self harm... selfish?

[Asylum]

now for the past few days i've been thinking... and these are my thoughts i hope they don't affend anyone.. in a way these thoughts affend and help me.... it woke me up a bit when i thought them..

myself harm is selfish.. :( sure it releaves anxiety, hallucination, numbness, depression, and gives me a general releif. but who is it helping? it hurts people... how can i continue to hrut the ones i love... just to make myself feel better..?

here are some other things that can get people to stop self harming.
-guys... it's hard to get a job with self mutilation scars, your boss will consider you mentally unstable and not hire you.. and if you get the job, you'll probably have to hide it with long sleeves, pants, etc. every day.
- i've lost friends, people i loved due to self harm... i've never felt more alone in my life..
- it doens't help!!



yes, self harm is an addiction, but you can control it you can stop it with will power... have faith in yourself, don't give up!!!

[DarkHorses]

I can understand why you would see your self harm as selfish, and I'm glad you've reached a point where you've started to realize that self harm affects not only you, but the people who love and care about you as well. It's hurtful for everyone involved, and realizing that gets you closer and closer to recovery. Now you need to get better not only for yourself, but for the people who care about you too. Congratulations on reaching this point. :)

[Schizophrenia]

guys... it's hard to get a job with self mutilation scars, your boss will consider you mentally unstable and not hire you.. and if you get the job, you'll probably have to hide it with long sleeves, pants, etc. every day.

i didn't thought about that when i was cutting myself,i have scars on my whole arms and i don't think i will ever get a job :(

[Asylum]

thanx Amanda :)
Croatia- you can still get a job, try make up, things to cover up your arms, arm warmers, bracelets, sweeters, watches, tatoos,
try getting mederma and other things like scar removers to help you make them less noticeable

[Schizophrenia]

thanx Amanda :)
Croatia- you can still get a job, try make up, things to cover up your arms, arm warmers, bracelets, sweeters, watches, tatoos,
try getting mederma and other things like scar removers to help you make them less noticeable

i don't think that things would help because i have scars on my whole arms and some of them are really big and i don't know how i will hide it on summer because i don't want to wear long sleeves when it's hot :(

[Asylum]

when i was covering recent cuts which covered my arm in the summer.. i bought plastic rainbow beads and i made bracelets. i wore 8-12 and it covered most of my arm. it doens't show in between either which is good. if you were to wear those with three corter length sleeves you should be pretty much covered. also lace armwarmers are great. idk if you have a stor called Target but they might have a site, they have long sleeve lace shirts, you can wear that with a tank top underneath, keep you cool, and keep hidden. making armwarmers. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9OTGy72tjTA



hiding SI- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NN_mlsSFd-4&feature=related

if ur old enough you could get a sleeve tattoo, but places that are hireing dont' like that either and ask for that to be covered..

[Schizophrenia]

thank you,i will try this next summer :)

[georgiamay]

I can see why people might think it's selfish, but tbh, when people are desperate for a release of some sort that they actually resort to self harm, I don't think they're thinking very clearly about what they're doing. It's known that people tend to regret it afterwards, and feel guilty about hurting the people around them. So if you know that it's hurting those around you, but you can't find the strength to stop, but you really, really want to, would it be selfish? Yes. Yes i suppose it is. But I don't think we can help it. Because it's an addiction, in a way, it seems like it isn't selfish. For someone that's never felt the need to self harm, then yeah it probably does seem selfish, but for those who do self harm, it seems like it's the only solution.

I think in some ways it is, but no one intends to hurt those around them by doing it. I never wanted to hurt my family, I wished I could stop so they wouldn't get hurt, but I just couldn't.

I don't think self harmers want to hurt their families, and it makes them feel guilty. Which is another feeling they don't want to have. And so the cycle continues.
I found that anyway.

[blah_x]

i wish i could grasp your understanding of SH... i know your right, but i think you have to be at a certain level within yourself to except this.
but hopefully some day i will :)
congrats for you though!! :)