Can a three person/ 3-way relationship work?

[MakubeX]

So long story, short. My friend's sister , when i first met her (Her name is Michelle) she is Bi, and i have always find her attractive, the more i started to hangout with her the more we became good friends, it got to a point where it was like basically we were a couple, and Michelle would tell her friends that i was her boyfriend but without the sex. Michelle doesn't want to have sexual intercourse yet because I'm underage, she is 19 and I'm 17. All we really do is make out. I would sleep over at her house, since she doesn't like to be alone, and we would sleep in the same bed and everything. Recently, one of Michelle's friends (Veronica) from the 4th grade, found her on Facebook. Veronica,(also 19) is Bisexual and she told Michelle that she always like her so they became a couple. I'm a big flirt and so is Veronica and Michelle, so this three person relationship just started to happen. We all care much for each other. So, I'm about to be 18, in 8 Days! My b-day is in Sept 7. My question(s) is...

1) Can a three person relationship work?

2) What are thing we can do to make this relationship workout?

3) What are the dangers of a three person relationship?

4) Will things become different once we have sex?


also sorry for my grammar, I'm typing this in a hurry, because it almost time for my next class :D

[BOBBY HILL]

no, i wouldnt think so, but DAMN that would be hot

[Sage]

I recommend you look into this (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t1zSU7LjSDg), it should explain all your questions and concerns better than I could. But in short, yes, a 3-way relationship could absolutely work and there is nothing morally wrong with it.

[beedubs]

yes it can work. there was a true life about it. everyone needs to be understanding in the relationship

[Trickster]

Now a relationship could happen yes..but a functioning one may be difficult/near impossible. See the thing with relationship is that the competition is over, because you won the boy/girl. But now you have another person. Lets say one of them decides to get you something but not the other. Sparks jealousy because it although you may all care for eachother, you may actually be competiting with eachother. Im guessing you find one more attractive than the other and connect with them more, this could cause problems because someone will be left out.
To make it work... well id say you just have to show each equal and COMPLETLY equal affection. because they will probably talk about it and if you showed one more than another. it could be bad
I personally dont believe it can work, it sounds more like a fun thing not something serious really. Just like casual stuff you can do every so often.
If you do have sex, it will change things. Itll show more what they like. You like girls so this is heaven for you, but their bi so they may like you but they may like eachother more.
To sum it up, i think...were young once so why not try this. Hell go for it and try it but i wouldnt expect a real relationship outta this and nothing serious and deep. Just a fun fling. Since they like eachother im not sure you can really pick one if the 3 doesnt work out. So have fun, enjoy and be cautious

[Sage]

go for it and try it but i wouldnt expect a real relationship outta this and nothing serious and deep. Just a fun fling.
As someone in favor of polyamory, I take offense to this. Relationships between multiple people can be just as if not more so deeply fulfilling than conventional monogamous relationships. This is just as "real" as any other relationship.

[beedubs]

ahh thats the name of it polyamory. i knew it was something like that

[Contra]

I think it can work, but you have to trust each others, otherwise, jealousy can ruin it, for example. That is the main risk of it, in my opinion.
But it isn't the same as a two person relationship, so don't expect it to be like those.

[Billy15]

would three heads or three legs feel right? I don't think so.

[Giles]

I think that the relationship as a whole can work... but it would be a hell of a lot more difficult to keep together, at least at first.

[Sage]

would three heads or three legs feel right? I don't think so.

That's an incredibly ignorant way of looking at things. Comparing people to individual limbs is a poor analogy- especially given you only have one head, and that many creatures get by fine with four legs.

[Billy15]

Sage, you are absolutely right and I apologize. My answer was flippant and unfeeling and that's not normally like me. Geeeeeeze I've been in this narrow minded town to long, it's starting to rub off on me. I apologize to the op

[CuriousDestruction]

As someone who has seen poly relationships flourish, i can say with certainty that they can work. i have family friends who have been a poly relationship for 10 years, as a triad. yet i also know that they can fail miserably. and its a hard lesson to learn, trust me.

communication is the key to any relationship, here it is even more important. if you can't talk to each other someone will feel left out. but even more important is trust. that is the foundation of polyamory. you have to be open with your partners. and they need to be open with you. otherwise, it just won't work.

once you have sex it will get complicated but that shouldn't stop you. Sex in a poly relationship is still just sex. as long as you are using protection you won't have a problem.

the real dangers of a 3 person relationship is that first, you are involved with 2 people rather than one which is hard enough as is. also, for practicality, there's a higher risk of STD infection and pregnancy. but most importantly i think, is the fact that there are a lot of hearts that can get broken here. if you don't have stability things can get really bad really quickly.

[Sage]

the real dangers of a 3 person relationship is that first, you are involved with 2 people rather than one which is hard enough as is. also, for practicality, there's a higher risk of STD infection and pregnancy. but most importantly i think, is the fact that there are a lot of hearts that can get broken here. if you don't have stability things can get really bad really quickly.

In short, if you can't keep a monogamous relationship stable- a polyamorous one will not be easier by any stretch of the imagination.

[brennaluvv]

I think it could work but it'd be HARD.

[trackstar9.875]

In a word? NO