Dad is looking at stuff...

[karnivore]

My dad has been looking up pictures of naked women off the internet ever since I was little, but I don't know what I should do. Should I tell my mom? I don't know why it bugs me, but it does.

[beedubs]

well it really not bad that hes doing it. a lot of men (single, married, engaged, w.e.) look at porn. its not really something that needs to be told. it is his personal buisness and as long as it doesnt harm your family, you shouldnt worry.

[nick]

If you know about it there must be a good chance your mum does too. Just looking at pictures is not really doing any harm and I dont see how any good would come out of you saying anything about it.

[Husker]

I bet she probably knows, it's nothing to worry about.

[Sage]

I'd want to masturbate a lot if I were married too.

[Giles]

Well if you've picked up on it, then it's pretty likely that your mum has too.
I'd just leave it and forget. If he was seeing another woman, yea.. different story.

[Jenna.]

I'd definitely tell your mom if I were you. That's disrespectful to her. Not all straight men watch porn, so don't try to tell me they do, lol. My boyfriend doesn't and some of my guy friends don't. And even if they do, it's one thing to do it as a teen and another to do it when you're married. No woman I know would be happy with the fact that her husband watches it, she'd say something to him.

[HelloWorld123456]

i dont think you should, i mean, it is his own personal life i dont think you should interfere with it.

and ... i believe your mum knows, since you do.

[Sith Lord 13]

No woman I know would be happy with the fact that her husband watches it, she'd say something to him.

Why? I guess you only know prudish women then. I know many women who not only wouldn't mind, they'll sometimes watch it with their partner/husband, or even just on their own.

[Jenna.]

Why? I guess you only know prudish women then. I know many women who not only wouldn't mind, they'll sometimes watch it with their partner/husband, or even just on their own.

No, not prudish. I just know women who respect themselves and other women and wouldn't want to watch stuff like that.

[Sith Lord 13]

No, not prudish. I just know women who respect themselves and other women and wouldn't want to watch stuff like that.

How is it disrespectful?

[Sage]

No, not prudish. I just know women who respect themselves and other women and wouldn't want to watch stuff like that.

So, prudish then. I think it's unfair of you to make any assumptions as to what the OP's mother is like anyway, there's no way any of us (aside from the OP I suppose) could infer as to whether or not she'd be the type that cares or not.

[Jenna.]

How is it disrespectful?

Porn is unrealistic. No woman looks like that, unless they get tons of plastic surgery. It's pretty sad that in today's society, everyone makes excuses for men who watch it and act like it's not a problem in households when it actually is. It's been shown in studies that watching porn leads men to think that they are superior to women and that women are objects.

[Sith Lord 13]

Porn is unrealistic. No woman looks like that, unless they get tons of plastic surgery.

It depends on the brand of porn.

It's pretty sad that in today's society, everyone makes excuses for men who watch it and act like it's not a problem in households when it actually is. It's been shown in studies that watching porn leads men to think that they are superior to women and that women are objects.

Source?

[steve1234]

Its true that not all porn is 'unrealistic', but most of it is, and I can certainly understand why many people (both men and women) would not agree with it. TBH, I did look at quite a lot in my younger teens, out of curiosity, but I personally don't like it now. I don't have a problem with people who do like it, that is their choice.

And I think its pretty difficult for a man to feel superior to a woman in todays society, its usually women who like to feel superior to men these days. I don't think either gender should be superior to the other.

I don't think you should tell your mum. Of course, if he is looking at it while you are in the room, then you should definatly tell her.

[The Dark Lord]

I'd definitely tell your mom if I were you. That's disrespectful to her. Not all straight men watch porn, so don't try to tell me they do, lol. My boyfriend doesn't and some of my guy friends don't. And even if they do, it's one thing to do it as a teen and another to do it when you're married. No woman I know would be happy with the fact that her husband watches it, she'd say something to him.

No, your boyfriend tells you he doesn't watch porn, there is a difference.

Porn is unrealistic. No woman looks like that, unless they get tons of plastic surgery. It's pretty sad that in today's society, everyone makes excuses for men who watch it and act like it's not a problem in households when it actually is. It's been shown in studies that watching porn leads men to think that they are superior to women and that women are objects.

What studies? Women can and do watch porn as well. Females who say porn is degrading women are hypocrites, it also depicts all men as having a big penis. It is a personal decision to watch porn, if you don't like it don't watch it.

