Other Gays

[alex.c]

I feel like I'm the only gay person in my school year. I know people in other years who are openly gay or, just really gay but havent admitted it. Nobody in my year or class even seems remotely gay. I really want to talk to someone (personally) who is just like me. I feel alone, like I'm the only one. I get slagged for the way i act and talk, even though i'm not openly gay, but i never hear about anyone else being called gay personnly. I guess the real question is, how will i be able to tell if other people are gay?

[guacamole24]

Well, if your gaydar isn't very effective, you can't really do much except ask them if you feel comfortable enough with them. That being said, there's no guarantee that they will tell the truth. Good luck!

[xHunterXloganx]

Im sure there are, they in the deepest part of the closet atm

[CuriousDestruction]

wellll, the only way to know for sure is to ask them. but if they've dated guys in the past or are a part of LGBT club there's a higher probability that they might be gay. that said, the best way is really to ask when you feel comfortable.

[tinkergenius]

I hope this helps; Both my Parents are teachers, and I recently had the fortune of spending 10 days in Williamsport, PA at the Little League World Series, but when I got back, I was "restricted" (Not put on it) from what had become my normal usage of the Internet, TV, and anything else they felt would be "distracting" in my returning to school for the new year.

In so doing, I found it helpful, because the first weeks of a new school year are challenging. Trying to acclimate to new Teachers, Classmates, Schedules, maneuvering the hallways properly to make movements productive -versus- counterproductive, and it may just be that the other students are doing just that - for right now - until they become comfortable.

Once they establish themselves, they'll probably open up about more personal things such as sexual identity, etc. I would say they're just pre-occupied with trying to maintain their focus, so give it a little time.

It'll work out - It always does.

Good Luck!

[Fruit_Tart.]

I think you should let yourself out of the closet more to get known that you are gay. Maybe that'll send a signal off to other gay people to come talk to you. You could also go talk to the people that you know are gay in the other grades. Even though their prolly younger or older, you guy's will have something in common and im purdy sure that they won't judge you if you are. :) Good luck to you dude! ^__^

[yoda]

Well don't feel alone, there maybe no gays in your class but its a big world i and i am sure you will find someone that is gay or you could just ask someone in your class, only if your ok with that.
But your not alone.

[alex.c]

I could become more open about my sexuality but I'm being slagged and bullied enough as it is and coming out would make my life a living hell.

[JimSauce]

I wouldn't recommend you behave any differently from how you normally would. If you already get bullied, then I think other closeted gays would know about you.

But, there are definitely other gays out there. If you have an inkling for a certain person, then you could befriend them and try to get to know them more.

[hotandgay]

I could become more open about my sexuality but I'm being slagged and bullied enough as it is and coming out would make my life a living hell.

yeah thats what i thought too...but once i told everyone they just left me alone because i wouldnt get mad about it i would just say whatever and leave...i kno what you are going through...i was the only openly gay in my entire school...there just hiding it because they kno how society will treat them

[Deathwingo0o]

I am bi but sometimes you wish you didn't find out. Trust me. True story. Happened to me. This guy always say he's gay(nobody believed him, he is tall and big, no gay looks). He likes to touch us(me and my guy friends) in a nearly spooning manner. Then, we always played to pretend kissing each other(no real kisses). Only he plunged forward without hesitation. Just last night, he called me to join a gay website. U can guess how I felt...

[coleman8r 77]

i fill the same way

[Jecko8675]

dude. i feel your way. kinda. i mean i have 1 people 2 do it with. but there a grade higher thn me. and we nvr see eachother

[Tristin.]

it can be really obvious if someone is gay, or it can be pretty hard. things they do or say, the way they act can be a give away, if you have a good gaydar, they finding out who is what can be really easy.

but, the best way is just to ask. i know it is the hardest but i can lead to some surprising discoreries

hope this helps :)

[highfieldsboy]

Many gay people act straight for years, you may never find anyone in your year.
However, the chances of no-one being gay is very slim, there is someone in your situation right now.. maybe in your class.. you never know.

As peer pressure is ever so present these days - it isn't easy to just come out and admit your gay and all that that goes with it.

[SlightlySane]

There is no way to tell if someone is gay without first asking them. This is one of the most frustrating questions in the world to me. Quite honestly I find it ignorant. You don't like getting crap because of the way you act, yet you want to know if you can tell if someone else is gay by the way the act...

The only way to be 100% sure about someone's sexuality is to respectfully ask. It should be done in a manner that does not seem as though it is mocking or offensive. In all honesty, if someone wanted you to know if they were gay, you would know. I think that you should really worry a little less about it. You are coming to terms with your sexuality fairly young, most others aren't able to do so. Give others time to learn more about themselves. Also don't expect to find out if people are gay without really coming out a little yourself. You can't expect someone to trust you before you trust them.