like him. Is that a gay phase? Even if I am not considering having sex with him (unthinkable)?

Its so hard to know what all these words mean.


=========

Later, after receiving a negative rep point cuz this didnt talk about a gay-phase and therefore was not helpful....

To be super super simple, I dont believe that a gay-phase is a legitimate thing. Curiosity and lack of limits is normal for humans. A phase you grow out of (definition of a phase) and resume a "normal" life, well that just isnt real. It doesnt exist unless outside influence is put on the guy. Sorry to post something that is so confusing. :mad:

[Trickster]

People go through a curious stage not a gay phase. You cant turn gay, you cant stop being it.
People go through this stage in different ways:
They could experiment, as in having sex with, kissing, touching or even a whole relationshiip wit the same gender
They could fantasize and do smaller things like being around the same gender and seeing if there is a reaction
Others will maybe think about it but never admit or go through with it.
No matter what people say, everyone has thought of the same gender in the sexual way if something arises to spark a thought. and all those macho guys who say "fag" and stuff, sorry to tell them but Guys dream of Guys more than girls. lol.
Were people and human and humans are naturally curious to... the "what if...", "I wonder...", "If i tried this..". It may not be a huge thing to some but it can to others

[iMukuro]

I don't think everyone goes through a "gay-phase."
I'm sure people have thought what it would be like to date another man or another woman, but not everyone is physically or emotionally attracted to the same gender in some period of their life. I know plenty of people who have not gone through a gay phase in their life.
Yes, I've asked them if they'd ever date someone of the same sex and they said no.

[CuriousDestruction]

haha i wish. if fred phelps was gay for even a day as a teenager the world would be better off now. unfortunately not everyone goes through a gay phase. many teens experiment and explore their sexuality but many simply examine the fact that they are straight.

[JimSauce]

And still, no one can be "Straight", everyone can only be Bisexual or Homosexual.

What?

I never had a "phase" because I always liked boys. I don't think that anyone magically turns gay when they're going through puberty; they may start to experiment and explore their real sexuality, but if they grow up homosexual, most likely they had these (repressed) feelings long before puberty.