[steve1234]

What studies? Women can and do watch porn as well. Females who say porn is degrading women are hypocrites, it also depicts all men as having a big penis. It is a personal decision to watch porn, if you don't like it don't watch it.

Definatly a good point Matty1. Its not all about women being treated like objects. And there are women who watch porn, probably not as common as males but it still happens.

[electricfeel]

If I was you I'd deffanitly tell your mom. Cause in my opnion loooking qt porn is a form of cheating. If he really loved your mom he wouldn't need to loook at porn.. He'd be satisfied with being with her:)

[Sage]

Porn is unrealistic.
Someone's clearly never looked up amateur porn.

No woman looks like that, unless they get tons of plastic surgery.
Porn stars, actresses, and models look like that. Are they not women?

It's pretty sad that in today's society, everyone makes excuses for men who watch it and act like it's not a problem in households when it actually is.
It's not a problem. Humans are sexual creatures. We have urges, and those urges can't always be satisfied by a single person all the time. Monogamy isn't even natural, it's just burned into our skulls culturally.

It's been shown in studies that watching porn leads men to think that they are superior to women and that women are objects.
Men look at women like sex objects because they are sex objects. Men are sex objects too. If we didn't look at one another this way, we would go extinct. Also, source please.

Also, just for the sake of sharing an observation, the only people I've seen who take issue with this in this thread are women.

[nick]

If I was you I'd deffanitly tell your mom.
Just answer this please, what possible good would that do?

[The Joker]

Porn is unrealistic. No woman looks like that, unless they get tons of plastic surgery. It's pretty sad that in today's society, everyone makes excuses for men who watch it and act like it's not a problem in households when it actually is. It's been shown in studies that watching porn leads men to think that they are superior to women and that women are objects.

Would you rather the man cheat on his wife, instead of just getting his other sexual urges out through pictures/video?

This argument goes towards anything considered immoral. Would you rather them just see a video/picture of it, or actually commit the act? Nine times out of ten, it's one or the other.

[The Dark Lord]

If I was you I'd deffanitly tell your mom. Cause in my opnion loooking qt porn is a form of cheating. If he really loved your mom he wouldn't need to loook at porn.. He'd be satisfied with being with her:)

What a stupid suggestion. That could result in them splitting up and what would that possibly achieve?

[Jenna.]

[QUOTE=Matty1;1012058]No, your boyfriend tells you he doesn't watch porn, there is a difference.



Correct me if I'm wrong but not every single straight guy watches porn. There's nothing wrong with a guy that doesn't, in fact I admire the ones that don't. It shows they aren't conforming to what everyone else does. And he doesn't watch it, I'm the one who has known him for years before we even started dating so I would definitely know, lmao. Even if I haven't known him for a while, I highly doubt he would be watching it based on the fact that he can negatively pick apart every other female he sees [he's not a jerk but he's just honest, he doesn't find them attractive.]...plus he has told me countless times he finds it disgusting and disrespectful. He's very traditional in the sense that he believes I'm "the one" and I'm the only girl he wants, etc. I find it funny that I get attacked because I think of porn as cheating and I happen to know guys that honestly don't watch it and are actually satisfied with their girlfriends. :rolleyes:
Think he's BSing me? See for yourself...http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AlxoEjAFR9ZpSofnTNcWTdLty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100824124907AAtBOOK

[Sage]

Jenna, you've still yet to respond to anyone who's asked you to prove that porn somehow makes men view women as inferior. It doesn't, and there's nothing wrong with a grown man making the decision to watch it. This seems like an incredibly petty and mundane thing to potentially break up a family over.

[Jenna.]

Jenna, you've still yet to respond to anyone who's asked you to prove that porn somehow makes men view women as inferior. It doesn't, and there's nothing wrong with a grown man making the decision to watch it. This seems like an incredibly petty and mundane thing to potentially break up a family over.

I'm going to address that now. But first I had to handle the thing Matty brought up about how he claimed my boyfriend lies to me...pretty funny statement considering he doesn't know the guy, I do and not all guys are the same. :P Also, it's not petty. It's respect for myself as a female. I wouldn't want to be with a man that can't be satisfied by me and has to look elsewhere for pleasure. I'd be downright insulted. http://womensrights.change.org/blog/view/porn_teaches_boys_that_sexual_assault_is_a-okay

[xhalie.]

