always fucking up.

[joey1]

so here is the thing I would love to get in a relationship with some who i love, but the problem is sometimes i can come off as shy and not really talk a whole lot, and what happens most of the time is that I'm too slow and other guys end up with her. Another thing is when i was concentrating on that one girl, i miss all the other opportunities right in front of me, and not knowing how to go back i just move on, and this is like a cycle for me really. happens quite a lot

[The Madman]

Welcome to my world.
I dont ask a girl out, im shy as HELL!
Take this girl, i was gonna ask her out, she went out with somebody else.

Im good friends with my friend ( DUH ) and we are in the process of going out. We are kinda waiting and that. She isnt ready at this very moment. All you do is make friends with them first,

[Art_dude]

Shyness is just something you'll have to overcome. It's difficult at first, but if you just try to challenge yourself to be more outgoing with small things (like making conversation in line with a stranger for example) then more difficult things like talking with someone you like will eventually become second nature.

Second thing you need to do is when you see an opportunity, go for it! Like you said, if you're to slow to act, someone else ends up with the girl you like.

And lastly you need to see the bigger picture. It seems like you know what you're issues are - you described them pretty well. It sounds like you just need to work on overcoming them. In this particular example, stop looking at the micro and look at the macro: opportunities are all around you, you just need the eyes to see them and the motivation to act upon them. I hope this helps :)