Sex double standards and your children

[ShyGuyInChicago]

1. If you had a teen daughter would you discourage her from having sex and even try to stop her form having sex?

2. If you had a teen son would you encourage him to have sex and even help him or at least be indifferent as long as he was safe?

[Obscene Eyedeas]

Tbh as a parent i wouldn't do either. educate them on sex and let them off to their own devices. state my opinion on the subject and answer questions. if you make a big deal of it they will too

Twpr :arrow: rotw

[huginnmuninn]

as long as someone they dating or having casual sex with aint 50 years older than them or something then i wouldnt care

[Amnesiac]

Meh, as long it's not some guy older then them.

I would even supply condoms/birth control, I guess.

[AutumnDae]

I don't want my teenage daughter sleeping around with random guys, but if she wants to have sex in a committed relationship then, that's her own choice. I'll supply her with birth control, definitely. If I think she's having sex, or she asks me, we'll make a doctor's appointment to get her on the pill. If she asks me for condoms, I'll buy them for her, or give her the money (Come on now, who wants to pick out their favorite brand of condoms with a parent?) to purchase them. If she wants to have sex, she will, no matter my opinion, so why not at least make it safe for her?

My son, the same thing. If he wants to have sex, that's his own choice. The same situation though, I'd rather not have him sleeping around with random girls (or guys, either way, same for my daughter and with girls) but if he wants to be active, then he can do so. I'll buy him condoms if he wants. I can't say that I would help his girlfriend get the pill if her mother doesn't approve though, I don't know if I could.

[Amnesiac]

I can't say that I would help his girlfriend get the pill if her mother doesn't approve though, I don't know if I could.

Yeah, there's probably some legal problems with that anyway.

I think a condom would be good enough for protection.

On a random and different note, we have to remember that VT is more... "liberal" on teen sex, mostly because we are teens, and that there's a whole world of adults that would disagree with us. Just saying.

[Cloud]

I would expect them to not be stupid about it,
id be open about stuff, but not to an extent where its just creepy,
also id expect to know the person their with before anything happens and if it seems likely then i would step in and either tell them to back the fuck off or supply contraception depending on their age

[Church]

I'd say to my daughter save yourself for marriage cause at that age girls do stuff and they end up regretting it, and for my son I'd say dont do something stupid and wear protection.

[DarkHorses]

I would talk to my kid/s about how I feel that you should wait until you know that you're going to be with someone forever because you want to first have sex with someone that you really love, and marriage is the one way to be sure that you're with the right person and that things are (more likely) to last. You shouldn't be serious enough to have sex if you're not serious enough to get married. I would try to get them to believe that, and I wouldn't be happy if they had sex, but I wouldn't do anything to forcefully prevent them from it.

[Sage]

I would encourage my child(ren), regardless of gender, to do whatever feels right. You are only young once, and I myself have never believed in this wishy-washy "wait for the one" hogwash. Casual sex can be deeply empowering for both genders, as it helps one overcome their insecurities and inhibitions without fear of judgment because there is no emotional attachment.

Of course, STDs suck, so they should still carry protection.

[Amnesiac]

I'd say to my daughter save yourself for marriage cause at that age girls do stuff and they end up regretting it, and for my son I'd say dont do something stupid and wear protection.

That's implying that people don't regret marriage, which they most definitely do. Where do you think our 50% divorce rate comes from?

It's a waste of time to "wait" for the right person at marriage, only to have it end up in an ugly divorce a couple of years later. Life is short, and sex is fun and natural. It's not something to be reserved for your "life partner", who you can't guarantee will be your life partner anyway.