Correct me if I'm wrong but not every single straight guy watches porn. There's nothing wrong with a guy that doesn't, in fact I admire the ones that don't. It shows they aren't conforming to what everyone else does. And he doesn't watch it, I'm the one who has known him for years before we even started dating so I would definitely know, lmao. Even if I haven't known him for a while, I highly doubt he would be watching it based on the fact that he can negatively pick apart every other female he sees [he's not a jerk but he's just honest, he doesn't find them attractive.]...plus he has told me countless times he finds it disgusting and disrespectful. He's very traditional in the sense that he believes I'm "the one" and I'm the only girl he wants, etc. I find it funny that I get attacked because I think of porn as cheating and I happen to know guys that honestly don't watch it and are actually satisfied with their girlfriends. :rolleyes:
Think he's BSing me? See for yourself...http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AlxoEjAFR9ZpSofnTNcWTdLty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100824124907AAtBOOK

agreeee with jen. not every guy has to watch porn to get pleasure. some guys happen to have awesome girlfriends who know how to satisfy them... ;) hhaha anyway, i would definitely tell my mom. thats so disrespectful. and matty, i know jen's bf in real life, he is 100% dedicated to her, its true what she says about him not finding anyone else attractive.

[The Dark Lord]

Correct me if I'm wrong but not every single straight guy watches porn. There's nothing wrong with a guy that doesn't, in fact I admire the ones that don't. It shows they aren't conforming to what everyone else does. And he doesn't watch it, I'm the one who has known him for years before we even started dating so I would definitely know, lmao. Even if I haven't known him for a while, I highly doubt he would be watching it based on the fact that he can negatively pick apart every other female he sees [he's not a jerk but he's just honest, he doesn't find them attractive.]...plus he has told me countless times he finds it disgusting and disrespectful. He's very traditional in the sense that he believes I'm "the one" and I'm the only girl he wants, etc. I find it funny that I get attacked because I think of porn as cheating and I happen to know guys that honestly don't watch it and are actually satisfied with their girlfriends. :rolleyes:
Think he's BSing me? See for yourself...http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AlxoEjAFR9ZpSofnTNcWTdLty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100824124907AAtBOOK

He could just be a convincing liar. Even if he doesn't watch porn then he'll masterbate, which is also a form of cheating. The majority of boys watch porn, so I'd say your are living in a fantasy if you think many boys don't watch porn as well as being exceptionally naive

btw- Your 17, neither you nor your boyfriend has any idea what love is, how many times had you heard someone say "I love you" as a teenage?

[Sage]

http://womensrights.change.org/blog/view/porn_teaches_boys_that_sexual_assault_is_a-okay

Way to link to an article that doesn't explain how porn makes men view women as inferior. The article merely asserts that as though it's fact and doesn't explain anything.

[Jenna.]

He could just be a convincing liar. Even if he doesn't watch porn then he'll masterbate, which is also a form of cheating. The majority of boys watch porn, so I'd say your are living in a fantasy if you think many boys don't watch porn as well as being exceptionally naive

btw- Your 17, neither you nor your boyfriend has any idea what love is, how many times had you heard someone say "I love you" as a teenage?

Oh okay, so I'm really going to listen to someone that has never met me, never met my boyfriend and doesn't know anything about us? Way to take this thread way off topic. Why would he post things online questioning the stupidity of guys in today's society if he's doing exactly what he is disagreeing with? And duh he masturbates...to pictures of me. I've been in his room enough times to know that the only pics he has are pictures of me. Plus, we mutually masturbate. I have never heard anyone consider masturbating a form of cheating. If you haven't already noticed, we're not like most other teenagers. We don't date around or cheat or act like our relationship means nothing, like so many other couples do. Just because I'm 17, doesn't mean I don't know what love is and you're rather ignorant if you think so. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/sticky-bonds/200906/teenagers-in-love

[xhalie.]

Way to link to an article that doesn't explain how porn makes men view women as inferior. The article merely asserts that as though it's fact and doesn't explain anything.

you must not have read it. because i saw stuff in there about how watching porn can encourage boys to treat women like they're less than them....why are you attacking jen anyway? so she disagrees with you. get over it.

