Confused.

[Paladino]

I have confused feelings for my girlfriend, I think I still love her and all that but It doesnt feel right being round her, it feels weird to kiss and hug her. Im so confused about it. All day ive been thinking whether I should stay with her. What should I do ?

[Daniel_]

follow your emotions.

If it's hard to decide, then just wait, and don't do anything stupid until you see clearly.

[Paladino]

Thanks for the advice Im just so confused but Ill see what happens.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Honestly dude are you still with her?

[Paladino]

Yeah.

[Rutherford The Brave]

You gotta kick that to the curb dude, too much drama. Just go find a pretty little thing who you'll have fun with.

[Paladino]

Fuck knows what I should do man, im worrying about everything.

[Rutherford The Brave]

If its bothering you so much then it isnt right

[Art_dude]

ditto to what Winterfell said. How you feel right now is just further proof you clearly shouldn't be with her. If I remember correctly this was the girl that cheated on you? Pretty ruthlessly too if I remember? This girl clearly doesn't respect herself or you and your beliefs.

[Sage]

You two have broken up at least half a dozen times already. Let it go man, you're not doing yourself any favors.

[Contra]

If it doesn't feel right to be with her, kiss her and hug her, you should leave her. I mean, if it was really meant to be, you wouldn't feel that way, so my advice is for you to not sweat it dude.

[Paladino]

Sometimes I feel like I want to let her go but then I just cant. I love her too much to stop going out with her.

[Art_dude]

Sometimes I feel like I want to let her go but then I just cant. I love her too much to stop going out with her.

This is the danger of addiction. In Buddhism, we call an impulse to act on a craving "klesha." These strong impulses are at the core of our being and bring us so much pleasure we often bite the hook without even thinking about the consequences. The negatives of being with her clearly outweigh the positives: you know this. But the power of our kleshas keep us going back to the same place, often ending in more suffering. Dzingar Kongtrul Rinpoche had a great way of putting it, "it's like trying to pour kerosene on the fire in an attempt to put it out." It sounds like that's what you're doing right now.

I think if you can try to get outside of yourself for a second and look at the relationship as objectively as you can, you'll realize that more harm is being done than good.

[Break]

You will regret sticking with it if you don't feel right about it. Trust me.

[Paladino]

You gotta kick that to the curb dude, too much drama. Just go find a pretty little thing who you'll have fun with.

3 years later and I've found "the pretty little thing i'll have fun with" hahaha fuck sake.