Are these really my friends?

[blah_x]

I know its been quite a while, but anyways...here goes.

At the start off the summer two friends and I were going to a friends house party, we went to the town where it was a couple ourse earlier, so we could look around the shops. we sat in a park for a while, when the sun was out and we were all joking about. i was wearing a dress and my wrists were on show, but i had them covered in bracelets and a watch. however at some stage they must off slipped down my arm revealing some scars.
one of my friends asked in a concerning way, what happened to my wrists. i replied that i had fallen outside in sum rocks, blah blah.
i knew she didnt beleive me, but then she began laughing and made some snide remark like "Oh right,you sure you havent been slashing at your wrists, hahahahahah". that really hurt me, because she said it in a bitchy, belittling way. my other friend lauged aswell.
then later on in the evening she made two more remarks whilst we were at the party, the persons birthday, is friends with a lot off emo type people (sorry to label) and she was like "oh you will fit in well here,with those slit wrists, maybe yu could all sit together and slash together. hahaha". my other friends just stood there laughing aswell.

she has made various comments since, and lately we dont really hang because i dont beleive she is a true friend.
like, if i ever suspected one of my friends was SH i wouldnt take the piss out of them thats for sure.
am i right?

[Daniel_]

.... Please.. Make your text bigger hun, can't read it...

[suicidenote.]

i definetly thinkk she could have cooled down a little and been more helpful and concerning. i have noticed a few cuts and scars on my friends wrists before, of course i already knew she was doing it, but i didn't call her out like that and be a bad friend. even though i don't agree with doing that kinda stuff, she was going through alot and i didn't like seeing her down in the dumps. i tried talking her out of it, but she just refused my requests. so i just let it be and now she is wonderful (:

[Husker]

I wouldn't consider her a true friend...no true friend would tease you on a subject like that. Just forget about the both of them..By the way, what did you say back to them when they said the stuff they said?

[Daniel_]

You guys can read that text?? You must have the eyes of an eagle..

[blah_x]

there daniel...:D LOL
hey zach, haha.. i was just kinda like "oh right, yeah your funny, fuck off" yano the usual sarcastic yet jokey way. like i didnt want them to cop on to the fact that i do self-harm.

[DarkHorses]

Basically, you have two options.

The first option is to talk to your friends and let them know that you don't appreciate the self harm jokes, because self harm is a serious problem and kidding about it really gets to you. You don't have to tell them that you have harmed yourself, but if you simply let them know that you don't think it's something that should be joked about then they should at least try to respect that.

The second option, though, is to just forget about them, and look for friends that are more mature and understanding. It could be that they simply don't understand the severity of self harm, but mature people generally don't joke about things they don't understand. So you may be better off looking for someone who is a bit more mature.

Either way, good luck with everything. :)

[georgiamay]

Well, personally I wouldn't consider them a true friend. If that's the way she feels about people who self harm, then perhaps telling her would be a bad idea. Maybe first you could explain to her that it really isn't funny, and about the emo stereotype blah blah blah... and if she sees what you mean, maybe telling her wouldn't be a bad idea. I mean, clearly if she feels that way about the emo stereotype, i doubt she'd be friends with someone that fitted it, so perhaps telling her would make her see that "normal" (I hate to use that word :/) people can self harm as well. It did with my friend. She used to go round saying things like that, and now she's quite supportive.

But, if she doesn't be supportive, then just stay away from her, cause that means she's not worth it.

[Daniel_]

Thanks, I read it and to me, and I'm being blunt with you, they sound like a couple of bitches.

If I were you i'd just forget them and find more trust worthy and understanding friends.

[blah_x]

thanks for taking the time to read it guys and yeah its true they are a couple off bitches, im mean one off them is pretty important to me, the one who just laughed. but like the aint my only friends, i have people who genuinely care about me and dont joke about shit like that which is really inappropiate tbh.
i cant stand to be around here anymore i really cant. but if i stop talking to her she will want to know why and then what?? :?

[georgiamay]

well, if you really don't want to talk to her anymore, do it nicely and gently, and maybe then she won't notice. Just do it slowly, until you're hardly speaking to each other.
Don't be horrible about it though, because then she will want to know why.

[blah_x]

okay.. thanks for the advice :)