[Zephyr]

I fail to see how arguing is going to help the OP, so please just answer the original question with your honest opinion; This is the Help & Advice section, not Ramblings of the Wise.

[The Joker]

Jenna, I met a gay guy who told everyone...EVERYONE he knew that he wanted love, and that he found porn and sex disgusting.

Four days later he was telling me about how he wanted to have sex with me in a park.

Don't judge a book by it's cover.

[The Dark Lord]

Oh okay, so I'm really going to listen to someone that has never met me, never met my boyfriend and doesn't know anything about us? Way to take this thread way off topic. Why would he post things online questioning the stupidity of guys in today's society if he's doing exactly what he is disagreeing with? And duh he masturbates...to pictures of me. I've been in his room enough times to know that the only pics he has are pictures of me. Plus, we mutually masturbate. I have never heard anyone consider masturbating a form of cheating. If you haven't already noticed, we're not like most other teenagers. We don't date around or cheat or act like our relationship means nothing, like so many other couples do. Just because I'm 17, doesn't mean I don't know what love is and you're rather ignorant if you think so. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/sticky-bonds/200906/teenagers-in-love


There is no point in getting defensive. Porn is not disgusting and wrong. I stand by what I said, I not going to apolgise for what I've said about your relationship. It is my opinion and if you can't handle it- too bad. The purpose of this thread was to discuss whether people looking at porn is a form of cheating, which it isn't.

[Jenna.]

There is no point in getting defensive. Porn is not disgusting and wrong. I stand by what I said, I not going to apolgise for what I've said about your relationship. It is my opinion and if you can't handle it- too bad. The purpose of this thread was to discuss whether people looking at porn is a form of cheating, which it isn't.

I'm going to get defensive when you're sitting there accusing my boyfriend of lying when you don't know him and judging our relationship by saying that teen love is not real love. Who wouldn't? Porn is cheating to me and the people I'm close to (we've had discussions about it) and that's my opinion. I'm not telling you that you shouldn't watch it. I don't know you and I don't care what you do, to be perfectly honest. I was merely stating my opinion but got bashed because I think something different than you. And Matt, about the guy you met...I don't find having sex disgusting at all. My boyfriend and I have sex, I'll be blunt about it. I'm not some prude who's afraid to "do stuff." He just doesn't like porn, and neither do I. I don't see anything wrong with that. We're different. If everyone was exactly the same it would be pretty boring, wouldn't it?

[The Dark Lord]

I'm going to get defensive when you're sitting there accusing my boyfriend of lying when you don't know him and judging our relationship by saying that teen love is not real love. Who wouldn't? Porn is cheating to me and the people I'm close to (we've had discussions about it) and that's my opinion. I'm not telling you that you shouldn't watch it. I don't know you and I don't care what you do, to be perfectly honest. I was merely stating my opinion but got bashed because I think something different than you. And Matt, about the guy you met...I don't find having sex disgusting at all. My boyfriend and I have sex, I'll be blunt about it. I'm not some prude who's afraid to "do stuff." He just doesn't like porn, and neither do I. I don't see anything wrong with that. We're different. If everyone was exactly the same it would be pretty boring, wouldn't it?

I stand by what I said. This should be the end of this discussion, its not all about you. This does nothing to help to OP. Porn, according the vast majority of people, isn't cheating and there is absolutely nothing wrong with watching it.

btw If you don't like people disagreeing with then I suggest you don't bother posting in future

[paul48]

i dont think its that big of a deal that hes looking at porn.

[paul48]

i mean, you do the same thing right? everyone does. its not a huge problem really.

[electricfeel]

IF the mom dosent know, then do you think she deserves a guy who can't be happy with her and has to look at porn?? No she dosent. Think about it like this, if you had a boyfriend, or girlfriend would you want them to look at porn?? Or would you want them to be happy with you? I know I would not want my boyfriend to look at porn..

[Jenna.]

I stand by what I said. This should be the end of this discussion, its not all about you. This does nothing to help to OP. Porn, according the vast majority of people, isn't cheating and there is absolutely nothing wrong with watching it.

btw If you don't like people disagreeing with then I suggest you don't bother posting in future

Its not all about you either. Not every guy is this insane horndog who needs porn, and some guys are actually satisfied completely with their girlfriends. :rolleyes: Anyway, you're not this all knowing person so please stop trying to act like one. I don't see why you hate my viewpoint on this so much, and why you felt the need to bring my relationship into it. Also, the reason the admin posted before was because my friend reported how you were attacking my opinion. So, don't try to act all innocent...I didn't start an argument with you, I only posted a response to something. I suppose what you want me to say is...I'm sorry I don't enjoy porn and I'm sorry I know people who dislike porn..?

