Timid?

[Rutherford The Brave]

I've never been an expert on relationships, I mean who is. Besides the fact that I strayed as much as I could from that path, but some how got sucked in. So I came to ask something.

Obviously there has to be a story, other wise the lot of you would be so lost now.

Well, tonight was the first time I hung out with my girlfriend in close to 3 weeks. It was just going to be a few kids hanging out, sitting in a circle around my friend's newest bong. Naturally she hugged me when I saw her, and I saw that her bruise faded. She said she was proud of me, but later on when things got a little hazy, I went to put my arm around her and she flinched. I obviously asked what was wrong. She was shaking and she got upset, she said she was still trying to get over the fear.

Here's the dealio. I love her, I want to know if its the right idea to tell her that she has no reason to feel afraid/show her. Or let her do it at her own pace?

[LiTTleBrok3nDolly]

i think i know what your talking about. If i had a boyfriend then i would want to know that 1) i am safe in your arms 2) you would never ever hurt me 3) whenever i freak out, tell me to take a deep breath and hold my hand

[AutumnDae]

You hurt her, physically.

It will take time to regain her trust. I know that if someone hit me, I don't think I could trust them to not do it again for a long, long time.

[Art_dude]

Autumn pretty much summed it up for ya.

I don't know the backstory so I'm passing no judgement, but you hurt her. It's going to take time for her to trust you again. If you haven't already, take her to the side some time and tell her that you respect, and are humbled by how she's shown so much bravery and that you are grateful for her love. Obviously it won't change anything immediately, but reinforcing your love and appreciation will only help restrengthen her trust.