[xhalie.]

jeez this still hasn't stopped? good god. o_o
not everybody likes porn. some do and some don't. some consider it cheating, others don't. end of story. people are gonna disagree. its not fair to bash their opinions just cuz you dont think its right. move on people. & im not just saying this cuz jen is my friend but the argument was kinda started with her. her bf was attacked, which was completely irrelevant, and thats why i said something about it.

[Sith Lord 13]

Its not all about you either. Not every guy is this insane horndog who needs porn, and some guys are actually satisfied completely with their girlfriends. :rolleyes: Anyway, you're not this all knowing person so please stop trying to act like one. I don't see why you hate my viewpoint on this so much, and why you felt the need to bring my relationship into it. Also, the reason the admin posted before was because my friend reported how you were attacking my opinion. So, don't try to act all innocent...I didn't start an argument with you, I only posted a response to something. I suppose what you want me to say is...I'm sorry I don't enjoy porn and I'm sorry I know people who dislike porn..?

You're still yet to justify why it's bad, wrong, or cheating, other than because you said so.

Do all guys look at porn? No. Do 99% of them? Yes. Honestly, I can't see the reason you'd not want him to look at porn, unless your sex drive is greater than his. The only time porn is an issue, in my experience, is when one chooses porn over their partner. If my partner has a higher sex drive than me, I'd rather she look at porn, than to feel like it is my responsibility to get her off when I'm not in the mood.

[Jenna.]

You're still yet to justify why it's bad, wrong, or cheating, other than because you said so.

Do all guys look at porn? No. Do 99% of them? Yes. Honestly, I can't see the reason you'd not want him to look at porn, unless your sex drive is greater than his. The only time porn is an issue, in my experience, is when one chooses porn over their partner. If my partner has a higher sex drive than me, I'd rather she look at porn, than to feel like it is my responsibility to get her off when I'm not in the mood.

I consider it cheating, as does my boyfriend. (I'll get to the link in a second) Neither of us look at it, and we're happy that way. We both have active sex lives (which each other obviously...no open relationship here) and don't feel the need to masturbate every day. I know for a fact that there have been other threads on this site about guys who don't enjoy masturbating much even though they're young, teenage guys. There's nothing wrong with that. They just aren't horny all the time like some are. Every guy is different. I'm not saying that guys who watch porn have something wrong with them. It's their choice. I'm just stating that I, personally, don't agree with the whole concept of watching it. Maybe I don't like it because I know guys that don't want to watch it. Or I just don't agree with how women are portrayed.
Now for the reasons why I feel porn is disrespectful...http://www.lightedcandle.org/pornstats/porn_is_bad.asp
If that doesn't suffice, tell me - I can definitely find more.

[The Dark Lord]

I consider it cheating, as does my boyfriend. (I'll get to the link in a second) Neither of us look at it, and we're happy that way. We both have active sex lives (which each other obviously...no open relationship here) and don't feel the need to masturbate every day. I know for a fact that there have been other threads on this site about guys who don't enjoy masturbating much even though they're young, teenage guys. There's nothing wrong with that. They just aren't horny all the time like some are. Every guy is different. I'm not saying that guys who watch porn have something wrong with them. It's their choice. I'm just stating that I, personally, don't agree with the whole concept of watching it. Maybe I don't like it because I know guys that don't want to watch it. Or I just don't agree with how women are portrayed.
Now for the reasons why I feel porn is disrespectful...http://www.lightedcandle.org/pornstats/porn_is_bad.asp
If that doesn't suffice, tell me - I can definitely find more.

These are completely irrelevant studies, conclusions drawn up by some feminist looking for equality and blaming men. Men are hardly portrayed with accuracy in porn as well as porn gives the impression that everyone has a 10" cock. You can't knock something that you haven't tried. The OP said her dad is looking at porn, would it be better if he cheated on his wife?

[rickcook]

that is sooooo true. im straight and if my gf caught me lookin at porn that would b the end of it between us. she would probably think that she isnt good enough for me......just as her mom does for her dad, probably.

[Sith Lord 13]

Now for the reasons why I feel porn is disrespectful...http://www.lightedcandle.org/pornstats/porn_is_bad.asp
If that doesn't suffice, tell me - I can definitely find more.

From that site:

(1) increased callousness toward women;

All of the studies listed show correlation, not causation. Correlation does not equal causation. It could just as easily be that people who exhibit these behaviors enjoy watching porn, as opposed to people who enjoy watching porn having a tendency to exhibit these behaviors. If you understand what I'm saying.

(2) trivialization of rape as a criminal offense;

See (1)

(3) distorted perceptions about sexuality;

See (1)

(4) increased appetite for more deviant and bizarre types of pornography (escalation and addiction);

So encouraging fetishes is bad? I would have thought the fact that porn encourages people to be more honest about themselves and explore what they want to do, though they may have been too shy to admit it was a good thing.

(5) led to a devaluation of monogamy;

And just because you choose to be monogamous means everyone should be?

(6) decreased satisfaction with a partner’s sexual performance, affection, and physical appearance;

See (1)

(7) doubts about the value of marriage;

So because you feel marriage is important, it means everyone should?

(8) decreased desire to have children; and

Is having children always a good thing?

(9) viewing non-monogamous relationships as normal and natural behavior.

Actually monogamy is not natural. Source (http://www.trinity.edu/rnadeau/fys/barash%20on%20monogamy.htm)

[The Joker]

Jenna, do you have a reply to my post?

[Daniel_]

Porn is unrealistic. No woman looks like that, unless they get tons of plastic surgery. It's pretty sad that in today's society, everyone makes excuses for men who watch it and act like it's not a problem in households when it actually is. It's been shown in studies that watching porn leads men to think that they are superior to women and that women are objects.

I disagree because I watch porn and I think that men and women are completely equal...

[Jenna.]

Jenna, do you have a reply to my post?

Which one? I stopped replying to this thread because it's just this huge ongoing fight and I really don't see the point of getting involved any more. I stated my opinion, if you guys don't like it, too bad.

[xhalie.]

Which one? I stopped replying to this thread because it's just this huge ongoing fight and I really don't see the point of getting involved any more. I stated my opinion, if you guys don't like it, too bad.


lol i love you jen. ♥ be the bigger person girlie

[The Joker]

Which one? I stopped replying to this thread because it's just this huge ongoing fight and I really don't see the point of getting involved any more. I stated my opinion, if you guys don't like it, too bad.


Jenna, I met a gay guy who told everyone...EVERYONE he knew that he wanted love, and that he found porn and sex disgusting.

Four days later he was telling me about how he wanted to have sex with me in a park.

Don't judge a book by it's cover.

That one.

[Jenna.]

That one.
I already responded to it in an answer I posted a few days ago but I'll respond again because it's quick and easy to explain...I don't find sex disgusting at all. My boyfriend and I have sex. We just don't like porn. It's not for everybody. If nobody disagreed about things like this, I think the world would be a pretty boring place because it would mean we're all the same. Just my opinion. But still.

[Sith Lord 13]

If nobody disagreed about things like this, I think the world would be a pretty boring place because it would mean we're all the same. Just my opinion. But still.

Gotta say I agree with you on that.

But do you have any reply to my post in which I dissected and discredited your source?

[xhalie.]

Gotta say I agree with you on that.

But do you have any reply to my post in which I dissected and discredited your source?

no offense, but that was a reeeeeally long response you posted. i doubt anybody is going to go through that entire thing lol. i admire your..what would i call it...dedication to this topic? but i dont think anybody else is going to try and address every single point you dissected purely for the fact that its so long.

[Sith Lord 13]

no offense, but that was a reeeeeally long response you posted. i doubt anybody is going to go through that entire thing lol. i admire your..what would i call it...dedication to this topic? but i dont think anybody else is going to try and address every single point you dissected purely for the fact that its so long.

All but one of my comments were one line long. The rest is quotes from the source she cited.

[Nevfx]

A lot of guys do this. I would only get worried if he seems to be hiding it TO much.

For example, my Dad pretnends he doesnt, but its so obvious he does. My Mom does not like porn and considers the Internet a "porn machine", so telling her that he doesn would make her VERY angry.

You just have to decide whether she could take it.

All guys look at porn. Im with someone and I still do.

[xhalie.]

A lot of guys do this. I would only get worried if he seems to be hiding it TO much.

For example, my Dad pretnends he doesnt, but its so obvious he does. My Mom does not like porn and considers the Internet a "porn machine", so telling her that he doesn would make her VERY angry.

You just have to decide whether she could take it.

All guys look at porn. Im with someone and I still do.

not to start up the argument again, but not every guy has the desire to look at porn. just saying.
and your post was a little confusing, so youre saying that she does know or she doesn't know...because if she hates porn as much as you said she does, wouldn't she be just as angry to know that your dad still watches it?

[Amnesiac]

What a ROTW-like thread. Interesting yet pointless debate going on here, I see.

In response to the OP's question, I don't think it should be reported. Porn is a natural form of sexual release. Husbands aren't going to be able to have sex with their wives every time they get "energetic". It's simply a way to relieve one's self. As long as this porn isn't interfering with family life, there's no point in making a fuss about it.

[Jenna.]

Just so everything is clear, I said before that I was done replying to the pointless debate in this thread and I was serious about it. This isn't Ramblings of the Wise, it's Family & Friends. Not exactly the place for debates, and an admin already warned us once to get back on topic, so I don't feel like dragging it out any longer. It's pointless and not helping the OP. Just saying. I'm done arguing with you about providing more sources Alex, so continue to negative-rep me, I really don't care. I shouldn't have to keep this fight going. I've moved on, if you haven't already noticed. I don't mean to be a bitch but I'm getting really sick of this.

[Christiaan]

So far as it bugs ya, better that he's lokking at fotos than our trying to find a g/f.

As far as what should ya do, allow him that privacy and mind yer own business!

In a marrriage, couples do funny things to each other. For example, many women learn to see as allowing their husbands to enjoy their company as a favour to be used in a carrot and stick game, to get what they want. So ya have no idea how often yer Da is being able to have sex with yer Mam. Again, that's not yer business, but ya need to know that there are other things that ya don't know about happening.

A good illustration is when we were up at the pub one evening and one of the lads asked another have ye tried Viagra yet? He answered, nah, it's terrible expensive and by the time it took effect, the wife wud claim she had a head ache anyway and I'd have to finish thje job meself! Everybody laughed but there was a bunch of the married lads who nodded their heads in agreement.

[Andrew0017]

Personally, I would tell him. I'm really close to my mom, so if I found out that my dad was disrespecting her in that way, I would definitely let her know what is going on. My opinion on porn is that it's disgusting and that it is cheating. (See my post in "Porn=eye cheating.") I've never seen it in my life and I have no interest. To each his own, but I really just don't see how it's appealing. :confused: And yes, this is coming from a guy. Living, breathing proof that not all guys watch porn. Shocking, right?

[The Joker]

I'm still confused at how it's cheating? Just because you have sexual thoughts, or seek to look at something sexual, that's cheating? How?

Would you rather the man not get out any extra sexual desires/frustrations and just fuck someone else?

[electricfeel]

Hmmm, now that i think about it ive kinda changed my mind about it being cheating.. If your not sexually active with the person then i think its okay for them to look at porn. Although i would never do that.. But if you are sexually active with them, then NO porn in my opnion isnt right, then it would be considered cheating. If i was having sex with my boyfriend and he was watching porn, i would break up with him..

[The Joker]

Men have sexual needs. I assume that you'd rather not be at his desk all day long, ready to give him a quickie whenever he has the desire for sexual pleasure.

[Kitty Purry]

Girls have sexual desires too...

[Abigballofdust]

I went through the same phase when I discovered my dad's porn collection...Some days after I found out my mom knew about it and didn't care...They are probably watching them together since it can heighten your libido...
You should not be so harsh and jealous. It's normal...

[guacamole24]

It sounds like one of those things that you would wish you didn't know. I know I would. I would just try to ignore it, because it's nobody but his business, and I'm sure your mom watches porn as well.

[jovien]

umm its probably just urges

[hybrid]

I just read through all the posts 'cause I have no life.

Well, that was entertaining!

Anyways, to be quite honest it's not your business. You shouldn't tell your mother over something trivial like that. That's just unnecessary drama right there. Plus, it can/may lead to separation. (Depending whether or not she cares.)